Segment 10 - Finding Your Why
And what I thought was important to his revisit our wise, the goals that we're looking to maybe re story our life with and maybe what could be stopping us from reaching that because only when we have a purpose driven meaningful goal that we really will look at all willpower the depending on which side of the fence she suddenly we have limited resource is or it is something we can actually improving strengthen overtime but change a habit either to take a negative one out of the picture or put a positive one in its place there needs to be a strong why behind it there's no reason just saying I've changed my habits but if we're not motivated but with a strong goal driven why I think that's why I want to go back and revisit that before I move into this next piece if that's okay with you guys and you guys at home so we talk a lot about you know you why has to be meaningful and purposeful and you have to know what it is I love this this's from alice in wonderland and she's visiting the cheshi...
re cat and there's a lot of great life lessons in alice in wonderland if you go back and read that book it's like oh my god she was so smart, so wicked smart but would you tell me please which way I ought to go from here she obviously british now all of a sudden palace and then the cheshire cat says that depends a good deal where you want to go I don't much care where says alice then it doesn't matter which way you go says the cheshire cat and it's kind of like a life if we don't have purpose and goals that frames are amazing life it's hard tohave purpose and meaning in the moment we don't have structure around the outside so the first I'm going to ask us to do is re frame and revisit what is it that you really want to do? We're gonna workshop this a little bit so give us time to knowing the knowledge and the research is one thing but what does it mean until you actual he put it into your life so I want to start really thinking about this like when this is over how can I take this work and put it into my life? My work, my relationships, my work of myself kind of like five to ten minutes just really kind of workshopping this on dh playing with the audience at home, the creatives at home and you guys to see how is the community we can start to build each other up and really move into ah purpose driven life and that's not meaning that it's not wonderful right now right now could be absolutely perfect and perfectly imperfect but all of us have goals and dreams so let's see how we can take the work from posit psychology and use that to help us? I said before stopped being just dreamers but live a life off our dreams so if you have the book reviews at home that have already downloaded it and for you beautiful gorgeous people in the audience going turn to page four and we have five double used here that really sets us up for r y our goal the first thing to have goals and meanings and purpose and willpower and habits we need to know why why we do why do I need to make a change my life? What is serving me? What is not serving me? The first thing right now is what is it it's something in your life there's something in your life at home that thing that's on the shelf that you've been kind of putting off like the thing that you know you would love to do but for some reason something stopping you do you have a goal on don't again? This goal needs to be and john talked about this right? It needs to be intrinsic it needs to come from the inside not the outside so on page for I'd love you to do right now is what what is it? What is your goal make that first w what is it what is it you'd like to do it? I'm gonna write it down to what is what with that gold bay? I'm going to join you in with us. Do you already know mike? Like, threw the backpack in the luggage in the louis vuitton all over the fence. And I did this a couple of years ago, and it really helps again to sit and reflect. All of it was so busy being busy. I was so busy having these dreams. And these goals are often times you don't even take power. I call it the power off the pause there is such power we actually just sit and reflect on was so busy doing that we oftentimes forget. Just sit and be in the being off it all. You want this goal to engage you and connect you to your life. So I dare you to be daring. Not to dare is to forgo your potential, so be daring. Think big. My boyfriend was still his friends think, make about who you are and what you serve in the world. And the second is that helps me. Ah lot we spoke about this. Whose life will I touch with this goal? And for those you at home I re invite you to share with us right now, whose life with your touch and this is totally a random thought that I just had and I tend to have many of them so may I keep to myself but in a way if you think about who was life you wanna touch for this girl from the marketing aspect that I am so not a marketer it cannot be your target market putting a soul onto a target market you know whose life too in touch with this could be a vast market it could be a narrow market and if you're not a little uncomfortable where you're thinking about the school I dare you to think a little bigger I have a quick question from the chat just asking for clarification on rich wants to know whether this what this goal is supposed to be about is a professional or personal about anything they wanted to be there's no there's, no restrictions that but thank you just the grinch I think georgie's well better have it yeah no gold is not anything that is meaningful to you. So what is something in your life right now? It's just me and also many sons I have different goals for different pieces of my life so whatever resonates with you right now it could be work could be relationship could be a gold with yourself could be workout gold anything but thank you further the question grinch nice question and we go back one and then where would the school take me? Is it maybe we'll take you actually to another country? Or maybe it will take me too, a place in my heart that I've never really accessed. Or maybe it will take me to a level off courage I've never been comfortable stepping into again. It could be literally all metaphorically there's no, no major rules around this one. Just get you just thinking a little bit and then backpack over the wall. It is a goal that you set out six months from now. If it's a personal goal, it might be I want to put this into action right now. So depending on your goal, there's no wrong or right answer here, it has to be based in reality. So if you know there's a change you want to make in your own life, you little bit or you just sit with a little bit more, maybe do a bit of more reflection don't make it that it has to happen tomorrow. Give yourself permission to be human. I just noticed a comment in the chat room on I think you might want to speak to the people who are feeling this way I had a little mini, the same exact feeling had gunnar says, wow, this is bad, I've got nothing, you hit that blank wall where you just you know you have goals but you can't access it at the moment is that you do? How is it? Gunnar? Gunner? Gunner yes, you have it, but I think we talk about thoughts. They're so electrical that that often happens. So I might my my observation is that you have it, but you just haven't been able to access it. And sometimes the best way when you have nothing is to do nothing and it's when we sit in the space of nothingness that our true self on our true voice has room to come up, that makes sense. Absolutely so many times we are stuck because we're so busy living the life of other people think we want to do that the actual thought and the process of living a life that we want to live can be a little overwhelming and there's nothing wrong in not knowing I think it's a beautiful it's kind of like the mtr, you are the last stuff you have to get rid off. You know, we talked about many times you think we have to learn more and do more and be more when in actuality we have to strip it away, get rid off and it's actually a returning off yourself returning back to yourself, dice tell the story of michelangelo and david at the beginning when they went to michelangelo and ask him, how did you create this magnificent statue? It was there all along, I didn't create it. I just chipped away at the pieces to reveal what was already there and so gonna sitting in that space of not knowing you will come to know and sometimes the knowing is just I don't know and the more you can sit with the not knowing, then the other stuff will appear sex, stripping it away so that declaration khun b, a time declaration statement itself at my next vacation, I'm going approach the family this way. It could be a work declaration six months from now. I want to do this in my work. It could be a brain switch declaration, a goal I want to reframe my thoughts, become more optimistic in life. How am I going to do that? We gotta teach you more tools how to do that, yeah, so the backpack with the cell phone in it over the wall.