28 Days of Portrait Photography

 

28 Days of Portrait Photography

 

Lesson Info

Fear

so I wass it was a very odd situation I did my very first platform at w p p two years ago and I stood up on stage and my text and you introduce your platform and there's three hundred fifty people is my faceplate former in a small room and turning three and fifty people and my tics went off and I thought I silence the fine and didn't raise the text and I turned it just oh miller thicken I turned away from it and I I don't know why I didn't read it I just went I'm gonna introduce myself and then I stepped like this and I said my name's supervising I'ma put of total for indifferent kept and I did my to our platform and it was just a crazy experienced too be in front of a big crowd and be in vegas and present this platform and it was really huge and when I finished all of my friends were sort of sitting down the front I'll tell you what it's making me funny sitting there on the front and they're all looking at me like this now so did you enjoy that and I like being a devastating earthquak...

e in new zealand that christ shit that's where my appearance were so luckily my parents were safe and that all happened the tics that I got was that there's been quite right now and had I read that I would have been standing in front of all these people just it upsets because I remember that moment you know I'm just wondering if my parents were alive and and I couldn't get through to them on the phone so I didn't get through them for another two hours and very luckily they were live anyway I have lots of dear friends that live in christchurch and I remember going from vegas to new york that week and I was in times square and I saw this big billboard come across and said all the people that have died in christ continue till and I remember like reading it on this billboard in times square and just thinking how far away I was from home and help help close my parents were to that but anyway I had lots of friends who are photographers and I've known for years that have lived and worked there and two of my absolute favorites joe grams and your hand van come and they actually have one of the most beautiful studios that I have ever seen now I built a beautiful studio and I know that my studio is bigger than most people's and there studio was so beautiful and they lost that in their home in one morning in christ church so fast forward to two years my parents have lived christian because they made them leaf I paid for them to go because my parents when I saw them after four months of working and living in christian I saw them and they'd put on weight really unhappy and I sit mama dad what's up and they just said it's so depressing here every day there's more earthquakes in every day people are evacuating and the town centre is never bean ball back and it's just it's devastation and its long term level and throughout losing their home in the studio thes to keep the business going and stayed in christ church with their baby daughter because they decided that they keep the business alive because off joe's cheated loyal client base that people still ring her for photographs even through this time they're still getting business still rocking their business so as we talk about fear and loss and the next hour and a half it just occurred to me that the greatest story of fear and last is actually sitting in my audience today and anything that you could possibly confront wouldn't be as bad as what these two had just discovered about themselves in the last two years without insurance being paid without you know and that sort of devastation but not only the devastation but the energy and in the community of a community that is being destroyed and is being rebuilt and I know there are other communities here katrina and etcetera destroyed and that people are rebuilding all the time and they still have a fix but what I do want to say is one thing I actually just wanted to shout out that they were here and then you know let's meet them so I asked joe and your hand if they'd like to come up and talk to me come and talk to me for a minute I'm trying to do that I'm trying to get e was trying to do that without looking at it because I knew that I cry if I look at them these two are significantly beautiful photographers were gonna post their website for you on the check so that you can see it it's a difficult website to remember to spell out moda photographic so it's nota photographic er but for some reason when we had the building we wanted to have the european influence so we changed it was a european building though you know it was very good looking you know go with the brand that suited the building and that's why it was motor photographic oh with ifs instead of ph yeah yeah test so I just wantto I s o moder m oda and then photographic er if o t o g o r a if I see a and it means and so yeah so we don't dot com we dot co dot ended there and it means a way of during flight that's the meaning behind it both joe and johan mitt is photographers married his photographers final lovers photographers they're both award winning photographers they're both judges internationally they both win in both new zealand and australia consistently but if I can say one thing about both of them both of them are great educators both of them a great speakers both of them are incredible photographers but very few photographers that I may bring a level of beauty and artistry to their work that they use to do so please enjoy the website and I just thought and as we go into this segment I would like to introduce you to these two people because joe run me a month ago and she said I've applied for your audience I'm coming over and so she said the struggle here is just too much and I really know that if I come over and I see you and I sit in your audience that you're going to you know what you know what that means to you heavier ass kicked an economy that she's living in in the devastation that they're living into still wanna run a business here and you still think that there's hope for that and you still want to turn your own attitude and your own thoughts and your own everything around that's survival and it's you know purest form but the truth is is that it's a choice you could dwell on it you could overcome it and you know what I think that they will because everything they do is beautiful so I should let them talk I just can't stop talking I think I think you said you made me cry without standing back there in remembering that die in february you know I actually watched when you say that I watched a movie so my guy that film did he was in the is quite and here's a film like and he picked up logan mcmillan and he's got footage on youtube and he picked up his camera and went straight out but when he did the presentation in pe he cut in a live recording of a woman that was doing a radio interview she was interviewing someone live on radio and they're quite hit and you can hear the sound and he cut all the visual footage and all we hear is the sound of the earthquake and who reaction and this in that moment are quite it's so incredible to think that nature can take away from you in happy what you could build a lifetime and I remember that sitting there and hearing the sound and I got their impact just by the imagery of what my parents were experiencing when I was a world away from them in vegas so that morning I know when even one talks about it they talk about the same way for us it was very difficult as well because not only did our building start falling down we were a hill away from each other that joy was on the other side of the hill and the only way through was through a tunnel that they closed so she decided I found five mostly boys and who had the baby I did yeah and all I had was rice bubbles to feed her upon the hill she would've been happy with rice bubbles yeah but it's amazing