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Make Fear Your Friend

Lesson 140 from: The Chase Jarvis LIVE Show

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Make Fear Your Friend

Lesson 140 from: The Chase Jarvis LIVE Show

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140. Make Fear Your Friend

Lessons

Class Trailer
1

Data-Driven Life Decisions with Seth Stephens-Davidowitz

1:01:26
2

Escape Purgatory of the Mundane With Radical Confidence with Lisa Bilyeu

1:09:58
3

Transform the Quality of Your Life with Tony Robbins

51:37
4

Strengthen Your Intuition & Unlock Your Inner Wisdom with Amber Rae

1:00:13
5

Make Your Message Heard with Victoria Wellman

1:13:34
6

Susan Cain: How Sorrow and Longing Make Us Whole

1:09:31
7

Can Food Turn Us Into Geniuses with Max Lugavere

1:21:16
8

Peace Is a Practice with Morgan Harper Nichols

1:14:56
9

Creativity Hates Complacency with Maria Brito

1:10:34
10

A Love Letter to Human Potential with Kate Robinson

54:14
11

How to Build Confidence and Be More Social with Vanessa Van Edwards

1:01:21
12

Trauma Is Wreaking Havoc On Our Lives with Gabby Bernstein

51:59
13

Take The Leap, Start a Business with Payal Kadakia

58:37
14

What Every Creator Should Know About NFTs with Tom Bilyeu

1:05:47
15

40 Seconds To Fame Or Failure with Apolo Ohno

45:52
16

Unlock the Power of Nonverbal Communication with Joe Navarro

1:03:28
17

Living Shouldn't Hurt with Aaron Alexander

1:20:24
18

Ego, Disrupted. How Buddhist Wisdom Meets Western Therapy with Dr. Mark Epstein

1:11:55
19

Words Can Take You Anywhere with Arianna Davis

53:00
20

Master Your Inner Voice with Dr. Ethan Kross

1:06:21
21

Accelerating 10,000 Hours to Mastery with James Altucher

1:09:49
22

Transform Your Mind in 12 Minutes a Day with Dr. Amishi Jha

1:15:57
23

Powerful Habits to Ease Anxiety and Boost Productivity with Mel Robbins

1:15:17
24

The Art of Self-Reinvention with Malcolm Gladwell

1:00:45
25

Creative Acts of Curious People with Sarah Stein Greenberg

1:10:01
26

Self-Discovery, Activism, and Rock & Roll with Stevie Van Zandt

57:56
27

Why Design Matters with Debbie Millman

1:07:04
28

Discover Work that Makes You Come Alive with Jonathan Fields

1:15:34
29

Releasing Trauma and Mastering Your Emotions with Jason Wilson

1:05:35
30

Food Saved Me with Danielle Walker

47:16
31

Changing Our Relationship with Rest with Chelsea Jackson Roberts

49:11
32

Retracing Passion to Build Lasting Career Success with Chris Bosh

54:27
33

Old School Photography + Other Musings with Kai Wong

41:52
34

Escalate and Evolve: A Blueprint for Career and Life with Ben Uyeda

1:08:44
35

The Stories That Hold Us Back with Jon Acuff

1:07:22
36

Poetry, Vulnerability and Finding Your Voice with Jericho Brown

1:13:40
37

What Does it Take to be Backable with Suneel Gupta

1:05:38
38

Unlocking Creativity, Courage and Success with Rebecca Minkoff

53:00
39

