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Don't Get Pushed Around: An Introvert's Guide to Getting What You Need at Work

Lesson 26 of 26

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Don't Get Pushed Around: An Introvert's Guide to Getting What You Need at Work

Lesson 26 of 26

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Alright, so then my question to you. Are you still feeling pushed around? Do you now know what to do about it if you are? Maybe we can get a little participation here, as we wrap up. What are you going to do later today or tomorrow that's different based on what you've learned here today? Do you feel more confident? And, if so about what? So me personally I just recently started my job. I don't have, I guess, the confidence in the job yet. So, that kinda built my confidence. Learning the emails and the calling, but it does involve getting more relationships with other companies. Knowing people and knowing what to talk to them about. So, that really helped me with that. Excellent, I'm glad to hear that. Who else? Tiffany? I would want to stop making assumptions of what's really going on, what people are really thinking. I have a proposal out right now, and I touch base with the point person yesterday. He said, "Oh, we're so close to making a decision." And my negative brain starts...

thinking that it's ... "Oh, their gonna say no." Instead of, "Oh, they just haven't made the decision yet." Excellent. It really does take a lot of practice, and just reiteration of, "No I'm not gonna think that way, I have to think differently." Good, excellent. Anyone else? Laurie? Well, you encouraged me to do more network marketing, and going to the events. I've actually been avoiding them because I didn't know the questions. So, that really helped encourage me to look for more opportunities for that. Excellent. Yes, Kenna. At least I have one from, or a couple now coming in from home. There's always that pause. We have a Courtney Lightcap who says, "People don't push you around, your feelings do." That's a great take away, and the biggest thing she took away. And then Shawn. Actually this is really interesting. Shawn says that he is an extrovert, but he wanted to watch the class to learn about his introverted co-workers and how their approaching things from the other side. He structured an elevator speech that is more geared towards my introverted students. I realize that I may come on strong with others as an extrovert. So, that's really cool. Thank you for sharing. Tonya Lewis said, "I'd like suggestions on what to talk about during networking as well." One more, Jennifer says, "I realized I shouldn't focus on the internal feelings at networking events, and be in the moment." And says, "I can do this." Yes Jennifer, we love that. Yeah, you can do this. It's not hard. But, I just wanna reinforce this idea that it is your responsibility to yourself, to each of us, to do this, to make the changes, to grow, to learn the new habits. Just coming back to the original idea I started with, that life is an experiment. There's no reason not to try. You will fail. Actually, I don't think I made the point that failure is passivity. It's not trying, because if you try you absolutely can not fail. You can only learn. I know you have one more slide where you let everybody know where they can connect and get ahold of you from here on out. What's your favorite way? My favorite way is to sign up for my quick tips, because that is my email newsletter where I share information. New information usually about the new marketing tools or the new ideas behind self promotion or behind communication or talking to people. So, that's the best. If you like to learn by listening. The two podcasts are also good. So,, and the How design live podcast.

Class Description

When it comes to getting ahead in the world of work, it seems that those who are bold, confident and willing to speak their minds are the ones who get the choicest projects and the loftiest promotions.

But what if you’re an introvert? What if you hate being the center of attention, get nervous before presentations, and avoid contact with your colleagues and superiors? Are you destined to remain on the lowest rungs of the corporate ladder?

According to Ilise Benun, an author and teacher known as the Marketing Mentor, the answer is an emphatic “No!” Ilise has created a treasure trove of tools and techniques to help the shyest and quietest among us succeed in the workplace. She’ll show you how to embrace your introversion while also learning the skills you need to advance your career and become a leader at work.

In this class, you’ll learn how to:

  • Conquer your shyness and present yourself confidently.
  • Assert yourself when you need to, speak up at meetings and get recognized.
  • Take the credit you deserve for your accomplishments.
  • Communicate your strengths and what you’re capable of to the right people.
  • Identify when you’re feeling shy or fearful and how to handle it.
  • Observe other personality types and adjust your behavior accordingly.
  • Develop your confidence with concrete exercises.
  • Find your personal networking style so you can get what you want.
  • Improve your communication, presentation and meeting skills.



It was interesting to learn from your program what experiences other people have in certain situations and how similar or different they are to mine. And that’s it’s ok to “own” your inner introvert, and to work with it instead of against it. The good thing is, the more self-aware we become, the more aware and sensitive we can be towards others, thanks to shared knowledge and programs like yours. So thank you Ilise, for an enlightening program. I look forward to going back over it sometime.

Laurie Hagedorn

Ilise Benun is so easy to listen to! The information and messages she shares with us are valuable, up to date, and easily understood! I can't wait to hear more from her and will refer her to others who will benefit from her lessons!

Tiffany Butler

Perspective is everything. I left feeling more comfortable with the idea that life, as Ilise puts it, "is an experiment," and I don't have to know everything in order to be good at what I do. I can learn, adapt and modify as I go. The fear of being "found out" is what keeps plenty of us needlessly hiding behind the mask of introversion. Another big takeaway—don't assume you know what others are thinking/doing. I break this rule routinely and assume the worst, which is almost never the reality of the situation. I made it my NY resolution to stop doing that! Thanks, Ilise.