how these things change you and one of the really good things to come out of it and you have to look at the good things because you can't dwell on the loss and the things that were bad for you one of the really good things about it was the opportunity to look at ourselves from well out here somewhere and say what we can't drag any of that with us because it doesn't exist anymore and if we were going to start our lives as new people as photographers what would be the most amazing thing we could do and that was perhaps the most powerful thing that we could take from it and it's a sort of thing that is important for everybody I think because but the thing that we could take it was actually being out the ability to look at ourselves almost separate from ourselves and say look at those people down there what should they do in the circumstance and how can they be the best at what they can do rather and say well we've got all these encumbrances that you drag around with you all the things that you gather up and you say I can't change because I have these things on my shoulders that hold me down yeah baggage and had a chance did it change your photographer doesn't make you value seeing people's family porter's destroyed the ever needed people back to them I think the biggest thing for me in how I take my photographs is I have a very loyal following of clients and I shoot over a period of time I would take a family right cherie pregnancy or a wedding pregnancy firstborn second born kids all the all the way through and for me when the latest projects was finishing off the two year old to a two year proto check for a client and that he's just going back from when he was a newborn and that was before the earthquake to seeing was kid now and that's in an album and it's the most precious precious thing that I can I can give a family is those memories thank you I just wanted you all to meet them and enjoy the sights and out there doing thes people chat room have been looking and the wedding portrait sar amazing wow awesome images there they're just they're amazed by your work so you think it is beautiful thank you for coming thank you very much always find ways to get killed in accidents up here let's talk about everything that's going to get in your way okay I've laid out the challenges I'm going to talk about them again when I wrap it up this afternoon I laid out how to make money I've laid out how teo get different avenues to marketing multiple different avenues to marketing I've laid out how to open your mind open your creativity I've laid out howto look atyour business blocks and see what you suffer we fail when you succeed I've asked you to confront where you fail and decide in that moment whether you need to confront it further or whether you need to let it go and outsource it I told you to write a hate list we're going to go back through that this afternoon but before I do I want to address this one incredible experience that I had about three weeks ago when I was sitting at home and I had a fearful moment in my personal south and I put this post on a bed with so which is a private facebook group dedicated to just becoming bitter glamour photographers is about seven and a half thousand people and enjoying it if you want to win people sue on facebook and you have to get invited it's a close group I put this when I was talking about marketing on saturday so that was after haley show reels course you'il you are all very creative and very few of you get excited about marketing I don't understand that and then I remembered why I never got excited by marketing because I knew where my black wass and you see the fear the blocks in the counts and the excuses it occurred I want you to name the thing that makes you walk away I want you to name the thing that makes you walk away from a phone call from approaching a person and from putting yourself out there this is all I wrote on facebook friend okay so that was generally the twenty ninth and twelve forty eight pm afternoon clearly I should have been working but I was sitting at my table having a conversation with people on facebook um and I will go first that's what I write I want you to see how similar we all are so keep it short I have a solution I just want to hear it that's what all right I got one thousand three hundred in sixty three posts an hour on that thread and I'll read some of them to you I started first rejection not good enough nobody will pay for that what you do is not with it and then it just started I don't deserve to be successful feeling inadequate too expensive everyone wants something for nothing I'm not good enough skill isn't good enough I'm going to if something up no one will pay for it you won't make money doing this haven't been in the business long enough to shy too expensive to not smart enough not smart enough to do business I don't know what I'm doing if it were that easy everybody would be good at it I don't look that glamorous I'm not that beautiful how much does show the beautify don't exude mind they want everything for free too expensive nobody will pay for what I want ugly start working from mcgarrett my work isn't good enough I have too much saloon don't eat it when I get better opposing this lady must the crazy studio is in my garrity I don't have the time at least my family I'll look like I don't even know what that is so much of the sounds familiar competition indeed I'm scared off I can't afford that I need to make about it I'm fighting for space sick and getting every decision I made job logs doesn't beat a hard work never succeed I have to do this other job that eye height or how will I support myself working out the price for a product my studio has a living room inside it I think all my responses have bean said my camera didn't cost over two thousand dollars I need a website and logo if they don't like me what if they don't like my work what if they don't like me someone else's better wish I had a bit of camera no studio props why try if you're gonna fail anyway you're not with it your work is average and then something started to happen in the thread you did what all human beings did you started to do you started to blame others and you stopped taking responsibility of yourself so you told me you went from your emotional responses to the market is failing to many photographers in the industry too many shooting boons in the industry they are not emotions people that is blamed in a victim mentality and a negative block so I jump on the thread and I say I don't care about what you think of the industry I asked you to tell me how you feel emotions only please just tell me how you feel and it went back again I won't meet expectations it's too scary it's too expensive I'm waiting for the right time the other person is bitter the me you know it just keeps going and it keeps going not the right city I think I haven't been doing it long enough and then again it turned immediately and to blame again it just turns instantly and to my my competition is cheaper than I am you know women don't value themselves in my area there's no money and where I am I'm from a small town none of those are emotions people I ask you to tell me how you feel and then it went back again so I stayed on the spread for the whole hour and I keep saying stop telling me what you think of the industry in capitals and tell me how you feel and then it would start again rejection I don't you know I don't look good enough I'm not good enough I'm not good enough rejection criticism you know some somebody wrote the cow jumped over the moon all some gear and just so you know we do have your facebook page I'm not I'm not as good as everybody else and it keeps shifting and every single time the thread went through it would change and change and change and change and then every single time it would go back it would go to blame and blame and blame and blame and I keep to asking for