How To Heal From Your Past with Dr. Nicole LePera

1:13:54
40

That Will Never Work with Marc Randolph

1:12:06
41

The Real Cost of Your Dream Life with Rachel Rodgers

1:02:44
42

Your Network is Your Insurance Policy with Jordan Harbinger

1:24:15
43

Dream First, Details Later with Ellen Bennett

1:14:45
44

We're Never Going Back with Harley Finkelstein

1:01:47
45

How to Shatter Limitations and Achieve Your Dreams with Steven Kotler

1:08:10
46

The Creative Art of Attention with Julia Cameron

1:05:23
47

The Path Back to True Self with Martha Beck

59:45
48

Upgrade Your Brain and Learn Anything Quickly with Jim Kwik

1:21:22
49

The Urgent Need for Stoicism with Ryan Holiday

1:11:30
50

Delicious Food Doesn't Have to be Complicated with Julia Turshen

1:14:35
51

Netflix and the Culture of Reinvention with Erin Meyer

56:27
52

Stop Living On Autopilot with Antonio Neves

1:07:38
53

How to Tackle Fear and Live Boldly with Luvvie Ajayi Jones

59:42
54

Go from Underestimated to Unstoppable with Jamie Kern Lima

1:05:03
55

Hard Work + The Evolution of Self with Priyanka Chopra Jonas

36:36
56

The Power of Idealism with Samantha Power

1:34:35
57

Pushing the Limits with Extreme Explorer Mike Horn

1:22:54
58

Fast This Way with Dave Asprey

1:15:34
59

Uncomfortable Conversations with Emmanuel Acho

45:59
60

Why Conversation Matters with Rich Roll

1:24:17
61

Elevating Humanity Through Business with John Mackey

1:15:14
62

When Preparation Meets Opportunity with Paul Ninson

1:04:14
63

The Art of Practice with Christoph Niemann

1:12:18
64

Matthew McConaughey: Embracing Resistance & Catching Greenlights

1:19:38
65

Starve the Ego, Feed the Soul with Justin Boreta

1:25:32
66

Tiny Changes, Remarkable Results with James Clear

1:20:55
67

Badass Habits and Making Them Stick with Jen Sincero

1:06:12
68

Break Free from Self-Limiting Beliefs with Dr. Benjamin Hardy

1:09:18
69

Imposter Syndrome, Getting Unstuck and The Practice with Seth Godin

1:13:19
70

The Art of Curiosity and Lifelong Wisdom with Chip Conley

58:47
71

The Lost Art of Breath with James Nestor

1:03:15
72

The Art of Reinvention with Sophia Amoruso

1:03:59
73

Harness Kindness as Your Hidden Super Power with Adrienne Bankert

1:08:26
74

Heal the Soul, Restore the Calm with Stephan Moccio

1:28:19
75

Finding Resilience & Possibility with Guy Raz

1:08:47
76

Truth, Fear, and How to do Better with Luvvie Ajayi Jones

1:18:22
77

The Future is Faster Than You Think with Peter Diamandis

57:56
78

Music, Writing, and Time For Change with Nabil Ayers

1:20:38
79

Freedom to Express Who We Are with Shantell Martin

1:10:34
80

So You Want to Talk about Race with Ijeoma Oluo

1:10:47
81

Photographing History with Pete Souza

1:16:35
82

Maybe You Should Talk to Someone with Lori Gottlieb

58:51
83

Never Settle with Mario Armstrong

1:38:11
84

The Science of Making Work Not Suck with Adam Grant

1:15:36
85

Street Photography + Capturing Truth with Steve John Irby

