The Power of Happiness

Lesson 5 of 14

Playfulness Leads to Happiness


The Power of Happiness

Lesson 5 of 14

Playfulness Leads to Happiness


Lesson Info

Playfulness Leads to Happiness

(rock music) Hope you're dancing at home. Awesome guys. Take your seats. So we start everyday off with dancing 'cause it releases our endorphins and it's a sneaky way to power pose. And we are in day number three. So day number three is all about play. And this is I think one of my favorite days. I can't pick a favorite. They're all like little children. You can't pick a favorite. But this is a pretty good one. So, so far we did the now how mindset on day number one where we kind of learned what are the actual activities that make us happy. In day number two, we did our skill temperature. So hopefully at home you filled out your skill temperature chart and you found your top natural talents. Day number three is all about play. And for this, my goals are pretty easy. This is about freedom. So yesterday we talked a lot about capable and power. And those are all great, but I wanna give us a little bit of, more freedom to relax and have fun. We're gonna play together and I think we all n...

eed a little bit of silliness and joy in our life. Of course, we start everyday with a warm-up. And today's warm-up has to do with music. Now we talked a little bit about music in day one. So here's my warm-up question for you. At home I want you to write down what songs pop up for you. If you had to pick one song to remind you of the happiest time in your life, now this is a double-headed question, right 'cause it's like, what was the happiest time of my life is the first question and then what's the song. And this can be a song from your childhood. Any songs that pop up real quickly? How about you guys in the audience? Hard one right? Happy? Yeah. Oh yeah totally. If I could play it, I would totally play it. I love, I won't sing it. I was about to sing it. It was about to come out. I won't do it. Well it's interesting 'cause I'm not sure it's the happiest time, but the song that came into my head was a song in like fourth grade called Carrot Stew. (laughing) Carrot Stew, was it like a kids song? Yes, it's like a kids song and actually now, I will sing it like as a joke, but when I'm happy I sing Carrot Stew. Will you find it on like YouTube for me tomorrow and play it for me? Yes. Okay good, I wanna hear Carrot Stew. Yeah. It's not one particular song, but during my childhood my older brother, my younger sister, and I, there was a lot of Paula Abdul. There was a lot of Michael Jackson. There was a lot of Whitney Houston. There was a lot of An era Oh yeah, Paula Abdul Yes and we would be belting it out and dancing around. Love it. And so these songs, what's funny about them is that, and we're gonna talk about the science of songs, is songs actually access a very specific part of our brain. Context dependent memory. So we're gonna talk about why songs are so powerful. Another question for you. What was your very first concert? So mine was 98 degrees. I don't know if anyone remembers 98 degrees, but I had posters of boy bands all over my walls. That was my first concert. And my first CD, by the way, was Alanis Morissette. Oh yeah. Mine too. What Yeah. That was your first CD? Yep. First CD. Oh, Little Pill, right. [ Audience Member] Jagged little pill. Jagged Little Pill. Sorry I shortened it. Little Pill. Super fan. Super fan. So what was your first concert? Your first concert, Alanis Morissette. Any other first concerts? Yeah? Hootie and the Blowfish. (laughter) That's a really cool one. Most people's first concert's like mine, are like I'm embarrassed to say it. Any other ones? Any like Milli Vanilli? Yeah. Dirty Dancing. Dirty Dancing? It was a concert. That's pretty great. That's pretty great. So, the reason I bring up these is because the power of music is actually a really great, small, powerful happiness lover. And I actually think that it ties into a lot of play. There's a sense of freedom that goes with music. And so I wanted to put it in this day. Specifically, music, they found that when people listen to music, it triggers a very specific part of the hippocampus. And this is called context dependent memory. So somehow music is tied to, not the sound itself, but actually where we were when we first heard it. Where we first enjoyed that song. So listening to music from the happiest time in your life can trigger the same happy chemicals of that time. So if you remember that happy time in your life and you listen to that music, it actually brings up all the endorphins of going back there. It's a beautiful way to reminisce. So the reason I asked you about your favorite music from happy times is I actually want you to come up with your own little playlist, if you will. I have a bunch of playlists that I create that remind me of happy memories. And there is research done on the happiest making songs. In other words, the songs that trigger the most brain activity. And we have a link to that on our 21 day happiness challenge. So come up with your little playlist. Tweet me your playlist if you make it. And then also check out the songs that scientifically make you the happiest. It's a really really fun playlist. The other part of music, so there's listening to music and there's singing music. And both are very happy producing. So we all know this song. By the way, I had to pick songs that were in the free copyright. So can we just get a little warm-up, sing this song. So ready? ♪ Row row row your boat gently down the stream ♪ ♪ Merrily, merrily, merrily, merrily, ♪ ♪ Life is but a dream ♪ Bet we never had that on Creative Live before. How about this different version? Let's try this one. ♪ Row, row, row your boat, gently down the stream ♪ ♪ If you see a crocodile, don't forget to scream ♪ And then this one, but let's not sing it because I found this version and I was like, well let's not do that one. That is a cruel version of row, row, row your boat. Isn't that terrible? I was like, oh god I'm not gonna sing that. So here's the fun thing about singing. Science says that singing is also something that makes us happy. It's a different way of performing music. In fact, singing releases endorphins, which improves our mood. The other study that I found here was that people who sang together shared more. So I was like, well as an audience, since I am your partner in joy and we are all partners in joy, I figured we gotta do a little singing together to share more. So what I wanna do, and I haven't done this since elementary school. Are you guys ready? Will you play with me for a second? All right, so here's what we're gonna do and you at home, I want you to sing with me as well. So you guys are group number one, okay. You guys are group number two. We are group number three and at home, you are group number three with us. So what we're gonna do is we're gonna sing three versions. So you're gonna do row, row, row your boat three times and we're gonna start at different times, right. This is the classic row, row, row your boat. Are you ready? All right. Ready Go. (all singing Row, Row, Row Your Boat) ♪ Row, row, row your boat gently down the stream ♪ ♪ Merrily, merrily, merrily, merrily, life is but a dream ♪ ♪ Row, row, row your boat gently down the stream ♪ ♪ Merrily, merrily, merrily, merrily, life is but a dream ♪ Oh that was good guys. Yes. So just doing that, and I hope you sung at home with us, that changed something in our brain. First, release couple of endorphins. Second, it actually helps us with that feeling of belonging which we're gonna talk about in week seven. So thank you for playing with me on that. I figured we had to start off with an activity that got us a little bit out of our comfort zone a little bit because today we're going to be talking about that. Here's the problem with play is that we often as adults put play last on the list if on the list at all. But is it on our list of to-do items? Does it make us more productive? But who has time for play / what is play? How do we even do that even if I wanted to? I wanted to bring up a study here that I think is the reason. I think it's tied to why we don't value play as much. And that has to do with our drive on the Hedonic Treadmill. So this is a really interesting study. What they did is they sent out these long lists of consumer items. So everything from a large TV to a boat to a car to a lawn mower to a hot tub, right. Long list of consumer items. And they had people look at this list and check off every item they owned. Then what they did is they had them check off, in a different column, every item that would be part of their ideal life. So say that someone owned a TV, but thought man if I just had a jet ski, I will have made it. So they checked off every item that would've been part of their ideal life for 16 years. They had people, they resent them this list every year for 16 years. And of course, people started to accumulate items on their list. What they found was is that over 16 years, people usually started with about 1.7 items, which grew to about 3.1 items on that list. Over 16 years, people accumulated about two items. However, no matter how many items people had, their desired items for the ideal or the good life increased at the same rate. So the first time they took the survey, they might've checked off two items. A jet ski and an RV, an air stream to go around the world. The next time, maybe they got the jet ski, this time it was an air stream and a vacation home. And the next time, right, and it kept going up. So it was always, we're always just two items away from our ideal life. No one in the study sent it back and said I'm good. I don't need anymore of these items. I think that what this explains to us, we've heard of the Hedonic Treadmill before, right. We're on this kind of constant need for more. This puts it in very measurable terms. And we always feel like we're just too short. And I think that that's why we go, I'll play later. Playing doesn't get me anything. There's nothing that comes out of play. It's not productive. This sound familiar to anyone? So green or red cards, yeah for most of us. It's okay if it doesn't. Yeah, that's why I wanted to get sort of a temperature of your audience. So this skill is about playing and not paying. About doing activities that give us an emotional reward and possibly not a physical reward. And they are free. I don't believe play is a luxury. I think it is a necessity. I love that quote. So my big idea is that any of us can incorporate play into our lives as adults and here's how. Has to do with your inner kid. (laughing) This is me playing. By the way, my mom texted me after she watched day one and she was like, I love all the pictures. I was like, mom there's more coming. Just get excited. So a child laughs over 300 times per day. Adults laugh 17.5 times per day. The saddest part about this study is I looked at this and I was like, wow 17.5 would be great. (laughing) Right? I actually saw that number and I didn't think like how low. I was like, how high. Which is a terrible thing. So this is about