emotion I didn't ask you to tell me what you think about yourself I asked you to tell me how you feel about yourself and that is based purely on emotion and when I keep putting up on this reed it's emotion I need emotion stop it I need emotion stop telling me about this industry I need emotion and then finally it just keep coming back to emotion and then what it came down to is I'm just not good enough I'm not good enough I'm not pretty enough I'm not skinny enough I'm not smart enough I don't have is many things that was the bottom line for everybody over and over and over again the bottom line keep coming back to that but the worst thing is the amount of people that tried to blame someone else now I don't care if this segment of this workshops it's really hard with you I don't care I'm going to challenge this on every level I don't care if you think of the best photographer in the world or the best business person in the world if you don't sort your attitude out you will get nothing different in this world it's that simple I believe they're so passionately that I'm going teo tell you why now I don't think I have the right personality fear of succeeding I'm not pretty enough I'm not pretty enough for the most famous photographers in the world certainly aren't good looking at me the only good looking photographer eye view of the st is christy turlington you know she used to be a supermodel and now she's a photographer got everybody's a photographer these days like she's like super model wasn't good enough eyes like when you write that on the form of the plane christie d right photographer now a super model you know I'm insecure the fear of someone saying no the fear of failure fear of not being good enough the fear of rejection the fear of being told I am nothing the fear off being told I am not good enough not being appreciated not being taken seriously not enough time I will lose my momentum and quit if it gets too tough too much watching too much not too much everything too much fear too much can't leave their health and they were blaming again you know so the bottom line for everybody came down to one thing I'm not with a and I'm not good enough you are not worthy to what making income but you can get a job that makes an income so you go and get a job that and she walked four hundred dollars a week and that's what you think you with so it's okay to accept a wage but not make your own income and then when you leave that wage you go and start your business and you know what you do you do what my two photographers did you create a business that tunes over four hundred dollars a week because they're in your mentality is what you think you're worth bottom line so it's ok to go and get a wage from somebody in even better I've bean an employee before it's okay to stay on facebook for now when your boss isn't there wasting a whole hour of his salary and trust me you don't get pissed off about that into your boss then you find it you'll start for doing it and then you remember you did it so you have to let it go so it's okay to rip him off and get your money every week and being complained that it's not enough and it's your choice or some co roll right you made that for now go and start your business and go take your wage I'm not good enough mentality going rinse repeat and suffer suffer in your jocks that's how it works we do the same thing over and over again and we cry out that it's not my fault you know what's not your fault a friggin earthquake that's not your fault your fault would be how you deal with it you know and this is what I lend because I was the biggest victim off them all I rate of it heart and soul I'm not ready to do this I'm going to get rejected I am too scared bumbling stuttering sounding like an idiot I'm afraid to ask for what I want for what I need it just goes on and on and on and on and on and every single one of them had the same bottom line and it just occurred to me that until I dealt with that I didn't change anything and so this is the same bottom line but trust me it gets broken up into many divisions so you can own which one's yours and you can own it today I hear a lot of people drink tell me about fear nobody tells you how to get over it you said to me yesterday when we brought you said everybody tells you about building a business and be around successful people but nobody tells you to identify the blocks but where they went wrong nobody tells you to odin for your own blog's they will just tell youto like to climb to the top of the hill right because at the top of the hill the tears air up there and then when you reach there it's sunshine and roses and butterflies and it's a lie it is a filthy duty lie because every person who even climb that hill knows the hill just keeps going and the bigger you get and the more successful you get the big held it it's the same struggle the trick is to not see it is a struggle but a journey or you know or an experience or gratitude or you know many other things and I'm going to tell you the answer to that and everybody talks to me about fear and climbing the mountain but nobody ever tells me how and you know and that's the thing that really bugged me I used to sit there and think we can discuss fear until until it's the sunset and it won't change the fact that I'm gonna wake up tomorrow and not be able to make a phone call in my business because I'm terrified why am I terrified I'm not terrified I just don't think I'm with it I don't think I'm with it that's heartbreaking isn't it so I look at the thread and I get through it and I said here and I think to myself wow that comes down to our attitude and what we think and what we feel and it just keeps going and going and going and I photographed it because I wanted to keep it you know and um and I even like the bit where people said their fear is off success the fear is off losing succeeds the fear is the greatest fear is to never realize it and wouldn't that be the definition of a sad life that you would get to the individual and never have realized it in any way shape or form because you were too afraid to ever confront it you know it's it's the best pattern is right now but I'll explain to you what's so fake and artificial and why it doesn't actually exist it all so once I get to hear this too may with the keywords I've experienced every one of them failure what is failure we failed and then we climb back up again it's called life you get a polarity the more you love the more you lose do you understand that to love someone so greatly and to lose them means you grieve is greatly as you love them to love no one at all would mean no grief but that's how you know yourself that is the polarity of life with every good comes bed with every love comes grief and I can guarantee that when you're experiencing a high there will be a low that matches it that is called the polarity that we exist in yin yang you know all of it just that's that's the rules I know that when you lose someone and you've loved them greatly that the only thing you can do is grieve for as long as you need to and then focus on how much you love them because if you focus on what you don't have then that's where you will be locked in your grief and I know that if you get fifty fifty of everything including you know last and success and failure then it stands to reason that across the board the only reason you don't sit in the middle is because you're choosing to dwell on one side of the other you choose that okay you choose you choose that if you make your weakness your greatest strength and it stands to reason that you can go and take something is devastating as losing your entire business and rebuilding it and you can make that your greatest strength and then you can empower yourself and others by how you rebuilt it and what you learned from it that we'll make you more powerful than anybody else because you will be working from your