Know What's Really On Your Plate
stress is optional. That does not mean that you have an option of what happens to you in life. Sometimes you do, but there's a lot of stuff that's going to happen to us. We don't, we just really don't have a choice. So we need to find the ways to deal with it. And we tend to dwell on those things. We, we bring them to attention all the, you know, you wouldn't believe what I'm dealing with. Like really don't start with me today because there's a lot you don't want to go there. But before we start to talk about all the stuff that you're dealing with, I want to talk about the flip side of this or what is it like when you don't feel stress? What does that beautiful state and everybody knows it? We should actually bring more attention to it. What is it, what does it feel like when you're in that best state of what chica mohali took me a while to learn his name. Teacher Macaulay calls flow. This is that state when you know you're really engaged with what you're doing, you feel really good ab...
out it and you almost lose track of time because you're, the ideas are flowing, you may be in conversation, you may be hitting a golf ball, you may be doing a number of different things, but you lose track of time. It's your, it's your really on state. You may be feeling your most creative, you may be feeling your most engaged, but it's this beautiful state. So I'd like for you right now to just think about that state. And if you want to start following in the notebook, it starts out right away with that. Take a few moments and just describe a moment in your life. Kind of bring it back into existence a moment when you were really inflow time didn't seem to matter. You weren't aware of any stressors. You really weren't aware of anything except of what you were doing. And it came easily. You're not pushing, it's just flowing through you like this water. I just jot that down and kind of bring it back into your mind and and into your body. Just being in this lovely state. Isn't that a cool place to be? I mean, we want more of that, don't we? We want more of that feeling of just, you know, this isn't so hard and I can do it. I can come up with what I need, I can meet life's challenges. We want more of that state. But unfortunately, stress bumps us out of that state. So if we want more of that state, what if we dealt with the stress so that we could have more. Now, I have this theory that one of our problems with stress these days is our lives have kind of overwhelmed the stress operating system that we came with. We're tapping out so unless we stop now and get really proactive about what we're doing, something gets compromised. So for you, there's some check boxes in the workbook for you. What on this circle gets compromised? Is it your energy level? Is it your focus? You get busy brained? I do. That's one of my go to places. Is it your health? Maybe you get headaches or stomachaches or maybe it's a silent health thing. So the point is we want this beautiful state of flow, it's eroded by our stress and these are the things that stresses interrupting. So how can we change that? How can we change this equation? Well, one of the ways is to think about what you need to be in that state of flow. The next question in the workbook is just jot down or think about for a moment. What do you need, what is it that would make you feel more whole and whole is an interesting concept. We are systems and systems work when all the parts work in symphony together, a term in symphony or coherently. What makes you feel whole and what do you need to do that? Some early definitions of health had to do with feeling hole? I think that's kind of a cool concept. So jot down for yourself. What what do you need to have that sense that completeness or that that feeling alive and well and just think about that for a minute and we're gonna work through that theme as we go through this whole workshop. So let's move from that turning the page or if you happen to have a real life paper plate, let's talk about really what's on your plate and an interesting note on that. One of the things about stresses feeling out of control, but you know, our brains actually like workbooks, remember second grade when you got the little workbook and there was such a feeling of completion when you got through it. Oh felt good, our brains really like that. So do follow along in the workbook and download it twice, play with one today as we go and tomorrow as we go through this a little bit faster and then do it again more slowly. Really let it sink in. So today for you guys in the audience, eric and Simon, pick up some pans and start to write down what's on your plate. Where do you spend all of your energy? If you walk away from this whole workshop with one concept, this would be it stress management is energy management, so you need to look at where you spend your energy, it's really, really important. And every now and then we're going to talk a little later about Doing this on a regular basis. Not maybe this level of depth, but doing on a regular basis, stepping out of your life or, as a friend of mine used to say, coming up to 60,000 ft and looking down at your life as a system, where does your energy go? And it's a fascinating thing to do. What are the kinds of things that you're finding as you put this down? Does anybody find themselves having more emotion around one bubble than another?