getting more of that freedom. I think laughter comes from freedom. I'm curious. You guys at home, you in the audience, what did you wanna be as a kid? Do you remember what you wanted to be? I wanted to be a teacher? Which is kinda funny. I teach most of the time now. Anyone remember what they wanted to be? I had a simple dream. I wanted to marry a man who owns a gum company 'cause I always loved gum. (laughs) and my mom would never let me have a gum. Jennifer why didn't you own the gum company? There you go. Yeah. Do you still love gum? All right (laughs). That's like the best child. I've never heard that one before. Who else? Yes. I wanted to be catwoman. Catwoman. Yeah. You wanted to be Catwoman? Yeah. Have you been her for Halloween? Yes. Catwoman. I didn't even know that was a profession you could sign up for, but I like it. Owner of a gum company and Catwoman. Who else, what else did we wanna be? Yeah. Mine was either a teacher or a ballet dancer. Oh yes. Ballet dancer. I wanted to be an ice skater and I don't even know how to ice skate. (laughter) Also very, that was like fleeting. That was like a month long. By the way, this is one of the best conversation starters you can ask someone. When I asked you this question, when this question popped up I don't know if you guys noticed at home, but your faces were like, it somehow is freeing. Just this question feels freeing Why? 'cause it takes us back to a time where there was no how much am I gonna make? Is that easy to do? What's the education requirement for that? Is it practical? Is it possible? It actually takes us back to that time where we had so much mental and emotional, emotional and mental freedom. Here's what play is about. I think it's about these four things. When we talk about play as adults, what I'm talking about is a mindset just like the one we tapped into a moment ago where we're able to explore. Where there's no wrong answers. Where we're able to say, that'd be great to be Catwoman. I wonder if that mask would get itchy on your face. You're able to actually just totally explore without any wrong answers. We are able to experiment. And today I'm gonna be talking a lot about experimentation. I think the way we play as adults is by setting up tiny experiments. When we try something out, we don't know if it's gonna work or not and there's no wrong answer because the art is in the means, not the end, right. The art is in the actual trying and that is what it is to play as an adult. There are so many benefits of play. I mean, I could've listed dozens and dozens of bullet points here, but just a few. They find that play increases focus during our work. Students who have had great playtime during recess are better able to learn in class. So play is not a distraction. It's not an exception from work. It actually amplifies our work. Play helps us be more creative. Play helps us with others, right. Every time we play with them, we're able to get more into their feelings, especially make believe when we were little. Play is the easiest way to burn calories. I don't know if you've ever had this, but you're playing a game and you don't even realize you're exercising. And I love this study. It's from 2009. So they found that the more physical activity tests students can pass, in other words the faster they can run the mile, the more push-ups they can do, the more pull-ups they can do, the more likely they are to do well on academic tests. There seems to be a correlation. We don't know about causation, but a correlation between the two. So this tells us that play is not a wasted activity. Let's do a couple questions. I wanna get your cards ready. I have a couple of these in a row. So do you have enough play in your life? Does anyone feel like they do? All right, a couple people. All right, mostly reds but a couple greens, which is great. How 'bout, if you have free time, do you know exactly how to spend it? Mixed. (murmurs) Do ya? That's a good one. Let's do one at a time. So when you have free time, do you know how to spend it? When you have free time, do you actually spend it the way that you want? Interesting. Interesting nuance of a question. (laughter) Do you have fun regularly? And that's regularly, whatever that means to you. Very curious. A little evenly split. Okay. So at home, I hope, what I have done in your workbook is we are gonna start our next big activity. This is playstorming. This is pillar number three in your workbook. So I have a couple of different warm-up activities. Do you have enough play in your life? We just asked the audience, but I actually want you to go in-depth on those warm-up play activities and figure out exactly where play is in your life. Now I want you to turn to your playstorming page. This is a very very long list. So the biggest complaint or confusion that I would get when I would tell people I'm starting to talk about happiness is they would say, you know I just don't even know where to start. I have no idea. Or I would say, okay let's think about a talent. And they would say, I'm a good listener. And I would say, okay what could you do to use that skill more? Blank. So I developed this based on your skill chart to have hundreds of activities to start to think about. So what I want you to do, a couple different things with this playstorming chart. One is I want you to go to your four and fives, the skills that you ranked quite highly and I want you to think about what activities could you do to exercise those skills. And I want you to play with the ideas and the steps, right. The whole point of this exercise