heart and your soul I know that empathy is non action and empathy stops you from doing anything and no matter how afraid you are oh how afraid you think you are it means absolutely nothing if you don't take action now a few years ago a book came out called the secret here's the thing abundance didn't know it was a secret but read the book and went all right I'm already oven abundant mentality so I was really interested to read it and one of the things that I saw happen afterwards was everybody lay on the couch and tried to manifest the ferrari and that's it that's the magical thing about manifestation you can sit on a chair and look a door and you can will it to open I will let to open I manifest that door opens that door will open that door will open for may the door is not opening it's not going to open it's never gonna open why am I trying to will the door to open and yet if you see it I manifest this door to open and a million different doors for me an opportunity and you got up and you actually touched the handle and opened it and then walk through it you'll find you're in a corridor with fifty other doors and you can choose which one you walked through so you actually have to get up and do something about it but you have to do that you have to get up and walk across the room with no fear now what if your fear wasn't fear at all because if you're in a white room and there's no tigers no no biting dogs no nails on the floor no chainsaw massacre standing between you and the door what are you afraid off there is no flight or fight there is no need to run there's no need to cry there's no need to fight so when you tell me you were afraid to open the door I don't actually believe that any more in fact I don't think fear exists I discovered when I read that book about self hate that the reason that you stopped getting up in opening that door is because the voice of self hate is so strong it tells you to sit back down and be nothing and you listen to it you choose and that moment to listen to the voice in your head that says sit down you're a worthless piece of shit and you do have you been listening to it for years and it's a little voice some people have it bigger I have a big self hate boys some people have it huge self hate boys some people are controlled by their voice they don't even not and that will stop you from opening their daughter was stop you from getting up from the couch so now I know this I know this no fear I stand up and I say there is no fear in my body because I'm safe right now I don't have a fight or flight response right now or adrenaline my body therefore as I step forward I hear the voice of self hate great it's just stuff that just it's my voice and it's my beliefs and I have to walk across this room and every step I take is gonna be stronger and stronger and then I just sit there and I go are I get that voice stopped and it stopped and then I'm like I don't choose to hate myself anymore that was an old patton and what do you write whatever I did that for whatever your reason for doing it please don't tell me that story the reason I'm in so much self hate let's stop re energizing the self hate for god's sake just acknowledge it acknowledge it went through a bad patch go to bed and self hate going on dealing with it now you know it's not emotion you've made it emotional you've made it your life voice you've made it you know like this was my bad pitch you don't need to hear about it we've all had bad pitch right mind was really big mine was more important than yours don't you understand I have to stay with self hate because my actually isn't self hate mine was traumatic experience so I'm a victim therefore I'm going to stay over here on the victim couch because mine's not actually self hate see that's not my fault that this happened to me so I'm just going to stay here with self hate it's just like whatever because I don't belong in your group so I'll just stay on the couch and safe in here but I choose to go okay self hate wow so now I'm actually and trade by it so when I feel a feeling of self hate in my body I'm like there really were going to go with that and then myself had guys me on I got hot and why would I hate on myself okay to stand in front of thousands of people do you know what it takes you don't talk to me in tight outfit he's and days and days and days and weeks but I did it anyway because I wanted to in one of the most incredible experiences about being on creative life about being a speaker is that every single time that voice comes up in my head and ceres you know you're not good enough to stand up there I go for some people I may not be but for a whole bunch of people I will be and that's why I'm here for the ones that want me to stand up here and whether that's for people that are watching at home you know one hundred thousand that message may that's my decision and the voice of self hate will rear up and it will mira beck to me over and over again and I choose now not to be affected by it and I choose not to listen to it okay I'm forty one years old I'm single and I'm a little bit fat that's life I've had a good one it's all paid for I'm honest I love my job I'm wealth building I try every day to grow both in my personal self spiritually financially I'm I'm addicted to learning about my mind in business in human nature I love to share and teach and photograph people will photograph people till the day I die what a gift I have been given what a gift I have been given but I choose from this day forth to be good enough now I don't need to be younger I don't need to be slimmer I'm good enough now I'm smart enough now my body is perfect now is healthy I don't care what you think of it it is the greatest instrument you will ever earn stretch right so for the first time in my life I have discovered the voice of self hate and when I discovered it and I and I conquered it I realized I never loan that I no longer have any fear so now doesn't mean it doesn't come back I'd just address it every single day and have since christmas that's being me and me and self hate have been together since you know teenage years and we're dealing with it now since my and it's an interesting relationship no but has no control over me now and when it does come up I address it immediately in fact I'm quite intrigued by it and I'm like wow you're the voice that told me I wasn't good enough and this whole time I could have just told you to shut up so then the next block would be small thinking small thinking small thinking small thinking none of us think big enough now if you think big enough what even number you put on what you want to go in in a week what was your average sale with how many shoots quadruple it think about it you came into small and you with more in fact I think you wrote down exactly what you think you deserve now I think you double what you think you deserved because you thought that was a big number you probably quadri put it to and then you wrote a nice safe number off money that wouldn't have find anybody in your family if you got wealthier than them interesting you know and that there small thinking will cripple you also so if yours is not if yours is not much self hate and it's a whole other small thinking open up you don't need to think big you just need to think open wide okay I am open to earning money in my business don't put a number on it I want to work three days a week and creating abandon income then lift your average think about it the negative voice then they get a voice in your head is purely self hate it's a pattern you learned when you were young children lena we teaching it to our children yes they'll be in therapy you know blaming you it's okay we blamed appearance and then the lin like everybody else to love themselves the way they need to be loved because everybody needs to be loved differently and sometimes we don't get enough and we cry about it for