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Overview of Health and Energy

what is here like, what would you say? It feels like when you're not in an optimal health kind of position. Anyone Just throw out ideas. This is here. Low energy. Okay. Can you see this? Okay, this is here. Low energy. I am not a courses like procrastination and the inability to get things done. So procrastinate, low energy. Okay, this don't worry about my actual writing. Low energy. What else? What is here? Weighted down, Weighted down. Tell me what you mean by that. Just ah, just feeling like the weight of the world. Every every other thing that's out here is just sitting on your shoulders and just waited. Yeah. Yeah, really Good way to put it. I like that. Okay. Weighted down what else? So when you're feeling all those things, your immune system then start shutting down again, being sent you. Do you really think I am right now? Um, it's just a nice juices. Say, um, so sick. Easier. What else? Um, as a mom of three young Children. Yes. And just feeling completely overwhelmed most of ...

the time with basic meal planning. Every day. It's a battle. You know this kid, It's one thing this kid will need that, you know, and that, Not to mention what do my husband and I are? What are we gonna eat? So we have energy to keep up with these kids, for the idea of feeding yourselves in your family is just one more thing on top of already feeling overwhelmed. I sometimes feel guilty when I don't get myself taking care of each day. You mean like, just about you, about me? Yeah, I know that. If I don't take care of me, I can take care of everything else. Yeah, but I sometimes forget about me. That's so funny that you feel guilty about that. Isn't that ironic? It's It's I don't know, but no. Yeah, you got to take care of herself. Absolutely anything else? No. Okay. And then I would say also this idea that at the end of the day you are spent. This comes up a lot like I did all I could do today, and it was so much. And I'm so tired and just put this foot a year and miss foot here. So just feeling spent, that that's that's a lot of here and also recognizing the significance of health a priority. But when am I gonna do all that? But where does it fit in? So there there is. Where we're getting to. This is literally This is gonna be such a turnaround. By the end of day two were there. So there is here. Thing is going to be higher energy. So this is it. This doesn't mean miraculously, you're in the best mood of your life. 24 7 This just means you're getting way better at recognizing how to fuel your better roads. Physically, Energetically, from a brain chemistry perspective, this is having a much better understanding of how you make you operate optimally. And we're gonna dig into that. That's we kick off there. So there is kind of optimal moods, strong energy, feeling fit, feeling fit. This isn't like I have to win a bodybuilding competition, but I feel fit. This is knowing good, easy, quick meals that you can make that don't take a ton of time and don't require a lot of clean up deck chairs. Here, some murmurs of Amen. I was like, We're in church, Laura. On this is the space that having an idea that you've got it figured out. Part of what's what I see is the issue with most people. When they look at the health and fitness and food, it just seems like a lot. Seems like a lot to pin down. A lot to figure out this is this is the idea of having it sorted out in your head and a plan that really fits your life today, not what you have to get to before you could do the plan. So fits now aan den a ton more. So let's say so. How do we get there from here to there? Well, over the next couple days, we have built up a plan. This was put in mind. Every single thing we're gonna go through for the next couple of days was put together with the intention of you saying Great, I got this. I got this, I got this. I got this in the order. It's it's being run into. So first and foremost, we have to think about mindset. You have to figure out how to get above the noise. Everybody I know who's made a successful shift into a healthier lifestyle had to change their mind first it just It just has to start there you have to buy and mentally on, that means getting above the noise. What I mean by noise is the everyday obstacles that we put forward that we don't question that we just assume are there. So we're gonna talk about that right out of the gate. Next is motivation. How do you get you motivated? It doesn't matter How many other people are cheering you on. If you are not intrinsically motivated, it doesn't feel like something you want to dio. So Mindset, Motivation. The idea of willpower. Willpower to me is exhausting. I don't wanna have to spend every day thinking I will do this. I will do this. I will get that done. I want to feel like I'm willing to do it like I'm drawn to do it. I'm excited to do it. That's when it gets done. And it gets done in an enthusiastic, fun, fully changeable manner. So boosting energy, what are some tips? Some outright tips. Do this. This this Here's a schedule of how you can do it for yourself to boost energy all day long. Every day, A lot of tips around boosting energy. Just sound like kind of like, yeah, do this drink more water, etcetera. But if you actually build it out, the structure, your day, it could be incredible. The Payoff day today it's just an idea of not a discipline that you build, but a willingness and enjoyment. And in a way, you start craving these things food for fuel. We're gonna have Scott Jurich join us one of the all time, literally world's greatest runners of all time, just listed by Runners World. Some of the things his body has done is un really unbelievable, literally his accomplishments and what he's been able to do. He has to start with mind, but he has to fuel optimally. The man consumes 8 to 9000 calories a day when training, and they're all very well thought out calories. He considers exactly how everything goes together. What he puts together, I'll get into that a little bit more, but when he comes on, he's gonna talk through how to optimally fuel your body, and that is going to show us a cooking demo of exactly what he does. After that, we've got magic elixirs. This is my term for juicing and smoothies withdrew. Drew Connolly, who is, I believe in the house. Already he runs fit life TV. Transformational Specialist has a wildly popular show and Facebook page and number of social media properties. Super enthusiastic person who lives what he teaches. And just crazy high energy. He's gonna be a joy to watch and then retraining your taste buds. Are you stuck liking what you like? I'm gonna get your answer. No, you know, you're not. And a lot of us grew up thinking I don't like broccoli. You know, I don't like Brussels sprouts. That was me. For the longest time. One of my tips is hydration. So you won't see me drink a lot to say A girl drinks a lot. I dio the retraining your taste buds and becoming excited about new cravings. So look, I