1:10:54
86

Life, Writing, and Real Talk with Roxane Gay

1:05:57
87

Steve Aoki: Creativity, Community and No Days Off

50:57
88

The Power of Passion and Perseverance with Angela Duckworth

1:08:25
89

Know What Drives You with Michael Gervais

1:05:20
90

The Code of the Extraordinary Mind with Vishen Lakhiani

59:07
91

Risk, Fear, and the Art of Chill with Jimmy Chin

1:13:51
92

Personal Growth and Understanding with Citizen Cope

1:16:21
93

Living Life on Purpose with Jay Shetty

1:20:06
94

Get Out of Your Own Way with Dave Hollis

1:08:10
95

Hope in A Sea of Endless Calamity with Mark Manson

1:15:12
96

How to Find Yourself with Glennon Doyle

1:10:16
97

Make It Til You Make It with Owen Smith

1:20:50
98

Surf, Survival, and Life on the Road with Ben Moon

1:08:01
99

Create the Change You Seek with Jonah Berger

1:00:22
100

Workplace Revolution with Amy Nelson

1:05:16
101

Rethink Impossible with Colin O'Brady

1:29:31
102

Good Enough is Never Good Enough with Corey Rich

1:25:24
103

Say Yes To What You Want with Chris Burkard

1:22:54
104

Finding Stillness In A Fast Paced World with Ryan Holiday

1:08:00
105

Everything is Figureoutable with Marie Forleo

43:50
106

The Art of Being Yourself with Elizabeth Gilbert

53:41
107

Creativity, Comedy, and Never Settling with Nate Bargatze

1:37:12
108

Personal + Career Reinvention with Jasmine Star

1:01:18
109

Stay Creative, Focused and True to Yourself with Austin Kleon

1:12:25
110

Ramit Sethi 'I Will Teach You To Be Rich' book launch with Chase Jarvis

1:07:17
111

You Don't Need to Be Rich to Live Rich with David Bach

1:09:51
112

Harnessing Your Human Nature for Success with Robert Greene

1:04:28
113

Addiction, Reinvention, and Finding Ultra with Endurance Athlete Rich Roll

1:07:41
114

Disruption, Reinvention, and Reimagining Silicon Valley with Arlan Hamilton

1:12:31
115

The Intersection of Art and Service with Rainn Wilson

1:03:25
116

Your Mind Can Transform Your Life with Tom Bilyeu

1:30:19
117

Do Something Different with Jason Mesnick

1:02:38
118

Less Phone, More Human with Dan Schawbel

1:07:40
119

Startup to $15 Billion: Finding Your Life's Work with Shopify's Harley Finkelstein

1:12:42
120

It Doesn't Have to be Crazy at Work with Jason Fried

1:49:02
121

Love, Service, and Living Your Truth with Danielle LaPorte

1:11:05
122

How to Do Work That Matters for People Who Care with Seth Godin

1:10:56
123

Happiness Through Gratitude with AJ Jacobs

1:12:54
124

You Are Your Habits with Julien Smith

1:03:40
125

Maximizing Creativity + Navigating the Messy Middle with Scott Belsky

1:09:10
126

The Most Important Conversation About Life… Death with Michael Hebb

1:13:38
127

Redemption and a Thirst for Change with Scott Harrison

54:58
128

Imagination and The Power of Change with Beth Comstock

1:12:29
129

Success, Community, and his cameo in Parks & Recreation with NBA All Star Detlef Schrempf