is questions that, maybe you're not sure if something will work or not and that's okay too. Here's how we're gonna code it. A check mark on this list means you already do it. Okay, so this is a part of your life and you already do it. A plus mark means you want to do more of it. So it sounds like an activity that you would like. No questions asked, you would want to do more of that activity. A minus means not for me, right. You might exercise a skill, but this activity doesn't really interest me. And a question mark, these are the real exciting ones, means maybe, right. Maybe this could work. I haven't tried it or I'm not sure I wanna try it again. I used to do this and I'm not sure. Let me give you an example. So one of the skills from your skill chart is openness. Was anyone, was openness really high for anyone, four or five? Okay good. I think also I knew that people would be here today probably would have a lot of high openness. So high openness. That was a skill. Let's pretend that you had a four or five on openness. Here are the activities that I have ideas of for you. Ask a bartender to help you find your favorite cocktail. So let's say, oh yeah I already do this. I constantly ask recommendations from bartenders and wait staff. I already do that a lot. Pick out one magazine you've never read. You know, I'm not into reading magazines. I'm trying to save paper. For example, I just recently canceled all my magazine subscriptions. This one, not for me, right. But make a list of all the restaurants in your zip code that you haven't tried. Ooh, now that's something I could try on Yelp. I would like to do more of that, right. Oh I think I flipped them actually. So plus sign means you want to do more of it. This means you already tried all the restaurants. Create or find your signature scent. Huh. That is something that I've never tried, but that could be a fun one to research, right. So I want you to go through this list and start to code each of these things with these plus, minuses, and check marks. You'll also notice beneath each skill I have blanks. So I have what are ways you could try to exercise this skill in your life? In the skill chart, I asked you what you already do. In the playstorming chart, I'm gonna ask you what could you do. If you're having trouble with this section. If you're looking at these and you're just drawing a blank on the blanks, I want you to think, what would you advise your friend to do if they asked you how could I do this. Sometimes it's hard to think about stuff for ourselves, but it's easier to find someone else. So here for example. Let's say that I was like, I'm high open. I wanna exercise it. Maybe I can make my bucket list. That could be a really fun activity, to come up with a 100 item bucket list. Maybe I could ask for a new assignment at work. I could try to ask for a new skill in my job. Maybe I could try to learn one new recipe every week, right. So these are really specific. Things that I could do if I wanted to exercise this skill. So I wanna take a moment, I asked the audience before we sat down to look through and find their number one skill in the playstorming chart and pick something that sounded like something they could try. So do you mind sharing your skill with me and an activity you would be willing to try in that little skill area. This goes with my wanting to build community, go to a meet-up on a topic that interests me. All right, so going on meet-up. Searching a topic and being like, I'm gonna go to that meet-up. Yep, and it's a little scary. But it's also exciting. Yes, that is the perfect question mark activity. What are you gonna search in meet-up. I'm just curious. I don't know. Something around probably mindfulness. Okay. I would also encourage you to use your chart of happiness. So look at your chart of happiness and if one of those things is reading or reading a fiction book, join a fiction book club. If one of those is cooking, do a cooking club. All right, so actually use what we've already done to find those things, which will be really great. Another one. What's another skill that someone had? Yes. So mine was creativity. Uh-huh. And I recently had a group put together items that most improved your life for $100 or less and because everybody had this in a text form, it was kind of hard to read all the different answers. I made a Pinterest board with all them and links to the items. Oh that is such a good one. Oh wow, so it's the item that changed your life the most under $100. Yeah. Oh gosh, that's a good conversation starter. And turning it into a Pinterest board. I love it. Okay, someone else with a skill you had and some idea that you wanna try. And it can be something you've done or something out of your comfort zone. Whichever one you want. Who haven't I heard from? Natalie, tell me. What was one of your skills? Um, I think it's hard to pronounce, consci... Conscientious and it's really hard to spell. And I would refer to, I always organize weekend trips, like look up for places to stay, to find some not so obvious things to see. So finding the hidden gem adventures. I like it. And that is absolutely conscientious and openness. Are you also high open? Uh it's tricky for me. So interesting. So if you're a medium in open, like you're three in open, that actually can, if you're organized about it, it can get you to be more open. Does that make sense? So I am also, like if I'm really organized about something, I'm much more willing to try it and take the leap. That makes me feel a little bit more confident with the openness. They