got all into this. I forgot my little sticks. Eso were food for fuel. We're juice inducing has gotten really popularly like a year ago. It was a freak thing still is very interesting. And now it's People are getting like the difference and fueling it. And then we've got so exactly how we do juicing how we do blending how we retrain taste buds and it's a walk through. It's not just like, hey, start toe like asparagus. It's a walk through. He has two books out now that I think we're to share with you, that are exactly these topics. So he's got a lot of detail here on day, we're going to do a profile in mindset and healthy lifestyle. Chris Brogan's going to join us. Why I like this is because not long ago, Chris, who is a man entrepreneur and a speaker and author and really well known, had a very different lifestyle, and the shift he's made had to start mentally. He had to get above the noise, But the physical differences he feels are crazy. So we're gonna talk about that because he was one who resisted this before. And lastly, we're gonna talk about family health, the idea of making it a habit for the whole family, and this is hilarious. How many people commented on this getting kids to eat their vegetables. It's hilarious how many people say, I cannot do this. This is so hard what our surveys show. It was like one of number one things. The cool thing is that Tamra has three Children from different. That's the way the world we're talking about those earlier and they all eat the vegetables. They dio dio this can happen. And none of them wanted to at first. So they were all, like, you know, dollars, man. So, yeah, So I have a lot of kind of tried and true methods that really do work on getting kids kids to eat their vegetables. And this is, by the way, that's just today. You're not the buckle in. All right? Where are we training taste buds. I gotta catch up with all these steps. Um, mindset and family. Then tomorrow we're gonna have Kathleen Putnam join us. She is a registered nutritionist, co owner of Nutrition Works. And we're gonna basically step through superfoods. You keep hearing superfood superfoods like, Okay, got it. But, like, how do you build a venture diet quickly and efficiently? And why do they matter? And it's one thing to say. Yeah, I know. I need to eat a lot of protein and fiber. It's another thing to recognize exactly the benefits in your body. You start getting that and you're like fiber be up like I want this. We're also to talk about the popular food. Jeffrey did not quote that popular food followings. I think there's a lot of confusion out there about like, Well, what's the one to Dio? Is it is it Metta trading? Is it paleo? Is it plant based? Is it? I mean, on and on and on? It feels like one day Atkins is the way to go the next day. It's like a dangerous thing. It's very confusing, like, what is the best way to go about this? She's gonna talk through just an explanation, an overview of all of them and then just saying, You know what? The end of the day, this is what you need to remember. This does not change. This is not a fad. Then art of cooking, optimizing comfort foods. I'm going to jump in the kitchen and literally show what I do at home. It's It's not a matter of let me show you how I cook. It's a matter of let me show you how I cook when I have to businesses three kids to dog a relationship on day. I don't have a lot of time for I want to eat healthy foods on my family, eat healthy foods. And I do not want to spend a lot of time in the kitchen afterwards. So how do I do it all quickly in, like, a pot or two? Then we've got fitness. Look at our trek up here. We're doing so well, then we have ah, fitness. We've got Steve Cam from nerd fitness dot com. If you haven't checked outside, it's really funny. He's gonna come in and say, Hey, even nerds could work out Great, Andi, So not a nerd, but he's gonna be showing us how you can exercise anywhere. There's there's no obstacles. There's no barriers. You don't need a gym. You don't even need weights. You just need your own physical body with you. And if you don't have that with you, then that's a whole different, of course. And then we're gonna jump into, uh, he's gonna have you guys come up and show you some easy things that you could do anywhere and make sure your body form works well and everything like that, and he's gonna reveal the secret toe happily happily exercise in your whole life. If you're somebody who says, You know, I like exercise. I tried it. I'm not into it. I didn't really like it. You will not be saying that the end of this two days, you will not be saying that you'll be saying I am. I am very much looking forward to that moment. I do not like exercise easier ways. We're gonna make this super easy. Easiest ways to cut calories, ever like easiest ways ever bare minimum and then building a new normal. We're gonna wrap this up. We don't want you coming out of this like, yeah, that was fate. I got inspired. That was fun. Anyway, McDonald's drive like, how do we have you coming out of here with a plan for yourself? A new normal. And then part of that staying motivated is the unbelievable amount of data in the downloads you wanna like. That's like that has been probably half of my course development has been just what's going into the downloads. Tell us about this and I'll show it. But this is a 56 pages 1 36 pages. There's another one that's pages from whole fitness thing. Overview, fitness mistakes people make and solutions from nerd fitness. We've never mind, which is like, Oh, my gosh. Recipes. We've got obstacles and solutions to exercise to overeating. Really simple plan, sample plans, fitness, fitness plan, creation. So this is included with the with the paid course, and it is just incredible. I am excited to go home tonight and read this on my goal there was I didn't want this to be something where this just seemed like it was so intense and there was so much on, but it was hard to kind of move beyond this. All right, so fitness and then staying motivated. All right. Wow. Okay, You can't read any of that because it's my handwriting. But do you see how we're getting there? It makes sense. Should we start? Okay. Any quick questions before I jump in? No. Awesome. Let's do it. All right. Health and energy. You guys will have your water. Sue. I'm gonna want you to drink a lot of waters. We take breaks every how long, So time it accordingly. So when I was in high school, I took a course called Health. This course is nothing like that. Course the reason why is that course was basically set up to say, Hey, this is how everything works in the body. This course is set up to say This is how you can make everything work for you but not good suit. I did that. Andi is true because in your current life you have a lot going on. Everybody's interested. This entire Siri's is like I know it's a priority. But when do I fit in? How do I do it? I know it should matter, but give me the hour that I'll dual this in like you don't have it. So this is designed