like an eternity like a whole life and that book liberated may there is nothing wrong with you by teary hubba it liberated me me and it did it in the most powerful way and I can't believe she made it that basic the victim mentality that thread turned to victim within twenty comments because the second we stopped owning our own shed we started to predict it on everybody around us I just don't believe in a scarcity mentality anymore I believe in an abundant amazing community around me and I believe in a community that has a balance off loving somebody actually wrote me an email the other day and said I wrote on facebook I'm going tio to whistler has anybody got any great recommendations were to stay and I got private emails one of them said your celebrity you should not tell people where you're going it's dangerous and it's a dark dangerous world and I wrote back and I was like I'm a photographer you know I'm not a celebrity I am a portrait photographer a b it's a beautiful world and yes it can be dark and dangerous sometimes I didn't even say winner's gonna whistler who was going up there to meet me there might still be there and that was three weeks ago and I didn't go I choose not to see the world like that and yes it can be dark and it can be dangerous and it can be all of those things but I choose not to see that I know it's both yes and it's frightening sometimes sure is certainly comforting sometimes too but the best one is the last one the self hate is the single most liberating one but the best one is competition and ego you as a human incarnation were brought to this earth and given an ego that ego identifies you as somebody separate from me and that ego will keep you secret from me and I believe that when you stop being in your ego so much just for one moment and you and you become present that you connect with everybody around you in the most incredible way and the only thing that stops you from doing there is their ego I always say that quote I'm not here tio compete I'm here to create okay I'm not here to compete for what has already created I'm a creator and when I'm in a creative energy I'm not looking at what you're doing and trying to be better than you because it's not the blame or the finger pointing here it's the state with which you dwell in the state with which you dwell is an energy off lack scarcity I blame and hate and if that's what you are predicting that's what you were going to get tenfold because what you put out you get back and that is a simple truth you understand that so when you get on facebook and you criticize when you go home and you beck step when you go oh my god did you see supervised which he did today what she said today you're the loser not the person you're talking about your losing and you are all guilty of doing that who has somebody in their life that sucks the blood out of them everybody has a blood sucking friend someone that sucks the life out of you right what if I told you that was you not me what if I said you're the bloodsucker don't you get it the blood second leads with a big smile on their face you're the one sucking the life out of everybody because you either and standing up for yourself or your either predicting exactly the same thing back at them and you don't even acknowledge it see you blame them that's murdering ego behavior and it is frightening because when you own that you have to own everything I met somebody last year at w p p I that I didn't like I didn't I don't meet many people I don't like you know you meet people you you like may you don't meet many people you don't like and I did not like this person like in in fact I would go so far to say and it's a very strong with that I hated this person and we have a mutual friend and that mutual friend was like I can't believe you hate you hate him I can't I don't want that person within a fifty mile radius of me and she said why and I searched for the answer within myself I searched for it what is he doing that I do and I went through the list of all the judgments that I put on him and I did not acknowledge one of them is being something I do so it bagged that how out of may until I talked to that mutual friend again and she said I get it I know I know he can be a bit difficult he is a deeply insecure person and when my friend said that I felt like somebody knifed me in the chest and I said I've got to go I'll call you back and I set down and I started to cry because that would hit me so hard why I was so repelled by this person because I was in a state of deep insecurity at that moment and I was repelled by their energy so I attracted it immediately sore it and in height it and I hided it about myself so what I did was I went away and I went quiet time and I thought about that insecurity not in him but in may and I addressed it and you know when that wass that was two days before my platform at w p p ay last year in ford for five days before my very first creative life had I not interested in security I would've walked on stage into lived from a place of insecurity and ego instead I addressed that so quickly myself that when I walked on stage at w p p I and then when I walked on set it creative life which by the way is one of the greatest tears you khun eva the stow upon yourself and lynn from I came from and she will remember a state of pure love because I had done the work and I stood up in front of you and I opened my heart and my soul and I said I don't care how I look I don't care if you don't like my work I am here to teach you how to do what I love to do so much and I delivered that from my heart in seoul and you all felt it you embraced me as a community you supported me and you changed my life and head eye not dealt with that I would have experienced something entirely different I know that you understand what you deal within yourself and then you put out you get back to you immediately it is instantaneous and it is glorious and joyous and it will free you from any bullshit fear that you think is holding you back because that's a lie and just an idea that is wrong it's even biologically wrong I'm in a state of fear now a state of fear would be fighting flight you'd be hemming and hawing and then pumped into your body and you would be running for your life or fighting for your life but you would not be sitting here on the couch going I can't do my marketing today would you you threw afraid that's not afraid that's hate that small thinking that empathy that's a negative voice and it's a victim mentality but mostly it's a big competitive ego in every cell in my body believes it because I know it's true so how I got out of that wass the only way to shift a negative mind is an attitude of gratitude right is to think of anything that you could be grateful for the greatest trauma on this if you can be thankful for johan and joe can be thankful the daughter is a life is that not the greatest gift you could have his appearance can you imagine being in an earthquake my dad said the most devastating part of that earthquake was hearing the stories of people trying to run down the hallway to the children in their rooms because it was five in the morning early early in the morning they were running down the hallway to the children who are crying and they could not get to them because they couldn't stand up so is appearance they could hear the children and they couldn't get to them no but at the end of the day you know if you look at their you've lost their business you've lost this but I have my family and I have a whole new set of life in a whole new lease for life that is gratitude fine gratitude and everything any trauma that you have suffered if you've clawed your way through it the stop focusing on the trauma it's done in years it shouldn't have been done and there's a whole other that's not fear involved with trauma but that's life it got done it's done stop reenergizing let it go and gets what