1:02:02
130

1,000 Paths to Success with Jack Conte

1:07:32
131

Unconventional Ways to Win with Rand Fishkin

1:37:49
132

How to Sell Without Selling Out with Ryan Carson

1:05:45
133

Be the Artist You Want to Work With with Nigel Barker

47:12
134

Your Story Is Your Power with Elle Luna

1:33:53
135

Celebrating Your Weirdness with Thomas Middleditch

1:14:04
136

Persevering Through Failure with Melissa Arnot Reid

1:33:23
137

Go Against the Grain with David Heinemeier Hansson

1:18:07
138

Stamina, Tenacity and Craft with Eugene Mirman

1:17:15
139

Create Work That Lasts with Todd Henry

1:06:50
140

Make Fear Your Friend

08:08
141

Tame Your Distracted Mind with Adam Gazzaley

1:12:08
142

Why Grit, Persistence, and Hard Work Matter with Daymond John

1:05:15
143

How to Launch Your Next Project with Product Hunts with Ryan Hoover

1:11:15
144

Lessons in Business and Life with Richard Branson

45:05
145

Embracing Your Messy Beautiful Life with Glennon Doyle

1:27:29
146

How to Create Work That Lasts with Ryan Holiday

1:20:25
147

5 Seconds to Change Your Life with Mel Robbins

1:14:53
148

Break Through Anxiety and Stress Through Play with Charlie Hoehn

1:08:10
149

The Quest For True Belonging with Brene Brown

1:29:41
150

Real Artists Don't Starve with Jeff Goins

1:19:16
151

Habits for Ultra-Productivity with Jessica Hische

56:18
152

Using Constraints to Fuel Your Best Work Ever with Scott Belsky

1:21:07
153

The Intersection of Art and Business with AirBnB's Joe Gebbia

1:19:56
154

Build a World-Changing Business with Reid Hoffman

1:19:31
155

How Design Drives The World's Best Companies with Robert Brunner

1:05:33
156

Why Creativity Is The Key To Leadership with Sen. Cory Booker

53:06
157

How To Change The Lives Of Millions with Scott Harrison

1:16:14
158

How To Build A Media Juggernaut with Piera Gelardi

1:21:04
159

Transform Your Consciousness with Jason Silva

1:08:02
160

The Formula For Peak Performance with Steven Kotler

1:01:40
161

How What You Buy Can Change The World with Leila Janah

1:04:10
162

Overcoming Fear & Self-Doubt with W. Kamau Bell

47:44
163

The Unfiltered Truth About Entrepreneurship with Adam Braun

1:21:36
164

Build + Sustain A Career Doing What You Love with James Mercer of The Shins

51:58
165

How Design Can Supercharge Your Business with Yves Béhar

33:40
166

Conquer Fear & Self-Doubt with Amanda Crew

1:29:39
167

Become A Master Communicator with Vanessa Van Edwards

1:19:52
168

How iJustine Built Her Digital Empire with iJustine

1:08:05
169

How To Be A World-Class Creative Pro with Joe McNally

1:05:19
170

How To Stop Waiting And Start Doing with Roman Mars

43:43
171

Gut, Head + Heart Alignment with Scott Dadich

38:17
172

If Not Now, When? with Debbie Millman

55:31

Lesson Info

Make Fear Your Friend

(synth music) Talk to me about how you view fear because there's so much fear in the photo industry. People are afraid to make mistakes. They're afraid to get called out. They're afraid to do shitty work. They're afraid to be called out on something, and a lot of that keeps creative people in a little shell. So. Fear is a real driver, and it has been for me as well in the past, whether it was athletics, or writing, or academia, or whatever it might have been. And I realized that it's a driver based on risk, and that's when people define risk, or should define risk, as the possibility of an irreversible negative outcome. And what I mean by that is, just like most people fail to achieve their goals because they're poorly defined, most people are prevented from doing things based on fear because it's poorly defined. There's a couple things we all probably fear. Being judged unfairly. Not being able to provide for our loved ones and our family. Death and losing people that we love. I...

