How To Develop Self-Confidence
So how do you build it? So there's been a tremendous amount of research about confidence and how you build it. I know we all want more of it, but how do you build it? So all of the research points to this something called the Confidence Competency Loop, and I'm gonna show it to you in just a second. The confidence competency loop. What happens in life is that when you try something new Imposter syndrome, right, Let's build on the imposter syndrome. You try something new and all of you, you're starting. You're going. This is a new chapter. When I see that kind of witchery, voodoo stuff happen and I walk into a hotel and I get a sign like that, it's like for all of us. Um, when you try something new because I want you to step into that imposter syndrome, I want you to embrace it. It's a good thing when you try something new, you're gonna be terrified. You're gonna be nervous. That's normal. You're either going to succeed or you'll survive because even if you fail, you're all still sittin...
g here. So you're not dead. So whatever it is that you've gone through. You've survived it, and we cognitively know this. And see, this is the challenge with these kind of topics. They're heavy. We know these things. But how do you get this in your bones? You've had a 1,000,000 people. Try until you fail till years. A good thing, you know, like you know, we all say it's all over my instagram feed. It's like you got to see it, but how do you get it in your bones? We understand that when you succeed or survive, you learn something, right. And then when you learn something, you're building a skill. This is just like member high. In the very beginning, the course, I said, I'm gonna teach you how to run you is the equipment. So when you build skills, you gain competency. And what's interesting is the more that you master something, whether it's cold calling or it's a selling process or its negotiating and walking away from deals were, they won't pay you $4000. The more that you gained competency, the lower your anxiety drops, the more your nerves dropped, the more your doubt drops because you're learning it. And so what ends up happening when you have competency is now you've got confidence. Pretty cool, right? So we talk about this stuff, but understanding that this is the only way to build it. You can't think your way to it. And I know a lot of us in the personal development space talk a lot about mindset. We're gonna get into that. But it doesn't start with mindset. And this is what I want to pound into your brains. Yes. Thinking positive helps a lot, but confidence and self doubt, they really breaking. The cycle starts with action. That's why this is my definition for confidence. It's the decision to try you just saw in that model. When you try, you succeed or survive, you then learn something. As you learn something, you build skills. As you build skills, you gain competency, and that's what gives you confidence. It all begins with the willingness to try