Why You Should Put Up Guardrails
it is time to drive it home? We got some pumped up energy going and we're gonna drive it home and you're going to commit to doing something. I didn't mean be committed, you're gonna commit to doing something. So you have this goal, you've got this goal that we've been mulling over. Is it smart? You fine tuned it a little bit and make it smarter talked about some of the things that could get in the way, Let's let's really go for what could definitely get in the way you've heard this multiple times and go say it one more time. Do you have the mindset? You need to make your goal? What was your best mindset? And do you have it in mind for this goal? Do you feel calm? Clear, courageous, compassionate? Are you curious a little curious about it? These are the kinds of things that and the individual things that you add on to that. What are those things that pull it out of you? Because you're in this space? The space that I think Simon describes so well the other day where you're you're more op...
en and you notice things feel alive and open and clearer. This present space presence is a lovely word, but are you in the mindset with this goal and you know when you are you really do you know when you're in the you want to do it versus the Yeah, this is mine, I got it. So if you're feeling some doubt along the way, working through your goal, first step back, like with all stress management, step back and say, what's my mindset? Where am I right now? And see if you can develop the mindset and then come back to it, because you're gonna have your power that way, you really will. But they're gonna be times when you need to be held a little bit with every big goal, I can certainly say the creative Live team held me through parts of creating this goal. There are times when you need help along the way. So I call this putting up the guard rails and there are two kinds of guard rails that I want to talk about for behavior change the first of the environmental guardrails. So if I were to say I wanted to give up sugar and I left on the break and I go into the kitchen and there's three beautiful containers of sorbet and gelato there. It makes it harder. Uh huh. That's an environmental cue we take in so many environmental cues, a lot of them that we don't even, we're really not aware of them. In fact the majority of them are subconscious. So if we want to change the behavior, we want to actively think about lining up the cues to meet that behavior. So what might that look like with your particular goal? Start to think about the things that would keep you on track or the things that tend to sabotage you environmentally. So the next, the next one that I want to talk about is social, right? Ever heard of the frenemy. Mhm. We have people who hold us socially and we have people who don't hold us socially. We all walk around putting people into boxes and having expectations for their behaviors. We all do it. Just own it now. We do it. I love to say I'm a people watcher. Well what am I doing? I'm sitting there making up stories about other people, I'm doing that same thing. But for the people that we interact with a lot, we tend to hold each other in certain places, especially within a family dynamic or a group of friends who work together or hang together. If one person's decided to change something that can really make waves, it can stir up if you're in my group and you and we all go out and we eat junk food and you decide you're going to eat healthy. I might feel threatened by that, actually, and I may not have words for that, I may have no words for that, I may just be sensing an anxiety and I may take that out as being a little bit irritable with you or doing something to sabotage your choice to eat healthier. Oh, come on. It's just a french fi, you know, it's just one, we we just naturally do this and if you want to change a habit, it's really important to identify the people who truly support you versus the people who are going to make it a little bit harder. You may need to make some boundaries around the people who are going to make it a little bit harder and hang with the Seth Godin tribe of people who are going to make it easier.