now that it's over the say hey I went through a bit of trauma over there got a bit of self hate dealing with that right now but you know the best part is now that I'm through it I'm grateful because I can help anybody around me and I can liberate them through their own and through every person that I free I will feel grateful for the trauma that I suffered because I identify with you and I know where you've been and I know that there's light at the end of the tunnel and you can choose to walk down it and walk out of it and whatever your salvation is like if you have a guard or you want to call it whatever it is for me it's gratitude I have to find a positive spin on everything even you know you can even get a positive spin on the bed dated head you can get a positive spin on the clients that didn't spend money with you could you learn something about yourself in your service and if you honestly is sitting there going that client came to may spend no many treated me like shit and I did nothing wrong well then you're lying to yourself you know say attitude gratitude and it's all about turning that into a positive and then standing up walking over and open the door and that's it tell the voice of self hate to shut up work out what it is identify it immediately so that's that's this's a patton failure everything non action small thinking negative voice self hate victim mentality what am I doing right now I'm in a state of competition why because I like this guy and this other girl likes him and she's younger and prettier than me and it's put me in a full state of ego okay do you need that one guy no there are three billion others walking the years so you know focus on the one that doesn't want you for about a year well the other two billion nine hundred ninety nine thousand nine hundred ninety are walking past you going damn girl you know you don't know that just turned around for one goddamn minute and have a look over your shoulder you know get your head out of your own bonds just for one second and look around you because that's where it is and you can turn that off that voice of self hate is no longer fear you know you can conquer it now so when you stepped forward the self hate goes oh I hate you and you like are really because you live here so you better get over it because we live together and I'm not gonna listen to you anymore in fact I'm not gonna listen to you and to start saying something nice to say something nice to me here's the kicker the ego is clever and self hate is so smart it wants to survive within you so it sees this you're right I've been so hard on you and the truth is is I don't hate you the truth is you're actually really hot and more special than anybody else on this earth and did you know that is still hate it's just disguised is more eager because toe over exaggerate yourself is justice bed is to put yourself down you are over inflating yourself in lying to self feather and that's even better so all watched that ego in itself hate because when you get into that place self hates really clever and then the best one and this is for the girls because I know the boys don't get this so much that little fantasy you got going on in your head that you think about every morning you wake up every night that you go to bid about having a bit of body or having a bit of lover for having you know a bit of relationship or I haven't you know that fantasy that everybody has and you visualize yourself and it's not you and your visualization is the best version of yourself that's hate and your dwelling in that space saying I'm not good enough now because if I was good enough now I would be visualizing myself now in fact no I wouldn't be visualizing myself now I would be having that in my daily life instead of lying in bed thinking I was different wishing us different because it's hate and girls do that so badly it's not even funny we will fantasize ourselves into a fabulous relationship and it's not even happening on and then the best batters will fantasize herself right through a break up and the answer is not on your credit card or in your fridge or in a bottle of wine tried all three none of them work and all three of them will get you at some stage you can't go home cry eat a pound cake you just cry and he let it out and then you stop hating and you get up and you do the one thing that you would do to somebody that you were hating on and you would love them and how do you speak to yourself like that would you speak to your daughter like that what would you look at your daughter and say you're a worthless piece of shit before somebody puts up their hand and says my mother did say that to me I'm going to say I'm sorry that she said that to you because I grew up with the greatest love of a great mother but do you know why my mother was so great because humanity did here computer she said she never throw it to me but I did she didn't teach me differently don't you see she can tell me I'm worth more but she didn't act it yourself so I learned what she lived so my brother maybe to me like shit I did it's how it works you could tell he gets whatever you want if you don't deal with it there just learned from you and then you will look at your daughter one day and you'll see her hating yourself and it will break your heart and then you know it's why you know why because you did it you know why net said that's the sad truth we have a victim mentality that wants to not take responsibility for ourselves because we don't want to wear little kids were emotional we don't want to take responsibility for ourselves our responsibility is about wanting somebody else to make it better mom and dad will make it better you're thirty mama did I'm going to make it better you know mama did I get a fixes my mom's gonna love me the way I wanted her to love me you're sixty she's never gonna love you and the best patterns and she's probably did now so she's never gonna love you now she gone you know do you get it it's site click it's a pet in it's human nature and it is easy easy easy easy easy to overcome because now I don't expect anybody to love me more than myself and if anybody treat me in a way that is not a way of great love and respect it's because I am not getting myself in a way of great love and respect and lately when it does happen to me and it has been happening to me lately I have been looking at myself and I've bean instead of saying instead of saying ew you know how did you get here again and why you experiencing this and blah blah blah I just look at myself and I go oh well that's just another opportunity to love myself and be amazing because I just learned that I wasn't respecting myself because nobody around me wass and that's liberating instead of emotional and no victim and me will ever ever come back because I'm not interested I think I can handle anything my life will throw out may I think about things that could happen losing a family losing a home and a business I think about that and I think about how I would overcome it and I have been so empowered in this last year in understanding that in shifting my own mind that I have come to understand one thing and that one thing that I've come to understand is this nothing the world throws at me now will ever stop me or keep me down it will only help me empower myself and others and for us long as I have somebody that's interested in hearing that I will keep repeating it so we don't dwell on our negative when we don't have a victim anymore on now that we understand that we don't have the negative voice we don't have the self hate we don't have the fear oh no oh guess what we don't have any excuses to be what we want to pay what we really want to say oh I love this what do you want today I don't know I don't know that this one I don't know what you know people they don't read them out you look like a growling dog right now why you're doing it I don't know and