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What Causes Hesitation

Mel Robbins

FAST CLASS: How to Break the Habit of Self-Doubt and Build Real Confidence

Mel Robbins

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10. What Causes Hesitation

Lesson Info

What Causes Hesitation

What happens with self doubt is self doubt triggers actions. The first action that it triggers and this is the first trap is hesitating. So let's unpack this a little bit. What are the stupid things that you're doing? The funny things that you're doing, the embarrassing things that you're doing that are a form of hesitating, so hesitating is typically triggered by uncertainty. So you feel uncertain about how something's gonna happen. And so you start waiting and you start your really busy though hesitation is a very busy activity because you're up in your head and your now's not the time and I'm not perfect. That done. You start to think about it all the time. You're who? I don't know when you're and you want your work to be perfect like this is a This is a busy nous to it, right? There's there's a pattern. It becomes a habit that this is kind of the the energy that you have that you get. You feel uncertain about something, so you go straight upstairs and then you really busy about how...

what you're uncertain about, right? But you're hesitant. You're actively waiting. You're actively deciding not to do it. Here's the thing waiting. If you're waiting to do something, do it now. OK, don't set it that line. Don't do it within 24 hours because we know that within five seconds, self doubt will kick back in. And what do you have to dio? You don't have to. You have to go for the walk. Maybe, uh, right down when you're going to do it just takes one small action forward because what happens is it breaks that habit of over thinking. That's what happens in your mind. Is that just you catch yourself waiting? So you're recognizing the trap. That's an action that you're taking. Move forward right now, the next one over thinking if you're somebody that gets paralysed by choice Joy, pick this one way. Do that. One would always start. Should I do a document on this? Should I write a book on that? Should I should I pray? Situation a price that way there is no right answer. Call somebody love or trust and ask them and make them choose and then stick with it for a week because we can't trust you to make the decision because you've got a habit of hesitating and the way that you hesitate is you paralyze yourself by trying to figure out the right decision. So if you're feels stuck if you feel, um, you know, like you're always noodling everything the smallest things delegate the decision to someone else you're gonna hate it because you're giving up control and that's a safety mechanism and then move forward. Try it for just a week like nothing in life is permanent. Seriously, nothing in life except honestly. Except for that. When you die, nothing in life is permanent. You can change anything at any time. You can change your thinking patterns. You can change. Your behavior can change who you hang out with. You always are in control. Um and you know, if you want your work to be perfect, good as gold, I guarantee you, there's got to be 15 spelling mistakes in this thing. Truly, I'm sure there are Mandy's. Like uh huh. No, keep keep scrolling cause there's one on that screen probably is there. So these are things that you can do. But again, the rial gold is in catching yourself catching that you're hesitating. What does it feel like? You're really busy, but you're shrinking. You know, you're really busy, but you're stalling your paralyzed. If those are the words that you use a lot to describe where you're at your paralyzed or stock, you're overwhelmed. Your perfectionist. God, I love you cause so am I. It's This is this is the trap.

Class Description


  • Use Mel Robbins’ five-second rule to stop negative thoughts and change your life for the better.
  • De-escalate anxiety and agitation.
  • Create mental scripts that help you overcome typical situations that get you into trouble and prevent you from acting.
  • Overcome your mental blocks and change the way you think about things.


Are you plagued by the imposter syndrome—thinking that your accomplishments aren’t real and that you’re secretly a fraud and a failure? Do you have crippling anxiety and bad habits that are ruining your chances of achieving your goals? Does your low self-esteem and negative past experience influence your thought patterns? Do you fall into the trap of self-pity that keeps you from seeing positive outcomes? If so, you’re definitely not alone.

If you want to get over these persistent, sometimes agonizing problems so you can gain a new perspective and make real, positive changes in your life, this course can help you do it. Mel Robbins is one of the most sought-after motivational instructors in the world. She’s been trusted by global brands to design and deliver life-changing, interactive experiences that inspire change, challenge thinking, encourage self-love, and accelerate personal and professional growth.

  • Understand the science behind how self-doubt effects you.
  • Learn and discover ways to overcome self-doubt and have fewer negative emotions.
  • Build your self-esteem and competency skills.
  • Shed your irrational fears, stop undervaluing yourself, and quiet the inner critic.
  • Get out of your comfort zone, quiet the negative voices, and stop practicing habits of hesitation.
  • Stop hiding, being hypercritical, and feeling helpless so you can move forward and discover the path to achieve your creative endeavors.

Mel will give you concrete, actionable advice and steps you can practice to help you stop living with the constant worry that plagues and cripples your daily life. By showing you how to overcome self-doubt and build self-confidence, Mel will help you build the confidence you need to realize your dreams, whether it’s starting your own business, losing those 15 pounds that are weighing you down, or finding true love from a partner. After this class, you’ll better understand your patterns, what to do to break unhealthy habits, act with courage, self-compassion, and overcome self-doubt so you can get what you want out of life.


  • People from all walks of life, even successful people, who want to overcome the self-doubt and the fear of failure that is holding them back and preventing them from accomplishing their dreams.
  • Those who want to gain more self-confidence so they can go after what they’re worth in their career.
  • People who want to develop stronger, deeper and more meaningful relationships and be their best selves.

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maria manolaros

Looking to build some more confidence and push through the imposter feeling I have trying to sell myself as a self taught artist. Happy to say I use the 54321 rule a lot and I didn’t know it. I call it my what have I got to loose rule. I also learned some new techniques and good “habits” to keep my day on track and prepare myself against any fear or anxiety I may encounter when powering through my day. A great motivator, Mel keeps it simple with advice and tips backed by proven scientific research . Highly recommend this

Joshua WAlters

I feel so called out! And that's a really good thing!