Teoh fit in with where you are today. Maybe that means for you. You want to just simply feel better each and every day. Maybe it means that you need to find some motivation that lasts. That could be intrinsic. That is something you want. Maybe this means that you just want to lose some weight and you've been trying and you haven't gotten there. Maybe it means you try things that you've been closed to before, like exercise or certain foods or certain, you know, style of eating. It's very directed towards action and inspiration and steps so health. What is out? I talked about that. That course I took health is a state of complete physical, mental and social well being. And not merely the absence of disease or infirmity. Okay, that's the World Health Organization. I think they've got things to do or say about it. That last part, not merely the absence of disease or infirmity. That is it. That's the golden part. Health isn't just Hey, I'm not sick. Health is I feel alive and present and magical. And when I get home at the end of the day, I still have something left in me. I have time to rejuvenate and experience the people I love. One of the saddest things we lose by not feeling optimally healthy is that ability to connect with those we care about. Have you ever been in a situation where, like, you know what? I'd love Bill into this. I'd love to hear it. My kids are saying I'd love to have this conversation, but I'm out. Have you had this would be 100% agreement? Yes. Um so and I love that I'm the one doing this program because I am not a health expert. I am somebody who, for the longest time, considered the perfect road trip meal to be a box of whoppers, a bag of Cheetos and a Diet Coke. You know, I've been vegetarian forever, so I've been like, well, vegetarian. I'm really healthy, you know? But you know what? Secretary Cheetos? Whoppers, Coke, Oreos, Fritos on DSO That was and I grew up on Rahman uh, Capasa microwaved hot dogs with little cheese pockets in the middle Steak ums like this is this was kind of this was the of this. It's a pin stripe of extraordinarily processed meat like spam. Oh, and spam spam camping. It's fan eso. You know what I have found in my own life that worked for me is just the small, healthy shifts Over time I never had a radical a weakening. I never just said I must be healthy all the time. Now, Now I eat an entire plant based nutrition entirely plant based all whole foods. Hardly any process foods, hardly any sugar. And it's not like I'm against it like everyone smile. There's a cupcake. I'll make it look great, but it's just it's very slight, and I crave these healthy foods. I want these healthy foods. But up until, like seven years ago, I had a bowl of ice cream every night my whole life, there was a point of pride for me that I don't finish a day without a bowl of ice cream. That was a very long time of that. And I drank a six pack of Diet Coke forever, forever until I started realizing aspartame toxicity Israel and I started forgetting my name. Um, so s Oh, I love that I'm teaching this because I can relate to a lot of what people are saying. I don't have the pedigree of health, health, health. But I can tell you what will work for somebody who used to live the lifestyle I lived. So what's energy? We have a definition for health. Energy is harder to find. You just kind of you can see when someone has good energy and you can see when they don't. You can see when it's absent. In that respect is a lot like pornography. You know it when you see it right, feel free to tweet. That energy is just like pornography. But that's kind of what it is. It's hard to kind of define that way. But what you can dio is you can systematically create a situation where you are consistently creating higher levels of energy for yourself. You absolutely can do that. You are not like either high energy person or a low energy person. That's, I mean, the amount of times I hear people assume that I'm not really that person like, Well, what are you doing each and every day? Because that's gonna have a profound effect on whether or not you're a high energy person. A lot of what most people do, not just Americans most people around the world do is they start their morning off with caffeine to get them fired up somewhere around three or four in the afternoon. They've got a pile on the sugar to keep them going, and then at night they drink the alcohol to wind them down. That's that's one way of managing your energy. Of course it's away. That's also gonna bring around, bring around a lot of mood shifts, a lot of swings and how you feel lot of swings in your own intrinsic motivation, the naturally sustained way to keep energy we're going to step through, step by step about what you do every day. If you create a little plan for yourself and stop thinking about it and just follow it, you have a dramatic results in terms of what your energy level could be every day. I love you're nodding. You agree, right? Yes, yes. And yes, yes. Um, because the bottom line is, this course is called health and energy, but everything is connected. Everything. How you cannot be a healthy person, fully vibrant and have an extremely low, depressed energy. Just, I don't know a person like that. If there is, maybe have them right in and weaken, study them. And if you're having extremely poor health and really, it's hard to be like, Oh, let's go. I'm into it like it's just it drags you down. It's so connected on. It doesn't matter if we're going to be discussing the next couple days food or mindset or exercise or brain chemistry or your own resistance. It's all connected. You have to start with first of all, the food. The food is just massive effects so much, but also all those little things you do every day to get yourself in the frame of mind for change. There's a there's a military term called Overwhelming Force or rapid dominance. You know this. You know this Andrew? Yes. Basically, the theory behind this is if you want to get something done instead of doing a little bit, here are a little bit there. You do it all you go, you attack with full intensity. My concept here my my belief is that the small little shifts in your health add up to dramatic changes over time, and that's the way you sustain it. However, if you feel like you've been struggling with energy and mood in this and that, you can apply rapid dominance, overwhelming force and have a list of 10 things and doing every single day and notice changes within days, that will last you forever. It's pretty amazing how that can work in these sort of situations. Here's the noise. I want to get you above the noise. What is the noise? The things you say each and every day to yourself. These obstacles and barriers that get in the way of what we know does make us feel better. There's a difference between what we want, right now and what you want the most. Correct. I think this list I could come up with it with a pure level of understanding of each and every excuse, because this list here, you know, I don't like