also tie together. One more. Yes. I wanted to go and find a place, a foster home Oh yeah. And do portraits of the kids because they don't get that. They come, and I've talked to somebody who works with foster kids, that they come with all their things in a plastic bag and that's it. And they don't have the baby pictures. They don't even have, like if they have a friend in the system, they don't have a BFF pictures. They don't get to go to the mall and get prettied up and it's something I would like to start. That I think would be a great gift for them. So that is both generosity, a skill that's also your creativity, right. Taking beautiful photographs. And that will also tie into day number six, your cause champion. So we're gonna really, I love that one. So, there are hundreds of things in this list. The whole point I had when I was sitting down to make the playstorming chart I was like, okay I know about choice paralysis, right. Too many choices. But I was also like, I never want someone to say, I don't have enough ideas. So we are gonna pick one or two to focus on. But as you're filling out the chart, I want you to do as many question marks and pluses as you possibly can. As many as you possibly can. I love this quote by Oliver Wendell Holmes. "Men do not quit playing because they grow old. They grow old because they quit playing." Play keeps us young. It keeps our freedom going. How many of your felt like when you were doing this list and you thought of your activities, it actually got you kind of excited to think about doing them? So as I was even writing this list, and some of those things wouldn't even appeal to me, I got excited, right. It gets you excited because it triggers that hope and that curiosity. Which is an essential part of happiness. So here's what we're gonna do. After you fill out your entire playstorming chart, I want you to pick one to three. So if one feels like a lot, that's totally fine. If one doesn't feel like enough, three at the most. I want you to pick one to three questions marks or pluses of all, and hopefully in your skill area, so we can stay using your natural talent. I want you to pick some ones that you can experiment with. A little experiment that you can set up for yourself. What could make me feel? That's kind of what you're thinking. What could make me feel excited? What could make me feel capable, proud, silly, playful, happy? If you can, try to have one of those be a potential failure. And by that I mean, some of these aren't gonna work. And that's exactly what you wanna know. It's the process, the experiment of trying it, that's what play is. So if you can pick one of those where you're like, wow I could really not like this, but I could also really love it. One of those for me, for example, is tango. So I'd heard a lot about tango. One of my friends takes tango classes in Portland and she's like, come and do tango with me. And I was like, I don't know. That's like really close with strangers and all these things. And she's like, you know and you have to follow. And I was like, I am not good at that, you know. I don't know if I can do that. It takes total trust in a stranger. So I went to this class and I was like, this could be the worst thing I've ever done or the best thing I've ever done. And as I was doing it, I thought to myself, this is the best thing I've ever done and the worst thing I've ever done. (laughter) I actually had that feeling while doing it. And now I'm kind of addicted to it because it's totally out of my comfort zone, but it also pushes me out of my comfort zone. And I'm not an adrenaline junky. So I encourage you to find activities where you're really on the edge. That is what a true happiness experiment is. So tomorrow, tomorrow we're gonna be talking about control. So I purposely put play and control right next to each other because they are kinda the opposite, right. Play is about freedom and being silly and control is about maximizing and minimizing. And we're gonna be talking about how do we bring more structure into our play life. And yes, it is possible. Here's my challenge. One, as I said, fill in your playstorming chart. Two, please schedule, and I do mean schedule, not just think about. Start the process of planning one of your plus or questions activities. This could be texting a partner in joy. This could be Googling a meet-up and seeing what is on their calendar for the day. Try to get that first step rolling about scheduling. If you can, loop in your partner in joy. Have them be your accountability partner for you. Bonus, we talked about music at the very beginning of the day. I would love to know your theme song for the year. So we have a year ahead. The next 12 months, what do you want your theme song to be. I would love to know so we can set up a happy trigger for this upcoming year. You can also do a song for this course as well. So, let's talk about what the most important thing you learned today was. So what happy ah-has did you have at home? I would love it if you could tweet me your happy ah-has and I will give a free copy away to everyone who does all 10 days of my book. Let's start here in the audience. So what was some happy ah-has today? Even looking at your playstorming chart. Did anything ah-ha for you? Yeah? I love the notion of re-framing play to exploration, especially in circumstances that are outside of my comfort zone because exploration takes the pressure off. Yes, so I think that we often as adults, when I say the word play, we think it's like running through a ball pit or going down a slide or