...Dealing with Co-Workers That Ask Too Many Favors
What to say when dealing with co-workers who ask too many favors. So here's the situation. A co-worker recently asked for a favor and you agreed but he started to ask for more favors more frequently and it feels like he's actually delegating his workload to you. He's not your supervisor and the tasks he's asking you to do are definitely his responsibility. You don't want to seem rude or like you're not a team player but you don't want to keep doing his work for him. How do you say no? Here's what you may be thinking and what not to say. That's not my job, do your own job, why won't he leave me alone? Here's a solution. When it comes to doing favors, you must delineate the boundaries of what you are and aren't willing to do. In this situation it may help to find out why he's not doing his own work. Maybe you can even help him solve the underlying problem. Without being malicious, some people instinctively take advantage of those who allow it. Here's what you could say: I'm happy to help...
out from time to time but it seems like your requests are getting more frequent. Then try curiosity, are you aware of that? Is there a reason this is happening more often? Or try generosity. Is there a problem I can help you solve that would make it easier for you to accomplish your tasks? I'm happy to help but let's figure out some guidelines that will work for both of us. Or try humility. Gosh, feels like my workload keeps doubling. I really don't think I can take on another thing. It seems like you are overwhelmed too have you talked to our boss about it? Maybe we should. The overarching idea here is that you cannot allow yourself to be walked all over by someone who knows how to take advantage of people who are nice. They usually don't do it out of malice but rather thoughtlessness. They don't see you, so you have to make it clear what you are and aren't willing to do. Make sense?
<span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Ilise Benun is an author, business coach, national speaker, the founder of Marketing-Mentor.com and adjunct faculty at Pratt Institute and Maryland Institute College of Art, host of the Get Better Clients Bootcamp and a Program Partner for HOW Design Live, the largest design conference in the U.S.</span>