being uncomfortable. I'm not really spandex person. It's This is just how I grew up. Life's too short to give up my comforts. I don't have enough time. Sweat is gross. I don't know wine or treadmill. I am lifting iron. My spoon is iron. All of these things I have said at one point in my life or still continue to say this list didn't come from me pointing at you. Are you are you? This list came from me and my head in my resistance. That's how I built this. I said, What are all the things I've said that have put me between what I want right now and what I want the most? And it's a listing of all these things, like, What's the point? I don't feel like it. I don't feel like it is a big We're gonna be talking about feelings and how you can alter them a lot, So let's get above the noise that's rise above this and hit these as we go through any questions about this. By the way, any ads do all of these look like something that you have said at one point? It's funny watching the audience. They're like, um, it's just that those are the things it's that negative self thought that goes through our heads every single day. That's what people were saying in the chat rooms as well. Yeah, and it's just constant. Don't know about you guys, but it it is, it's It's very noisy up here. Yes, it's very noisy, and it's also very right. It's very much of the mindset of this is how it ISS on, because that's how it feels. So it is how it is for you. What I think is that when you have all this noise in your head, all these baked in reasons why you can't do this, Why you can't do that? The only person you have to get out of your way is you. Absolutely so. And mostly this is what it keeps coming down to right here. That's what everything comes down to. I don't feel like it. All right, so what? We're gonna do this When is now, like, there's no magic to Monday or January 1st or three weeks before your next reunion. There's no magic at all. Right now we're going to start the small, healthy steps. The next couple days, we're gonna have really healthy food brought in. We're gonna be doing some fitness things we're gonna be having after hours and Friday activities. We're starting win now. All right, We're basing on this premise when we talk about time. If you don't have time, it comes down to something as simple Is this If you don't have time to get sick, you don't have time. You don't. You have to make time to get B and stay healthy. That makes sense. Do you understand the inverse proportion? I say this to myself a lot. Like I don't feel like it. I don't have time, but I imagine in the next three or four days and just being felled, imagine a disease. Imagine a hospital stay. We've all had experiences like that. Like, what kind of time does it take when you have a major issue? Jane? What kind of time did it take for you? A second. Yeah, it takes like 4 to 6 weeks to recover from anything major, even minor. I mean, even, you know, Steve got sick after a trip to the Dominican. It took him three weeks to get better. So it's three weeks. He wasn't participating in our family and our business. And that's a lot. Yes, absolutely. And then, of course, there's the expense. And there's all that. I think, a lot of unnecessary. Calculate all these things and calculate the time. Calculate the money on, and then the lost work hours and the lost time like living when you're feeling down, you have to make a decision when it comes to money. One of the number one things I said in the slide earlier. A lot of people say eating healthy is expensive, right? Eating out is expensive. When you check out at a natural produce store and you look at that receipt, you're like what? How many bags, how much it's expensive. My suggestion and this is something I did for myself and my family a long time ago. It really, really helped, is to make a decision one time about this. Are you going to invest in your house? and consider it that it's an investment. And if you take everything out of it, if you take out how you feel every day and what it feels like in your body, great foods. If you were to say I don't care about that part of just looking at the money, you would still save money by buying more expensive, pricey foods now that are good for your body, that organic, that our whole foods, then all of those hospital bills from the heart attacks and the diabetes and the all the lifestyle related diseases and the medication that you have to spend to control these issues that come about because you eat cheaper foods. When you eat cheaper foods, cheap things happen to your body that end up costing you a significant amount of money. Like I would. I would encourage you to sit down and do an exercise on this, like, right up a little worksheet and say, What does it cost for two bags when I check out of use a brand name, check out a whole foods, I get to two bags of groceries and it costs me $120. How is that possible But has that compared to a $46,000 bill for checking into hospital for your heart attack or the stent that you just got put in? Yes, I can refer to that. I know of heart attack cost me over $100,000. 10,000 which had to pay myself because insurance doesn't pay for it. Yes, and now let you buy whole foods much better. And I enjoy better. Yeah, and it's cheaper. It's cheaper. Yes, I'm so glad you're still here. So if you take health completely out of it and you just look at it from a financial decision, it is absolutely financially worth it to make the investment in the food choices that you eat each and every day. Do we all agree? Do you see it? Does that make sense? Are you committed? Don't stress about each and every time. Don't sit there and look at two tomatoes and saying, Why is this tomato $8 more? You know, why is this bag of food from McDonald's dollar 99 and this is financially is a better choice. Your investing yourself and you're and you're basically creating a savings plan that minimizes the threat of this later of this financial downfall later. So I mean, we all hear this over and over again. How many people were wiped out financially by issues? Yes. And I think you're also, aside from savings, you're also creating an amazing return on your investment day today. Like you got to Yeah, the vibrancy, the vitality, Yes, the energy that you can put into your work and your family. It's Yeah. I mean, one of the excuses back There's Life's too short. I don't feel like it. Well, life's too short, and David is the only way we experience it. Yeah, and part of things I think some people know. Yes, I know it'll feel better. I know look better. You know, it's a smarter choice, but we keep getting tripped up on expense and organic produce. Technically, if you actually looked at it, organic produce is not more expensive. It's about what it costs to grow it. It's just not subsidized, you know? Unfortunately, Rahman and corn syrup, it's subsidized. No offense for all the Rahman lovers out there. All right, so So as we dive in, I just want you guys to take a minute literally to write a note. And just what