they're looking at me in a way that I don't know yeah okay so you know when you dream about being something that you don't tell anybody and you know you know where that is we don't know you know some of you it's all different but everyone knows that they do it you know what you want to be you just don't believe you're with it or you don't believe you can have it or you don't know how to get one of those three things so uh what do you want to pay you have no excuses now I've taken away fear self hate empathy victim mentality and small thinking wow don't worry they'll come back up on the path will be there to trip you up but that's okay you can go I know what you are you're victim mentality I'm so there right now and you know the best way to tell what state you're in you're seeing it another if you're saying ego and others you're in your ego if you're seeing victim and others you're being a victim and if you're attracted to people who bring light then you are doing it so check the people around you and then acknowledge it in yourself fist not then you right now that I played the path out for now you know that part's gonna fill up again I'll tell you how I started to turn it around I found this cool site called wealth dynamics you can choose to do it or not I don't subscribe to them or sponsored by them so I'm not gonna link them well dynamics and it might even be the theory that you subscribe to because there's lots of other systems like this in the world so I'm not saying this is the best one I'm just saying this one worked for me I figured that people were writing books about becoming rich and if that was something you could lin then surely I should read these books because I'm poor so I read these books rich dad poor dad read books rich dad poor did richest man in babylon and then you start the practice but that's kind of not the easy part the practices something that's quite long and it's intense and of course I read richest man and very line and report it and they did liberate me from thought then I read a free pdf cord the science of getting rich by wallace wattles it was written in nineteen nineteen it was actually were the base of the secret the book came from he wrote that in nineteen eighteen and challenged me on every level to create from what he calls form the substance which is energy and I read that book and it changed my world instantaneously instantaneous because it was a language that I identified with but more importantly I realized how I was pushing money away when I read that book uh it's easy to get it's free if you to distribute around the world it's just you can't change anything on it so I could distribute it but in fact I'll ask craig if I can download it on to the site of the block I'll find a way and if not google it the science of getting rich bye wallace what old anyway well dynamics is a wealth website and they've set up a structure of the sort of personality type you are if you will around your career your creator a star a supporter a mechanic a deal maker a lord and based on what you are that's your path to wealth okay so in my business I created an amazing business and when I created it I didn't want to wait here anymore I wanted to keep building businesses but instead I stayed in the business and I started to stuffer so I hired a photographer thinking that that was gonna free me up and it didn't and I was dying and dying and dying and dying and then I wanted to give up photography and the idea wasit wasn't about the photography it was about the path that I was on once I learned that I was a creator I started to create in my business I created other business plans I created marketing plans I created marketing ideas and then I created training manuals and then I said and the mork creating I'm doing the more powerful I am the more week I'm getting the stronger I'm getting the more energy my buddy because I'm thrilled and the more I'm doing accounts and sales and marketing I'm filled with inertia and I don't want to get up in the morning and I'm suffering and dying and then I'm creating I'm creating so I realized I had learned to create my income through that one path as a pastor wealth that's what he talks about and it became so clear to me I'm a creator by nature if I'm not making money from creating then I can't I can't sustain an income or making income because they hate doing everything else and so they really freed me it's one hundred u s dollars to do there get online and do that profile seek and look at your own profile but if you study it I'm sure there's lots of others that might resonate with you but that freed me understanding and really the bottom line for that is that was my strength don't you get it if you follow your path of your greatest strength then your greatest strength will bring you wealth because it's what you love to do and that's what I've been talking to you about if you hate it it will destroy you and yet most of you are doing jobs that you hate we're going to go back to the hate list so wealth dynamics was not about conjuring money it wasn't about sitting on the couch wishing for the ferrari or anything off that kind what it was about I was leading my true path stepping forward into my true path which was being a creative photographer and I'm so sick of hearing photographers say I photograph this but I want to shoot landscapes but you can't make money from that well really maybe you should call peter look you know like come on these people out anything is possible you're the only one that believes it's not so if you've told yourself you can't make an income doing what you love and you have to do what you hate you were slowly dying and you're rotting from the inside and I can smell you from here you know and you are not nourishing your skills your beliefs your powerful your true power and I'm not saying give up photography and become a professional creator I can stay in my photography business I just need to focus on anything in my business that creates I want to create maddening plans I want to create new brands I want to create new studios I want to create new space is I want to create new images I want to create new styles I want to create you you name it I want to create it in anything that takes me away from creation will kill me slowly now there are people out there that are mechanics and their engineers and they deal makers they want to make deals they want to make deals I love making deals these people out there I've got a friend in sydney who's not a creative photography's a family portrait photographer studio does a million dollars a year and family portrait and he just loves getting the numbers for him it's a logistics that's money bums on seats he likes getting the kit for him he's a deal maker his lord that's his strength and that's why he's wealthy because he's follows his strength and if you don't follow your greatest power you'll never ever become successful that freed me immediately then I follow john demartini because I like the spiritual component off my highest values to may the highest values exactly the same thing is your strength your highest values like I said to you today is a thing that you do every day the thing that you do every day is your highest value because you valued enough to do it every day not the thing you make yourself do every day all the thing you wish you did every day so when john demartini asked you to list your five highest values I wrote working out and then I realized that I don't like working out every day I just wish I did so that's not one of my highest values that's one of my highest values I wish I had so I had to cross a few things off the list before I got what my five values were in the five values for the things you do every day once I learned them I would only work in a space that allowed those five things to come to fruition one of them for mei is not educating and doing workshops because I told you I