Tips for Male Boudoir Photographers
I get a lot of questions and I have been saying hearing feedback, you know? Well, what dough ideo If I'm a male, you know, we have the disadvantage in the boudoir industry being male, and I'm not gonna lie. Being female does have an advantage. However, I feel like your work is going to speak for itself whether you're male or female. Photographer. So how? Not to be creepy. So do you hear that all the time? Like I'm a male photographer? How do I not be like that creepy guy? And the answer is simple. Don't be creepy. So, throughout all of the posing demos that I've been doing through this workshop and I'm talking about connection, I'm talking about interaction. A lot of it has to do with putting yourself into that confidence space. And we know what the power posing we do all that. I recommend the same thing. The energy that you are sharing with your your client. When you're interacting, they're gonna feel that they're gonna feed off that. So you're leading the session with your energy. Yo...
u're coming into a going I hope I'm not the creepy guy. Then you're gonna come off as a creepy guy, so you need to just get rid of that. There is no creepy guy in art, your artist. You're creating art for your client, their commissioning you to do that. I think that, um, as far as giving them options to be comfortable. If you're a male, it's It's, in my opinion, better if you can just have you and your client in the room so you don't have any distractions when you're interacting. However, if you're a male, you want to be able to give your client that option of having someone else in the room. For example, you can have a female makeup artist, and you can give them the option tohave that female makeup artists in the room while you're shooting kind of like when you go to a doctor. And if it's a male doctor, they have a female nurse. Come in same thing and you know it. Once you get going and they start to get comfortable, you can ask care or you Are we cool? Do you? Do you want Teoh? Let her leave the room. She can stay whatever you like. If you don't have a female makeup artist, or they still don't feel comfortable that because it would be a stranger, you can all also offer them the opportunity to bring a friend. It's something I don't do again. I don't like distraction, but if they want to bring a friend in, you can have the friends sit in there. And then once they start getting comfortable, you can ask if it's OK if the friend goes into the next room. So they're still there. They're still accessible. You can leave the doors open. Don't shut the door. Um, there are things that you can dio and what I would do is I would offer these things in your materials before clients book. You can put it in your F A Q. You can put it in your policy, and you can put it in your session information packet. So that way you're disclosing everything. They have options. And also, you know, if you're someone who when you're posing, you know I may need to start to touch your style. I may need to fix your wardrobe, these things you can let them know ahead of time. These are things I may need to do. I mean, it mean, maybe to fix your bra strap or whatever, and then just know that, you know, as you're interacting with the client that you're letting them know everything that you're going to do before you do it. Okay, I'm gonna come in and your bra strap is twisted, so I'm just gonna go ahead and I'm gonna fix that. Is that okay? I'm gonna go ahead and touch people assure, Okay, Whatever, you know. So once you're in there and you're doing it once the clients there, they're gonna just all that stuff's gonna melt away. But you can take care of a lot of it on the front end. And so again, male or female, it doesn't matter. Your work is gonna speak for itself. So learn all the tools, the techniques, the resource is everything have the bright energy share, though the right energy. And the client wants beautiful images. If your work is better than anybody else's, she's gonna choose you. You just have to present that right? If you're coming from a place where my works awesome. But I'm afraid I'm gonna be that creepy guy. I wouldn't choose you. So you need to be confident yourself confident your work and your client will be confident. Teoh. Yeah, if you don't mind, like winning things that I've been thinking about right along those lines is the importance of just communication just being open and honest about what you're doing. Like there's some people who just reading body language. I won't adjust a bra strap. But I'll tell you go in and fix their hair. You know, there's like there's different levels for different people and it's just important that you know that and you communicate and you figure out you read body language very aware of body language exactly on. And then the other big thing for me was just that, Um, I had to be aware of why I was shooting that, you know, because that's something that other people will read and other people will see. And if you're doing it for the wrong reason, people will feel that. So don't do it for the wrong reason, know why you're doing it and then