do you really want your with is your health, your weight, your energy, your fitness level, simple statements. What do you want for your health? This is something we're going to just say. This is this is it that star starter point? This is what we want to commit. Teoh, Is it that you want to run a local five K race? Is it that you want to be at a certain weight? Is it that you just want injured A and not be taken down by exhaustion? Do you want to be able, Teoh actually feel vibrant and alive and engaged in conversations you're having? Do you not want Teoh run into more medication issues or whatever the case may be? Whatever it is, what do you want? And I'd love for people to do this at home too. And do it online. Just put out a sentence like, yeah, this is what I want. You got it. You got something down. Right? Good. All right. Now that you know what you want, here's my question to you do all your brains agree? And this is important because we have three major parts of our brain. Just call them brains. They're all gonna be their own brains. All these parts of your brains have to agree Each and every time you make a decision, I am such a fan of brains like I love reigns. I talk about brains a lot. Brains matter to me. I gave a talk at the beautiful wet if conference where we discussed the idea that you basically you're not your brain and have had a separate the thoughts that come in from what you're actually experiencing. In this case, this comes into play hugely in terms of each and every time you have a decision, point your brain's way in and it's typically three brains. It's your cerebellum, Belen, which is your instinctive part? You guys have heard of Europe Tilly in party or brain, the reptilian party arraign limbic system, which is the emotional party of brain and the neocortex, which is the thinking, the logical that the reasoning part of your brain and say a choice comes in. You've committed you know what you want, right? So it's a choice. Come in, comes in and maybe maybe what your answer was I want to feel better each and every day. And I want to fuel myself with great foods and someone walks up and they say, Hey, you want this, cupcake? You have a decision point. You're looking at this beautiful, shiny cupcake. And what's happening? You got three decision points. Three brains are weighing in. You've got your cerebellum, your instinctive part, which is Europe tilling brain and you reptilian brain says. But that that's what happens for me. I see it in my room. Put it in the limbic system, your emotional brain. This part varies. We're gonna get to this in a little bit. But this part very sort of come back near torque, the New York cortex, thinking logical reasoning. That's what you just decided when you wrote down what you really want. That was the part of you that says, No, I do not want the cupcake cause it's not gonna add to me feeling good each and every day it's got processed sugar and all the saturated fats, and that's not what I want in my body. So no. So we have here a move we haven't? No. And then we've got that middle part. This is the part that's gonna vary widely, wildly and widely based on how you feel. If you are feeling energetic and you've gotten some great results likely, and you see the change in your body and you and you have an uptick in emotion and enthusiasm and everything's great and someone says you on a cupcake, you might feel, actually, no, no, no. I want to keep this going. The answer is no. And what happens? Two out of three Brain said no. And the answer from you is no. On the flip side, maybe your dragon and you're tired and it's been a rough day and you kind of feel like you got beat up on a little bit here, there, and someone walks up and says, You want this cupcake? And like, Oh, cupcake, making feel so much better. I want the cupcake. Yes, very much. I want it. You say Yes, Two out of three brains agree, and you go with yes, So here's the most powerful thing this is. This was a realization to me that was so impactful. It's something that I discovered in my own life because I kept saying, Why is it that sometimes I'm tolling on, and it's not even hard it all. And other times it's a struggle. And I lose, I realize, because it always came down to how I felt so emotionally based choices, whether it comes to I want the cupcake or a do or don't want to go out for a walk right now, that emotional part of your brain, that third brain, that's the deal breaker each and every time. That's the one we have to look at. And we have to basically keep our eyes open and say, How do we get that one on our side? When you make a decision, you make a decision that says, You know what? January 1st my news resolution is I'm going Teoh exercise every day and I'm gonna eat super well. And by January what is it? 27th. There's an actual day where all the resolutions run out, Whatever the day is, Why would you make that commitment? Aren't you 100% sure that you're gonna do it? What do you think? What in you thinks I'm gonna try? What do you think? Is it experience is that you're just not super sure when you make a resolution, but you're not 100% sure you can do it. You're just gonna try? What do you think it is that holds you back from knowing without a shadow of doubt that you're gonna commit and do it past experiences? Oh, yeah. Past experiences with resolutions that possibly didn't come true. Right? So you so s so what I hear you saying is, you know, yourself and in the past, you haven't been able to do it, okay? It's a fear of failure, fear, failure. You don't put it out there and be wrong and fail, even if the only person you'd fail is you okay for me, I find it's, um, feeling too excited gets without a plan without an actual actionable plan. So if I feel too excited that I can get it. But I don't have a national plan. I know that it's gonna fail already or else my plan will be really big. Really huge elaborate plan that you want to dio how you're gonna do it, right? Yeah. Okay, so So I think what a lot of people are saying. What I experienced was the reason that I think I might fail is on any given day at any given time I don't know what I'm gonna dio. That's my barrier. I can't count on me. I really cannot tell you what I would dio if somebody offered me a cigarette. I want to quit smoking and it's 10 o'clock at night and amount of patio. It's kind. And this is when I always get a cigarette. I don't smoke. By the way, I just using that, Um, in those moments, I don't know what I would dio that is. That's my biggest challenge. I can't count on me. Isn't it kind of powerful? Recognized, like That's the only thing stopping you is you just don't know what you're gonna dio. So I want to talk about the life, power, life changing power of positive emotion. And before you hear that is like, hey, be positive. Like that's my message. Yes, I actually think you should be, But that's not the message. The message is how do you make positive emotion get you on your side? How do you win you that deal breaker? That emotional