didn't like it but one of them was from a was self mastery so this is not why I am drawn to teach a workshop so I'm going to teach a wakes up so I can teach you what I just told you in the last hour because I have this conversation every day and sometimes I have it with complete strangers and I don't know why now I do because it's one of my highest values because learning and self mastery is one of my greatest gifts and I didn't even know it until I wrote it down because he says one of the conversations you have every day and I'm like I have this repeating conversation every day for the last twenty years with every client I've ever photographed with every woman I've ever met with every friend that I've ever head with every boyfriend I've ever head with my family members I have this conversation with everybody I know therefore one of my highest values wow I didn't even know that if I move towards that and what with that and then stay in the space I'm re energized and you can always tell the difference between something you love to do and something that you hate to do when you finish doing something you love you're fully energized and when finished doing something you hate it sucks the life out of you and you were lying down having an internet or shopping eating a pancake drinking but one so you must walk towards your right path right and that is very very important there is a clear vision and a gold sitting to becoming successful and that is just basic math until you tell me what you want you will not create it until you tell me what you want in value it you will not bring it to fruition and until you tell me what you want and truly value it and honored that you don't believe it and it will never happen so you write a list away you won't obey don't write thinner trust me dying this mortal life right because you find yourself dinner with the same problems and you'll never be thin enough clear vision and gold sitting is about saying we don't want to be in a year I need to be financially free maybe we're twenty grand in the bank and he'd be fine financially free with house paid off with ten million dollars in the bank what do whatever your limit is think big and just say what you want to be set a goal and then actively step towards us and believe it and hold it vision every day and work towards it an attitude of gratitude your life will significantly change magic I showed this I'm sure I did on my first creative level maybe my second I had a very bizarre experience when I walked onto the set of creative life and said oh you see I drew that picture on the left two years before I stepped into that sit there does it freak you out you know what's freak here about their picture is I wrote underneath it a warehouse to educate photographers it was on my vision board what I didn't write wass and you will own it so here's the thing when I when I was on the state of creative life I walked ended the tour loved all the people hacked everyone fell in love with everybody there never wanted to leave didn't and then it occurred to me that everybody went out to dinner and I was too scared to eat so I said on the set and I was in the studio on my own and that is a big place to be on your own and then all of a sudden it was the night before and I'm writing a keynote and I don't want to be on camera in front of you people and I was trembling and I just felt this an unbelievable fear come into my body and I can I do this can I do this can I do this and I just turned around frightened in this big room and I looked at that and I went like this and I looked back and I was like I've seen it before so I go through my computer and I dig out this image from my vision board that I had drawn two years before never seen creative life didn't even know if they had to sit in and I had drawn that picture on the left now there is not a clear vision I can't tell you what isthe and am I different from anybody else know all I knew is that what I wanted what I drew was what I wanted and the crazy patterns I even through the window and the floor you know that is a clear vision and work toward that with gratitude and love and watch it come to fruition it is very very freeing and it's a long journey ahead once you have tasted flight you will forever walk the earth with your eyes turned skyward for there you have bean and there you will always long to return

Class Description


Sue Bryce's 28 Days is the all-in-one portrait photography class that teaches you posing, shooting, marketing, selling, and everything else you need to know to run a successful contemporary portrait photography business. 

This series begins with two sessions of intense instruction on business, pricing, and overcoming your fears. Following the kickoff, Sue delivers short sessions exploring 28 different topics essential to any successful portrait photography studio. Sue covers flow posing, connecting with clients, posing and shooting groups, marketing to your key demographic, sales, and more.

In this comprehensive series you'll learn Sue's inspiring approach to styling, posing, marketing, selling and so much more!

Lessons

1Teaching 2 Photographers in 28 Days
2First 2 Years: The Truth
3Rate Your Business
4Year One in Business
128 Challenges
2Fear
3Price & Value
4Checklist, Challenges, and Next Steps
1Day 1: The Natural Light Studio
1Day 2: Mapping Your Set and Outfits
1Day 3: One Composition - Five Poses
1Day 4: Flow Posing
1Day 5: Posing Couples
1Day 6: Capturing Beautiful Connection & Expression
1Day 7: The Rules - Chin, Shoulders, Hands
1First Weekly Q&A Session
2Day 8: Rules - Hourglass, Body Language, Asymmetry, Connection
1Day 9: Styling & Wardrobe
1Day 10: Shooting Curves
1Day 11: Posing & Shooting - Groups of 2, 3, and 4
1Day 12: Posing & Shooting Families
1Day 13: Products & Price List
1Day 14: Marketing & Shooting the Before & After
1Day 15: Phone Coaching & Scripting
1Second Weekly Q&A Session
2Day 16: Posing Young Teens
1Day 17: Marketing & Shooting - Family First Demographic
1Day 18: The Corporate Headshot
1Day 19: Glamour Shoot on Location & Shooting with Flare
2Photoshop Video: Glamour Shoot on Location & Shooting with Flare
1Day 20: Photoshop - Warping & the Two Minute Rule
1Day 21: Posing Mothers & Daughters
1Third Weekly Q&A Session
2Day 22: Marketing & Shooting - 50 & Fabulous Demographic
1Day 23: Shooting into the Backlight
2Bonus: Shooting into the Backlight
1Day 24: Marketing & Shooting - Girl Power Demographic (18-30s)
2Photoshop Video: Girl Power Demographic (18-30s)
1Day 25: The Beauty Shot
2Bonus: Vintage Backdrop
1Day 26: Marketing & Shooting - Independent Women Demographic
1Day 27: Sales & Production
1Day 28: Posing Men
1Bonus: Pricing
2Introduction
3Photography, Style, Brand, and Price Part 1
4Photography, Style, Brand, and Price Part 2
5Marketing Part 1
6Marketing Part 2
7Money: What's Blocking You?
8Bonus: The Folio Shoot
1Photo Critiques Images 1 through 10
2Photo Critiques Images 11 through 27
3Photo Critiques Images 28 through 45
4Photo Critiques Images 47 through 67
5Photo Critiques Images 68 through 84
6Photo Critiques Images 85 through 105
7Photo Critiques Images 106 through 130
8Photo Critiques Images 131 through 141
9Photo Critiques Images 142 through 167
10Photo Critiques Images 168 through 197
11Photo Critiques Images 198 through 216
1Identify Your Challenges
2Identify Your Strengths
3Getting Started Q&A
4Rate Your Business
5Marketing Vs Pricing
6Facing Fear
7The 28 Day Study Group
8Selling Points
9Interview with Susan Stripling
10Emotional Honesty
1Sue's Evolution
228 Days Review
3Student Pitches
428 Days Testimonial: Mapuana Reed
5How to Pitch: Starting a Conversation
6Your Block: Seeing is What You're Being
7Your Block: Valuing and Receiving
8Building Confidence: Your Own Stories
9Building Confidence: Your Self Worth
10Pitching An Experience
11Pitching An Experience: Your Intentions
12Pitching An Experience: Social Media
13Final Thoughts