Honing your Mindset
I want you to also think about the notion of confidence. Because you might think to yourself, well, I don't really have the confidence to do that, I'm gonna do it when I have the confidence, when I have, so rather than, I'm too afraid to do it, and I'm not gonna think about the fear, then we think about, oh, I'm gonna wait till I'm confident enough. So I'll feel better about myself. Confidence as Dani Shapiro, the great writer has said, is overrated. It's overrated. Think about confidence. How does one really get confident? You get confident about doing something well more than once, so you come to rely on the repetition of that thing being done successfully. Well, what happens if you haven't ever done the thing before? How do you expect to dive off of a diving board, jump off of a diving board successfully, if you've never done it before? You're scared out of your mind. So what's really more important than confidence is courage. It's courage to take that step off the diving board, bec...
ause that's what will create the journey, that way you'll begin the journey of doing that thing and then you see, number one, that it doesn't kill you, hopefully, especially if it's a high diving board. And secondly, you begin to see that that fear doesn't necessarily impact whether you do it or not. 'Cause it's not, you're doing it anyway. You're doing it anyway. And so the more you can look for the courage to do it, which is a more intentional thing, you can muster up the courage, you can't really muster up confidence, but you can muster up the courage to do it and then the confidence will come as a result of having done it repetitively over and over. It it were easy, it would be easy. Why do we think that things should be easy? So we make these choices, because we think it's an easier choice. So I made my choice in 1983, Bleecker Street and Sixth Avenue 'cause I thought it would be easier, I just needed to make sure that I paid my rent and so I was going to do something that had more of a guarantee to success in it, in order for me to be able to do that. I thought I was taking the easy way out. I was too terrified otherwise. How many people here have ever had jobs they hate? So it's not the dream job, right? Was it easy? Anybody here have ever worked in fast food joint? Was it easy? Think working at Starbucks is easy? Everything is hard. So we think we're taking an easy way out and what are we really doing? We just end up working really, really hard at something we really, really hate. And so if you're thinking of taking the easier choice or if the easier choice is all you think you're capable of or deserve, recognize that you're gonna work just as hard at something you hate as you will with something you love. The people that I know that love their jobs enormously are people that work even harder than the people I know that hate their jobs. So if it were easy, it would be easy.