Myers Briggs: Thinking and Feeling
We are now moving on to thinking and feeling. And I love that a lot of our audience already goes like, "I'm already jumping ahead. "I wonder what type that could be." You know, for those that can't wait until we're through all the information. Probably all the intuitives go like, "I got it, I got it, I got it, "I'm already ahead of it." So, now we're talking about thinking and feeling. This is how you make decisions. So that's what's happening in here. So thinkers oftentimes are the people that will literally say, "I have to think this through." And, you know, it's like let me think about that for a moment. So, sometimes in the communication, in the language a person uses, they're already giving you their type. And why this is so important, is when I'm in a conversation, you know, and I work with a lot of people one on one, and I train companies. I wanna get to that point of knowing who they are as quickly as I possibly can because if they are a thinker, then I need to give them enough...
they can think about. And if they are a feeler, then I need to give them enough to make sure that whatever I do is taking care of the people. Because somebody who is an F actually takes care, you know, their thought process is driven on how it takes care of people. Whereas mine is more process oriented. So how do you make decisions as a thinker? You're analytical. So there is almost an objectivity to the way you process the information because the fact is the fact is the fact is the fact. There is logic at work. Does it make sense? Is it, you know, is it following certain criterias? Is it objective? Is it reasonable? And they're sometimes a little bit tough minded. But they are fair. So when I did my Myers-Briggs Practitioner Training, there was this moment where we had to, you know in this group, of a hundred people that were getting their certification, when we're talking about who we are, and I remembered very well, and so we go to the wall, and we write out all these things, and I'm an ENTP. And so we're writing all of these out, and you know with all the attributes that we give ourselves and I'm looking at this I'm going, "I am sounding like an arrogant jerk." And so I said, "But listen you know, "if the systems work, how can the people not be happy?" And then the people who are the feeler people said, "If the people are not happy, your systems mean nothing." (laughing) And so, I had this incredible aha moment, when I go, "Oh, oh, okay. "So, it means people who built systems "but then you need to talk to somebody "who is actually going to be using the system "to make sure that they are okay with the way "you built the system because otherwise "everybody is really unhappy." So, it just needs like tiny little shifts in the way you think about this. And I think those treat others equally. Now, how we are making decisions for feelers. Utilizing feeling, they are not technically feelers. A feeling just means its an empathetic response. So, they are empathetic, they are primarily about people, they love harmony, they want everybody to feel good on the team. They like positive interactions, they tend to avoid confrontation, it does not make them feel very good. I might have two in the audience right here (laughing) And they are compassionate, because at the end of the day, the people are not happy, then what are we doing it for? Right? And they are considered tender hearted, and they treat and others as individuals, so my daughter is a classic feeling person because she will will not even take the Myers-Briggs Assessment because she just rejects the idea, that there is sort of an overruling urge over the different personality types because everybody is an individual. So, I guess what type she could be (laughing)