Stop Making Excuses

Lesson 9 of 11

Interrupting the Drift of Your Own Personality

 

Stop Making Excuses

Lesson 9 of 11

Interrupting the Drift of Your Own Personality

 

Lesson Info

Interrupting the Drift of Your Own Personality

Hello and welcome back. In this segment, I wanted to talk to you about something really critical and that is, what does it take to start living outside of who you've become. Now that's not as easy as it sounds. See what I'm talking about is what it actually takes to start living freely, to start living an authentic life. And to do that, one must first come to terms with one's own identity. See there is no real possibility of freedom from your identity, when you don't understand your identity. You actually have to be able to see it in action. You have to be able to see what it does to determine that there's an alternative to it, which is why I've created this whole conversation for you, for you to start to see yourself in terms of what you've concluded, and the persona that you have to overcome those conclusions and that your life is lived in that cycle. Now a critical part of this aspect is starting to see your personality. Now, what do I mean when I'm talking about your personality? I...

mean your strengths. I mean what you're good at. I mean what other people would say you're good at. A great place to see your personality is if you examine your place of work. In your place of work, you have put yourself in a place where your personality can be most used and useful. So if you're analytical, you'll be in the kind of working environment where you can be analytical. If you're laid back, you'll put yourself in the kind of working environment where you can be laid back. If you're hard working, you work somewhere where it requires hard work. And it's the same if you're organized or detail oriented, or logical, or anyone of a number of ways, your job, for the most part, fits your personality. It's in fact, the reason why you do that job, so that your personality can continue being met by the same kind of problem that will remind you of what you've concluded and then your personality can save you. Now, freedom for a human being is, you know, a lot of people say this, use this term like being free and inhibiting my freedom, or free will even. But you can't really have freedom, until you first understand and get responsible for what's in the way of that freedom. See if you keep living the same life over and over and over, there's no freedom in that. You're constrained. You have to be you. In other words, you have to be the you that you have become and you must find the kind of problems in life that will perpetuate that you. So what we're out to do, is explode the myth of being you. To actually start to examine what would life be like if you were a whole other kind of you. But remember, an important part of this is fully uncovering your own conclusion and then uncovering your own personality. Like your conclusions, your personality is based on a very definitive number of ways of being, no more than a handful. For me, being independent, being quick witted, being compassionate. Being independent, as I said, is probably the most overwhelming one for me. I do everything on my own. I'm going to give you an example of being independent that you might connect with. A short time ago, I got a piece of furniture delivered to my home. The delivery guys dropped it at the end of my driveway. Being independent, my first thought was, how do I get it in the house? But also being independent, I didn't think about getting it in the house using the help of others. My first thought was, how do I get it in the house on my own? Which is what I did. I lugged this big, giant piece of furniture up the driveway, through the door, over fourteen children gates, through doorways, down a hallway, up a stair and into the room where it was supposed to go. And at the end of which my wife said, "Why didn't you ask the neighbor for help?" Why? People don't care. Why would they help me? It didn't even occur to me to ask someone for help because I relate to people like they wouldn't. So I want you to look in your own life to see your own personality at work and how your personality strives for the kinds of problems, that your personality can solve. That's why you have the kind of life you have. When you fully realize that picture, when you can fully see it for yourself, then we can start to talk about what would life be like living in a whole new way, with a whole new approach to being alive. I'll see you in the next session.

Class Description

Are you tired of running into the same problems over and over again? People tend to find themselves in the same predicaments over and over, making the same excuses about why they’re not seeing positive changes in their lives. Gary John Bishop gives you the tools and advice you need to break this cycle and become a truly better version of yourself.

"Wake up to the miracle you are," he directs. "Here's what you've forgotten: You're a fu*king miracle of being."

It isn't other people that are standing in your way, it isn't even your circumstances that are blocking your ability to thrive, it's yourself. And only you have the ability to overcome these obstacles.

Gary’s tough-love approach is, BS-free, honest, no-nonsense, and will help you move past self-imposed limitations.

In this class, you will learn why:

  • You do what you do and why it doesn’t work
  • You constantly feel like you are stuck in a cycle
  • The same issues keep coming up and why you keep using the same excuses
  • You can’t stop yourself from ruining your life
  • You always sabotage yourself

Students in this class are challenged to level-up their lives with measurable and tangible actions.

By the end of this workshop, students will feel in more control of their conclusions, they’ll identify them and be able to adjust accordingly. It’s time to open up the ideas that you only dream about and start talking about making them reality.

With Gary’s strategic guidance, you’ll sort out the things that keep you from advancing in life and blaze a new trail to happiness and fulfillment. 

Gary John Bishop is the author of Unfu*k Yourself, Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Life

Reviews

Merrily Bjerkestrand
 

Gary, thank you for sharing your insights and building our understanding by "connecting the dots" of life and living as human beings. Your message and words are powerful and thought-provoking. More importantly, life-changing for those who wish to get out of their box, over their barriers, and live an authentic and genuinely free life beyond the velvet rope. These lessons were paced well and I appreciated the flow of connected thoughts and reasoning. Your message and points are both simple and complex at the same time. They create knowledge and understanding but are only useful if applied and put into action. Just like most of philosophy! You did a great job of identifying steps needed for personal change without reducing the need for individual action. Your bonus message of keeping one's promises to oneself sealed the deal. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

Amber Jensen
 

I love Gary John Bishop's materials. I've read his book several times, watched all of his YouTube and Facebook videos (more than one) and I'm taking part in his year-long personal development program. When I saw this course I jumped in head first. After purchasing, I discovered it was roughly 70 min of material. Don't get me wrong, I'm still recommending this program, I'm just wondering if it would have a larger appeal and reach if it were more affordable or included more material (length). Had I taken the time to discover for myself, the actual content of the course, I would have skipped it and put the money toward the tuition of the next year-long program. Having completed the material of this course, I'm now looking at my conclusions in a different way. I've done a lot of ontological work through reading and interaction so a lot of this is a new perspective on familiar information. If I were new to this conversation, I know my mind would be blown by this course. Gary John Bishop has an approachable delivery and accessible way of presenting his philosophy so that participants actually gain access to what is possible for them. I don't regret purchasing this course but I do wish there was more material included.

a Creativelive Student
 

My favorite quote came in lesson 9 - "That in every single moment of every day, there exists the potential for you to be someone that you've never been before, and that your access, your doorway to that, is to finally see who you've become as a default kind of you." I think anyone looking to make meaningful perspective change will take something away from this course. It's not a pep talk telling you can go out and be whatever you want. He's asking us to look at ourselves and see our patterns and how that relates to the life we're living. I'm just finishing reading " A New Earth" by Eckhart Tolle and this course reminded me of some of the discussion there about the self and who we 'think we are.' Just being able to realize that and pivot seems to be the key to a lot of different things and sometimes it takes hearing about it from different people and in different stories. I was surprised that it is a shorter course but also glad because that makes it much easier to re-watch. Also there is no shouting in this course thankfully.