Criticism and Rejection
So one of the things that happens when you send a manuscript out is rejection. And my big fear for you is that that can freeze you and stop you from working, and just make you feel that the work is, that there's no point pursuing the work. So I'd rather see you in that happy state of creating the work and making the work better for as long as possible. But you need to also share your work and there are ways to do it. Of course, I'm talking about your critics, your tribe of fellow writers, but you can also share your work, give readings, create events where other people read their work too. If you're a ham like me and you're comfortable standing up in front of a crowd, go tell a story at The Moth, which is a fantastic storytelling group all over the country now. I started telling stories with The Moth when it was only in New York over 20 years ago. It's all over the country now. Go to a Moth StorySLAM and do something really brave. Put your name in the hat, stand up and tell the story. ...
You'll learn a huge amount from doing that. Send your stories off to places like The Sun, a wonderful magazine that's not about famous, well known, published names. It's about people telling honest stories really well. And one other thing that, and this has really changed, there used to be a kind of, it wasn't thought well of if a person published their own book. It was called vanity publishing. That's not the case anymore. Many writers that I've worked with have published wonderful stories themselves. They've just decided, "I'm not going to be held hostage "by the concerns of the marketplace." There are lots of great books that just aren't the kind of book that a publisher would feel they could sell 20,000 copies of. There are lots of reasons why a good book might not sell. So publish it yourself, and if you've got the energy and the stamina for it, go out and give talks on it to groups and introduce yourself to independent booksellers. And bring your copies along and go to clubs and have that book on the shelf. Just make sure, before you publish it, so often writers that I've worked with send me their self-published books and I think, "Oh, that coulda' been really great. "They shoulda' worked harder first." They might have that i-t-s, i-t apostrophe s problem, or something like that. Just work really hard before you do it. And sometimes, and I think Jon, this is true for you, you self-published your book about losing your daughter first, and then, it was sold to a mainstream publisher.
Yep, and, you know what, after all that happens, you get the agent, you get the publishing deal, the book comes out. Guess what? I'll just tell you. I drive a 1995 Honda Civic (laughs) and I've been driving that car for 20 years. And it's okay because I didn't get in this business to make a whole lotta money. Every now and then I have. A book has been sold to the movies and I had a really good year, but I don't do it for the money. I actually... that's the good news, not the bad news, because if the money was the only thing that was going to make it worthwhile for you, then for most of you, it wouldn't be very worthwhile. But in fact, there is something much more valuable that you can get from telling your story, and actually, much more accessible.