doing something that's very childish. And it can be that. Please, go to a ball pit. Go down a slide. But exploration adds sort of an adult angle to it. And I'm glad that makes you feel more comfortable. Yes? Putting together a music list and just jiving to the music list every time I think about it. Not just in the morning, but just turning it on 'cause it's so accessible. And the second thing was realizing how much less adults laugh than kids and trying to catch up with the kids and laugh as much as I can. Let's get 300 times a day, right? Right. You know, it's interesting talking about the playlist, as you were talking, I was like what if we could make the soundtrack to our life? What if you could say, what song defines every period or every year of my life if I had to go back. So that every year you add a new song to that playlist. That would be a really cool exercise or activity. You could explain your life in songs. All right, anyone else? Yes? I love when you shared the science and the statistics on the benefits of play in children and adults in an academic setting and in a corporate setting. And it makes me feel like there's just so much play to be done. And you know, when you look at schools where kids are suffering with their test scores and the first thing to go with the lack of funding is recess and if they could just see this data and believe in it, how much of a difference that could make for the future of children being able to have better test scores by having the opportunity to play. And what's the first thing that leaves our list when we have to get a lot done is the play, right? When we have to get a lot done, we take away our own recess. We're like, no, no fun at lunch today. Gotta stay in and work tonight. Can't do anything this weekend. So typically when we have to get the most done and we're the most stressed, we take away the thing that will actually refuel us. And that is what we're gonna be talking about tomorrow with minimizing. Any questions so far? Yes? What if you wanted to rope somebody into doing a new activity with you? Do you have any tips for that because I've always wanted to try curling, but that's not a usual thing that people like to do. How would you go about doing that? Okay, well first of all, I am so glad that you wanna try curling and you've never done it before. I've heard that it's actually very fun. Anyway, second is I actually think that you wanna bring in people where their natural talent is openness. So if you are already trying a new activity and you bring someone else who is not high open, it can sometimes make you even more nervous 'cause that's not their natural talent. So what I would do if I were you is I would actually not necessarily start with the activity, but actually start with the person. So think of who is the highest open person in your life or even highest open person who is the friend of a friend? So put out the word for that. Do you ever wanna try a new activity? Is anyone open to doing a totally random crazy Friday night with me, whatever? And then I would bring up three or four activities with curling being one of them. The other way to do it of course is to throw out the, cast the net of I wanna try curling, is anyone else interested? I think that that will be harder to find someone than trying to just find someone who is already open 'cause then you're giving them a gift. Then you're looping in someone where they might've not used their natural talent, but you're actually gonna give them a way to use it by having them go on an adventure with you. So what are the tips for people who are over-achievers and they do so many things that when they sit for 10 minutes in a car, they feel like this void inside them? I'm one of them. So is the question how do you do less so you have more time for play 'cause those things are not play? Or how do you add in play when you're already busy? No it's like, it's playing. It's playing all the time. And the problem is when you see a stove for 10 minutes, you feel such a void inside that it's just hard. Yeah, so what I would do is actually since you're already doing. So there's kinda two challenges when you're talking about play. There's getting someone to do something in the first place, right? And then there's actually savoring or anticipating the events that you're not so busy that you're sapping out all the enjoyment. Sometimes when you're doing so much, either you feel empty when it's not happening, you have that void, or you don't actually get any enjoyment out of it because you're so busy doing one thing to the next. I would say, and we're gonna talk about this in day five for wow, is you wanna find more ways to savor each and every activity. So, is there ways that you can build more anticipation for that activity, right, by either scheduling it ahead of time or talking about it more? Is there a way to lengthen or capitalize in the activity by extending it a few seconds longer? I think that sometimes busy-ness feels like a substitution for feeling. But actually savoring and having those moments last a little bit longer is better. Does that kind of answer the question? So I would try to build out each of those activities a little bit more if you can. Any other questions? Okay, so tomorrow we are gonna be talking about control. Please fill out your playstorming activity. Don't forget to tweet me your happy ah-ha moments and I will see you guys tomorrow. If we all wanna stand up, do our little dancing outro. And at home, please give us a little dancing too. To the fly right, like whoa. (rock music)