part, which really is the decision point. How do you get that working for you? You guys with me so far. Fascinating. Right? Right. All right. So this is what I think first and foremost and not just what I think. What research is backed up first and foremost, Most major changes where you say, Let's do it. Most of them come from some sort of rock bottom situation like you've hit rock bottom and rock bottom varies. For some people, it might be a heart attack, right? For others, it might be hitting a new 100 number on a scale that you never want to hit. Maybe it's having a child and feeling suddenly terrified that they're gonna pick up your habits. For others, it might be watching a friend go through ah, threatening disease or a massive lifestyle related threatening diagnosis having to turn down work you'd love to do because you knew at the end of the day you wouldn't be able to do it physically. Do it. Have the emotional and busy ism for it, blacking out, missing out on one too many things, not being able to get out of bed for days at a time. Because you feel so down these air, all variations of people's rock bottoms, rock bottoms are a wonderful way to get you started to kick you in the pants and get you started on to something new. But they're terrible ways to keep you going. Rock bottom doesn't keep you going. What keeps you going is the results you see and the changes you feel and how much better things were going. And so if you want to get your emotions on your side, you need to think about the Burbage in your head. We talked about all that noise in your head, right? You have to think about what you're saying. If you're saying I have to quit drinking or I'm gonna lose my job, that's maybe that's rock bottom. That'll get you so far. But after a while, you have to switch that and say, I love how confident I am at work, how respected I am. People love the work. I do how financially secure I am. I love this job. You have to switch it. You have to go from saying I don't want to lose this, which is all negative and scary and scarcity. And you have to go into overdrive of positive motion. You have to focus on what you do love these little shifts, Get your emotion on your side. When I said someone offered me a cupcake and, um and if I was in a low, sad mood, I just wanted some sort of comfort. I want it. But if I feel so good about my changes and I feel so good about the upside and I'm looking towards that each and every day, I'm going to make different decisions. Does that make sense? Yeah, because it because it would be like you're hurting yourself. If you're making that bad, this is right. And when you come from that positive place of self love, it's like, Why would I want to do that to myself? I know that will hurt me in some way, but what's interesting is you actually have to say it because you can say, Yeah, yeah, I know it's a good theory, but you actually have to say it like like almost out loud, in anodyne, embarrassing way in public, like the waiter come out. What, you like this extra butter? No, I love myself. Basically, you have to actually get yourself in the frame of mind because otherwise it's just too hard because that instinctive brain is pretty powerful. So it's the idea of turning away from the negative statement. So if I said to you guys, nobody look at my shoes right now. Nobody I said, Nobody. Look at my shoes right now. No, do not like my shoes right now. So either you're trying so freaking hard not to look at my shoes, which are adorable, by the way, You're trying so hard not to look at my shoes or or you look at them, you sneak a look at them. Either way, I've made it something that you weren't even considering before. You didn't care about before, but now it's all you can think about dough. Look at our shoes. One tomorrow. It's the same thing with the cupcake. I don't want the cupcake. I don't want the cupcake. Instead, it's got nothing to do. The cupcake. It just has to do with how you feel. These were kind of just ways toe actually get yourself into a positive mindset. So if you're consciously getting your brain that emotional brain to come down on the side of what you want most at most each and every time you get asked, and the three brains way in you, that much more possibility of choosing what you do want the most? Does that make sense? Yes. Any questions on that? Is that pretty straightforward? Or is it is it? Is it kind of a lot at once? It straight boil it straight forward, but I think it it also takes a lot for that to sink in. That and actually that, Yeah, be committed. Teoh. And that's why it's something. And this is what I started doing. I would get home after a long day at work. Maybe I just read a post online that I didn't like. That kind of bummed me out. I'm not feeling so good on by Sit down and I get the kids to bed and everything's done. Dinner's done and I sit down and I'm like Like, that's how it feels. It feels like what more does the world one of me, like I did all I can. I was responsible to all these people, and I did all these things and I didn't as best I could, and several people were even nice to me today, and so now I'm sitting down here and in my head. There's this chart that I have to go exercise. I don't get any Actually today I know exercise makes me feel better. But when you feel like that, it's the last thing you want to dio. That's the irony. So the mental exercise has to be not. The last thing I feel like doing right now is getting up and exercising, which is there are natural internal statement. Our natural internal statement is the last thing I want to do right now is exercise. So it comes from that mental exercise before the physical exercise. Well, the mental exercise always mindset is you sit on the couch, you feel that way and you say I love what a boost I get from just a simple small walk. I love how everything just suddenly gets better. My might. My mood brightens. I love that they just slowly moving my body just a little bit could make me breathe better and drop all this stress. Imagine the messaging of that in the exact same situation. Those two messages, right? Do you feel the difference? And if you've done it a couple of times, you know that how true that is, and it's a gentle statement. It's not. It's not. I will, I will. I will. I will get up and work out. I will be disappointed. It's like I just love how much better I feel when I do that. So it's constantly thinking, How do I get these emotional, this emotional part to say I want into and your decision making changes radically and consistently. So I just want to read out a couple of comments from online for you. Tamara. The lucid path says I've found that making my decisions beforehand and giving myself a default mode has been very helpful. Yes, since the switching. That default? Yes, yes. Making a plan for it and not making so many decisions every day saying that's what I will be doing, right? Absolutely. We're good. Good. Okay, so this is cut part. Kind of going back to the idea of knowing how you work. If you