think those are a lot of things, but the fear ourselves are often about the fear of being able to be acknowledged, and/or the fear of failing, and people looking at you as a failure. And so our brain wants a story, and our brain likes a story that pitches bad guys, good guys, safe and dangerous. And so the stories we make up normally are our worst fears, and turn the people that are in our stories into enemies. It's the same as somebody else saying, "I'm not good enough." It's the same as somebody else saying, "no one's gonna like what I have to do." It's just a bullshit nonsense lie you tell yourself that's not healthy for you or the work. Right? You have no idea what's gonna happen tomorrow. No idea. You have no idea that this thing you're writing, or doing or that you think is the best thing ever, you have no idea if anyone else is gonna like it. You operate, I'd like to say uncertainty is a very confident place to be. Really, the more you can sort of let go. Though you have no idea about what's gonna happen in the future, you have no idea about what other people are gonna connect with it or not, and just do it, and try to make it your best. Put all your heart and love and care into it, and then be unattached. You wanna be accepted, and you have to always second guess yourself. I second guess myself everyday, right? And it's the fear of saying, there's no point in my life that I didn't have fear, and I call it a healthy paranoia in business. Fool was doing well. Okay well, a hot clothing line last five years, Daymond, did you get bit by the apple? Did you bite the apple once or get hit by lightning? No, I gotta share this idea of who I am with the world. I wanna empower other entrepreneurs, but I'm dyslexic. I'm gonna write a book? Are you kidding me? People are gonna laugh at me, right? Fear of am I leaving my daughters inheritancy or a legacy? How will they perceive me? Fear of making my daughters public people, where now they have pressure on them, and I wanna hide them from everybody, or fear of anything else, you know? The President of the United States, President Obama, made me a Presidential Ambassador for global entrepreneurship. I can never let him down. It's always gonna be some level of fear, and that fear is good if it's healthy. I've just never done anything that's turned out to be valuable that wasn't just scared shitless to do it. Everything I've ever done that's ever really made a contribution, I have felt alone in doing it, and afraid, but alive. After the first time that you opt to brave the wilderness, you pull away from what a group of people thinks, maybe it's your creative community, it's your critics, but the first time you pull away, and find power in standing on your own, I think your heart is marked by the wild. I think you belong in and to the wilderness in a different way because every time after that, when you choose fitting in over belonging to yourself, it's painful, and so to me, the whole idea is not just navigating the wilderness, which I think every poet, and theologian, and writer over time has used the wilderness as kind of this lone journey thing. It's not just about navigating the wilderness, it's about becoming the wilderness. It's about becoming, I am going to be on my own a lot, and it's going to be okay because there is beauty and strength in that, and it's not that I won't ever find great joy in being a part of something, but I will always belong to and believe in myself first. There are so many things that you do in business and in life that are really driven by deep insecurity and the need to fill ego, verses the things that actually matter to you. I also think you're one decision away from a totally different life because when you're the kind of person that's sleeping in everyday and waking up and feeling like a loser, and you make one decision that all you're gonna do is actually just get up, no matter how painful it is, what happens is that one decision make you see yourself differently because of the action you're taking. So what I tend to do, if I find myself paralyzed or indecisive, is I'll write down all the worst-case scenarios. Really get hi-def in the absolute specific worst case scenarios, then the second column is what I could do to prevent, anything I could do to prevent those specific items, and then if they happen, what I could do to reverse those or minimize the damage from each of those outcomes. And you find once you do that, that the worst case scenarios are very seldom as bad as you'd envisioned. It's just the nebulous, dark-- When you haven't defined anything. Fantasm of a bad outcome that prevents you from taking action. What you actually realize, oh, worst case scenario: I go back to my last job. Worst case scenario: I take a part time job doing this. Worst case scenario: I have to suck it up for a month or two. Do twice as much work with that one client I don't like, and then this. Then it really doesn't seem as scary, and you can actually move ahead with things. The moment you catch yourself hesitating, or doubting, or starting to worry, or about to chicken out, or shrink, or shut-up, or whatever it is that you're about to do, that is shrinking your power, you just go, five, four, three, two, one. You count backwards, five, four, three, two, one. By counting backwards, the cheat code that you're doing in your mind is you are interrupting what are called habit loops that get encoded in the central part of your brain, and you are starting up the prefrontal cortex. It's a little trick that causes focus. I'd like to say that uncertainty is a very confident place to be. Really the more you can let go of, though you have no idea about what's gonna happen in the future. You have no idea about whether people are gonna connect with it or not, and just do it, and try to make it your best, and put all your heart, and love, and care into it. And then be unattached. Stop walking through the world looking for confirmation that you don't belong 'cause you will always find it. Stop walking through the world looking for evidence that you're not enough because you will always find it. Your self worth and your belonging is not something that we negotiate externally. It's something we carry in our wild hearts, and if we spend our lives looking everywhere we go for evidence that I don't really belong in this meeting, I'm not really an artist, I just do this on the side, and this is my side hustle, but it's not really my job. Or we keep comparing ourselves, you will find exactly what you're looking for. My inspiration is like, embrace your fears, accept them, and do it anyway. (pensive music)

Ratings and Reviews

Dream Focus Studio
 

By far the best classes on Creative Live!! Thanks Chase Jarvis for bringing so much greatness to the table for discussion! Just LOVE it!

René Vidal
 

@ChaseJarvis - love chat with Gabby about hope and the "relentless optimism" you share at the end of Creative Calling. Many thanks. -- René Vidal McKendree Tennis

bob
 

Excellent interview with thoughtful questions. Thanks!!

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