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“Vanessa is the BEST!  She changed my life and I'm convinced if everyone did this course, the world would be a better place in which to live.” -Angela, CreativeLive Student
The search for happiness is your key to greater success. Do you know what makes you happy and how to get more of it? Most of us have no idea what drives our internal joy triggers. In this course you will learn that happiness is concrete and achievable. More importantly, happiness has tremendous benefits for every area of our life.

Vanessa Van Edwards has cracked the code on happiness. She runs the Science of People, a human behavior research lab. After studying the underlying patterns that drive our behavior for 4 years, Vanessa has come up with a framework for happiness - and a system for applying the latest scientifically backed happiness principles to your own life.

This class is designed to be watched over time. Just one lesson a day will keep you on track. Or feel free to binge watch all the lessons in one day! Rewatch the lessons whenever you need a refresher.

Vanessa’s methods are based on exhaustive research and solid science. This course is based on a literature review of 246 happiness studies, an audit of happiness data from over 12,000 people, and 4 years of research. The metrics that justify her research are just as compelling. Research has found that 50% of our happiness is genetic and 10% is the result of our environment. That means 40% of our happiness is influenced by behavior and mindset. Vanessa will focus on the 40% that you can address, so you can get back on track with your life and your goals.

Don’t be a passive learner! Students who purchase the class will also receive Vanessa’s comprehensive workbook with over 90 pages of exercises, charts, graphs and challenges to keep you on track to becoming a happier person.

Need an extra boost of positive motivation? Join The Power of Happiness Facebook Group to stay connected to people like you, who are retraining their brains and learning the true power of happiness.


Naomi Leila

I am so grateful for this course and for Vanessa. I took this course a few weeks ago and my happiness audit was at 100 neither happy nor unhappy. Now i feel so much happier and everything in my life has improved as a ripple effect and i am 134 on the happiness audit. This course really pays off if you put the work in and follow Vanessa's amazing guidance. It is such a fun, uplifting and brilliant course, i highly recommend it to everyone.

Jennifer Lee

Do you want to find happiness? And take control of your life, and ignite happiness in others? Are you looking to boost your self confidence or looking for ways to make your world a better place? If you said YES to these questions and are curious about the power of happiness, please check out The Power Of Happiness course with Vanessa Van Edwards! This course will awaken you and empower you with practical steps. Check it out. I guarantee you will be glad that you made the investment! Jennifer Lee A student of The Power Of Happiness

Andrea Magee

This course gave me actionable ways to think about my mindset and take some manageable steps toward improving my happiness. My cheeks were really feeling how much smiling and laughter (as well as dancing!) is included in each of the 10 days. Accepting that my own happiness is an ongoing skill to be exercised, as well as one that can encourage contagious happiness for my friends and family too.