know how you work, why you tend to make certain decisions in certain situations. Okay. Why do you make certain decisions in certain situations, you can actually take back control this concept that you're just a victim to cravings and fatigue and lifestyle lifestyle choices that seemed out of your control is technically a false one. And I'm not doing like a haven empower. You cut a message. I'm saying it's actually completely false. It's being stuck in this framework in our head that says, the last thing I want to do is get up right now. The only thing I want right now is to look at tomorrow. Shoes eso You have an incredible, incredible ability to control your choices each and every time. This idea of self responsible self responsibility. A lot of people hear this and think self responsibility. Great. So I've got to do one more thing right, like self responsibility Sounds like like you have to be in charge and take control of things and and make the right choices and be a good little person. No self responsibility means this. I'm not gonna fall victim to what everybody else says I've got to do or how I feel or any any sort of whim I have at any given moment. It means I am going to make a choice each and every day to change things. All right, so disciplined willpower, discipline, discipline will power comes from the left brain. We know a lot about left brain. Right brain, right? I'm still in brains, right? Let me tell you why I love brain so much. Brains control everything. Look around this room and watch anybody. You see, nobody's doing anything without the help of the brain. Nobody, Nobody online. Nothing. Nothing here operates this. Right now, my brain's doing this like brains. Air fascinating. And we take them for granted. Like they're just things in my head. And they're kind of creepy looking. And zombies eat them. But brains are fascinating because we have an ability to control them way more than we think. That's what I really want to get across in this first section. We have so much ability to contrarian to control our own brain patterns. If we look at brains, we think about this in business terms. Your left left side of your brain and your right brain. Right? We know a lot of this. The left of your brain is logical. Analytical. Present day. The right side of your brain is innovative. Creative. It's all about future possibility. Where do you think we want to be when we're making these decisions? These new decisions where we're getting our own Selves on our side. Where do you think we want to be? Pop quiz. What would make more sense? Because left brain is like discipline, right? It's control. It's like this is what you dio. I think you want to be in a place where you're not feeling like it's all about will power and scariness, you know? Yeah, you want to be in the creative like Hiss. Yes, let me. Yeah, this will be great And I think that flies in the face of a lot of what we learn. What? I took a health course when I go online, I keep hearing that I've got to try harder. That's what I keep learning. I keep learning that I've got to try harder that I've got to be more discipline, that I've got to get my crap together. Keep saying that. That's what I keep hearing that's that's left brain that's rigid. That's will power. That's discipline. That's logic when in fact, most research shows that going over to right brain is where it's at. So let's talk about that. The second, um, left brain, I have I have a dear friend of mine who has been trying to change her health for about years. Every day there's always a new plan in a new idea about how it's gonna turn around on gay. There's always a slip. And if you were to ask her anything about weight loss or health or fitness, she literally has degrees in exercise science. She could tell you anything. She has so much data and so much knowledge, and she's so smart. So in that respect, she's very her left brain is out of control. Fantastic. And that's what happens We have. We collect all this data, we collect all this information. We know if you read the magazine's top 10 tips on how toe etcetera. You know, all this stuff, you know, drink more water, you know, take the stairs instead of the elevator. We know us for stuff. That's that's the part of our brain, basically controls current day. That's the part of our brain that says over here real quick on a jump of I'm gonna jump forward for a second. The left part of raise the part that says I will I will get up at this time. I will work out. I will eat the right foods. I will do this. I will do that. That's completely left brain. The right side of our brain is will I? So this is where we open it up to willingness. Like, will I get up? And will I invest that myself? And will I change the way I eat and exercise and move and drink water? Does this make any sense? All right, I'm gonna jump back here again, because this is important. Willpower versus willingness. If you can shift everything that you dio to be in this frame of mind of, I am willing to do it. I want to do it. I'm excited about it. This kind of changes the whole game. When we go through our step by step process of these decisions, we make each and every day. This is where we are. Do you have a question? Yeah. Okay. All right. Just like this. Okay. So I want to jump back to So I got very excited about left brain, right? Brain desire, probing the idea of Let's take us back to the couch. This came up time and time again when we did surveys ahead of time when people said, What do you struggle with the most? What do you need to tackle? What is the problem? It kept coming back to the end of the day. That's when the energy was the lowest. That was when the resistance was the highest. And that's when the least desire to do anything more. You guys relate to that. So at the end of the day, when you're sitting on the couch and you're trying to figure out which I don't know why I keep having something Couch Does anybody not sit on a couch of the other day? What do you? The other day, Isley meditated. Read a book Meditator. Read about. Look, make sure you eat something good. That's very good. You're never the couch. No, I helped is really uncomfortable. I'm house sitting on couches. Uncomfortable. No TV. Yeah, that's funny. Think that's why that's funny? Because he kept saying that over and over again on the couch on the couch. And I'm asking this for a reason, because I'm gonna visualize this on the couch. We're gonna do a little bit of an exercise. We talk about this desire, probing which, gosh, that sounds so weird now that look at it this way. Sorry. I sit around a table with a glass of wine in my hand, just talking about how yeah, there's not enough time in the day and trying to push the kids off to bed and then just go straight to bed. You come home, you make food to get the kids to bed. You said there was a glass of wine and then you crash, right? Yes. Got it. Okay, so and just have Pam Hawkins in the chat room set was saying, I get home and just stop. I'm so mentally exhausted. I am a zombie on