communicate. And I love everything that you said, thank you very much. I know there's a lot of people out there who it's a constant concern because I think a lot of people who are doing it for the for the right reasons know that there are people who aren't and so feel that pressure to make sure that people don't perceive them the wrong way because it's easy. So I appreciate your touching on it. Headspace is so so important with anything in life. So it's just about really grounding yourself and finding your center and being confident who you are and knowing that what you're doing is beautiful and it's it's it's a uncredible interaction that you're it's two sided. So the clients giving you this wonderful, empowering experience and you're giving it, said them Teoh. And that's what it's about, male or female? Exactly. And it's that confidence where if you again, if you are doing it for the right reasons and you know that, then you won't be doing things that are inappropriate because that's not part of who you are on. So you don't like I Honestly, I don't worry about this stuff when I go into it anymore. I did when I first started. I will be perfectly honest. I didn't want to be perceived wrong way. Now I know why I'm doing it I'm confident in it. I know that the people I'm working with chose me for a reason. Like you said, if they want my my style, if they like what I do, then there's no reason for me to be uncomfortable because everything's on the table exactly and who you are, you know, and what you share you make. And you put that all that in the front, on the front. And so clients can make a decision when they're shopping for a photographer, and the clients are like, Well, I don't know about that. They're not your client, not everybody's your clan. It's OK. It's OK that you're not gonna appeal to everybody. You don't want everybody. You want your client? Yeah, that. And I think that's what it comes down to, their some women who are only going to become full with a woman, and that's a great I don't want to try and shoot them because it's gonna be awkward. We're not gonna get great shots. Then there are women who would prefer to be shot by a man like that was something that, uh, from generals, Mom pointed out, like, you know, there are women who are going to want to be shot by you because it brings something out in them. It's, you know, it's Ah, it's a challenge thing. It's it's showing off and that shows through in the work There are other people who don't care and just want good pictures. And they like what you dio So I love thank you. I've had clients come in that have shot with other photographers before at, you know, male boudoir photographer. They had a great time. They're not choosing me because I'm a female. They're choosing me because they want something different and they like my work. So exactly true. Exactly. So I hope that that addresses things. Let's do you have any comments? But I just wanted to see from our other male photographer in the room. Mr John Cornyn Cello. If you had any further thoughts on how how you interact with the females, No, I think rust covered most of it. In my case, I have a background coming from fine art nude world, where a shot nudes for a long time, and I've always been comfortable with it, and I know why I am in there. And when. Friends before I see people online to say How did not be creek be? So if you have to ask that you're probably that creepy person, you know? I mean, Mr Way mentioned yesterday, that's a confidence and approaching people when I do need to move someone's hair or something like that, you know, don't be timid and, oh, you know, just your there. For that reason, be confident, be yourself and then the fact that you're a professional. Yeah, I don't think their doctor's or dentist's They're like, Well, I'm working on a female so that in any way change is their profession and their ability Teoh to provide a service. And I think one of the other questions that we frequently get is how do I speak about makeup? How do I talk to them about hair? How do I talk them about clothing and outfits? And the answer for me is you have to learn right, like if you're going to come into that world, you need to become familiar with that world, and that's gonna take extra work for you because it's not something you've been trained to every day. Well, which is the same for more so for a man but similar for a woman. If you're not into those things, you gotta learn it exactly. Exactly. So, yeah, There are some areas where you're gonna have to do extra work. That's that's just a fact. I have a little tip for that because I'm not like a girly girl. You know, I don't normally wear make up or anything like that. So when I go to, you know, the airport, I'll go to, like, the magazine wall. And I have, you know, an hour to kill all stand there and just kind of walk back and forth, and I'll just look at all absorb magazine covers and I just sit and look and I'm noting makeup. I'm noting poses on noting wardrobe. So this is kind of where I keep fresh when it comes to those kinds of things. So, you know, male or female can stand in for a magazine, right?