the couch and I hate myself as I sit there. Then I zone onto the TV and then I go to bed. What's remaining? Pam Hawkins. Let's Simpson love to her. I hate that. I hate that. I hate that. I don't like Yeah, well, good. I want I want to reach her. I have a Lobo, the opposite where I'm so wired and excited. By the end of the day, I have more than getting out of the bed in the morning. That's where I really struggle. And then I have to have my two cups of tea and then I have a baby and then I finally get going. And then the time the baby's gone to bed, I've had my my team, my Diet Coke, and then I'm all energized and into being awake at night. And then I have a hard time falling asleep because I'm so jazzed up in the morning. I'm exhausted. Yes, yes, And that's part of the problem with the artificial stimulation of all that isn't just that. It's not natural. It leads to so many mood swings and crashes, crashes that come on with it. Well, you know, I think it's important. Teoh kind of visualize where you are. So wherever you are at the end of day with your meditating, you're at the table with your here wine. I'm with bottles and bottles of wine to sit there and say, What? What, what, What is tripping you up right there? Maybe it's not that you don't move, but maybe you're having late night snacking and stuff. When you start getting into this, why versus what? The left brain would get up and see maybe some fresh baked cookies in the kitchen around 10 o'clock at night and say, Well, I'm gonna go over there and eat those because I see them the once that's happened, Once the problem has happened, you've got the left brain saying why it's data gathering. Why did that happen? But what does it sound like in your head? Why can't we stop eating so much? Why don't I feel like exercising its It is in a why hopeless situation. Present day is kind of hopeless. Its data. It's information. This happened and I'm kind of stuck. That's where it happens. We put everything in the left brain when we move over to right brain. The question in your head is not why. Today the cookies. It's what kind of new. Next time it's gentler. It's kinder. It's not living in past day. It's all future possibility. It's all future oriented. What could I do next time to not eat? The could get 10 o'clock tonight, Maybe not put him on the counter, maybe shut the lights off earlier in the day. Maybe brush my teeth right after I finish eating. There's a lot of things you can do, but your brain gets stuck in this thing where you feel like you know, Why did I do it? Probably happen again tomorrow. So moving over to literally saying that question every time you hear yourself say, Why, What? What can I dio next time? And it just gets you in this future oriented state. So the willpower versus willingness I just make one more thing on this will power. A lot of people think they're the same thing. Well, I talked on this a lot. Willpower, verses, willingness. I try to shift most things ideo into a state of willingness because I suck it willpower. And if you looked at my life, you might think that I'm very disciplined because I could. I get a lot done, but it's because I'm willing to do it and doing things that I want to do, and I get an output that I want. Willpower is rigid, rigid and disciplined. Just keep saying that rigid and disciplined. I don't want willpower I don't want well, it's the opposite of what a lot we learned when we grow up is to be in control and have willpower, because willpower runs out every day, your will power runs out and it's not just food choices or fitness choices. It's, um I don't want to make that nasty comment back that person online. It requires willpower not to do it. I don't want to snap at the kids. They're being really loud and drive me crazy. I'm now taxing my willpower. I don't wanna tell my husband or boyfriend stop chewing so loud because I know it's rude, but he won't stop crying so loudly. It's willpower. And so by the time you get to this is where evenings come in a lot. By the time you get there, your willpower has run out. That's not just a concept. It's actually measurable in scientific study after study, so willingness is inexhaustible. That's what's so beautiful about the definition. Willpower and willingness. Willingness is finite. It runs out. It requires a lot of control. Willingness is infinite. It's inexhaustible and it's gentle and it lasts and lasts and lasts and lasts. Unless it's a powerful difference. In terms of how you see things, will power is left brain willingness is right. Bring. Does that make sense? We got that. We're all gonna be thinking about willingness. Do you need any more examples about willingness does that make sense? You get it? I really got over it. Okay, so last point on all of this about willpower, willingness, and being more gentle on yourself and enthusiastically embracing these shifts and changes is make less decisions each day. Decisions are willpower. Decisions. Where am I gonna eat? I want to get the right place Winner, Megan Exercise. Maybe in the morning. In the afternoon. I gotta figure out what to do it. Am I gonna drink enough water? I got to get up and go get a freakin water. Like these are decisions you make all day long, and they tax you. One of the best hints over that everybody gives all the basic experts on health and wellness is in the weekend. Maybe it's Saturday and Sunday night. Sit down and plan your week just like that. Make it your default thing. This is what I mean. Eating each and every day. This is what I'm gonna do physically, each and every day. I'm not saying that you are bound and determined toe have to do all that again. Now we're gonna get into willpower, but have a plan and don't think about it. Try to stop thinking about it. The idea of you know, don't Don't think about my shoes. Don't think about the cupcake. Don't think should R, Shouldn't I? Each and every day. Most likely what you do is you wear yourself out and you end up not doing it. You make the poor choice because you're emotionally run down because you killed your willpower. It's this endless cycle, So try to make less decisions each day and sit down and have a plan of what you're gonna do each and every week we actually include a plan in the downloads. That is something that's really simple, that you can make with some kind of hints and overviews. You set it up in each and every week. It's just a fresh one. It's a new one. Other decisions that actually really help you out Arctic eat less variety of foods. Now that sounds kind of crazy because most nutritionists say, eat a lot of varieties of foods, but that doesn't mean that you have everywhere from like every single night is a different dinner. Every single day is a different lunch every single morning, like pick two or three and just keep repeating them and have your variety coming with your awesome juices, and you and your fabulous extra ingredients may be in the homemade dinners, but for the most part, stick to a few and make less decisions. Tax yourself less.