Open Yourself to Receiving
Not receiving, the antidote is saying thank you. So what is it, exactly, that you're not receiving? Because as I said earlier, sometimes we have successful businesses, but we're not actually receiving. So we think that we don't have a problem receiving, but if you look at your life, you can see if this worthiness issue is popping up and not allowing you to receive. So, do you have a hard time receiving compliments? Gifts? Kindness from strangers? Do you have a hard having someone help you out with your groceries, even though your kids are melting down and you have the flu? It's okay, I got this. Where in your life do you see yourself having a hard time receiving? Because I remember in high school, this older gentleman came up to me and said, "You have such beautiful eyes." To which I said, "You have a great smile." And he said, "No. "You never return a compliment with a compliment." Obviously, it's disingenuous. But more than that, I completely blocked the flow of giving and receiving.
I interrupted it because I couldn't hold my own self-worth, and in not holding my own self-worth, I blocked him from the joy of giving it. He came up and tried to give me something, and instead of allowing him to have the joy of giving, I took my own self-interest and gave him a disingenuous compliment in return. Now, he has to either receive something that he knows isn't the truth, or walk away feeling like, that didn't really have an even exchange. There was an imbalance there. Nobody got anything from that. He didn't get the joy from giving, and I didn't get the compliment. And when it happens with money, and you block the money, you don't even get the money, which is the very thing that we needed. But more than that, that money that you should've had was money that was gonna go to develop the gifts and talents in you to become the best person so that you can begin to give that to the world. You're blocking the whole chain of giving and receiving with the imbalance. Now, what should've happened, is I should have said, thank you. And no matter what insecurities rise up in me, no matter how I feel, I get to hold that. It's not his responsibility to deal with my issues. I don't get to block his joy of giving because of my insecurities, I have to sit on that. And that means I don't say, thank you, but. Thank you, but my eyes are really red today. Thank you, but it's just because my parents both have blue eyes. Just thank you. No thank you, but. Just, thank you, I sit with my own things, I look at that and say, what am I feeling, I can deal with this, and then I practice gratitude. Because when I can get to the place where I can say thank you, and not have the thank you, but, then I can begin to look and say, wow, even if it's internal, thank you for taking the time to come over here and give something to me. For finding me valuable enough to say something that you didn't have to say. Thank you for being that person to me. Thank you for seeing me. The gratitude is what begins to open you up to that flow of giving and receiving. So, in the workbook. When do you find it hard to receive? Because that's gonna begin to show you if you're blocked down, because the not receiving isn't just about the money. It's about our own self-worth and our own self-esteem. And where are you breaking the flow of an even exchange? Who's trying to give you money, and before they even write the check, you're like, oh you know what, actually, I have a special today. Actually, that's actually 20% off. And write out why you value your product or service. Because we're working on raising the value and seeing, what am I giving? Am I giving just a photo? Am I giving service? Am I giving a piece of myself? Am I giving encouragement? What's the value in what you're giving? Because there's always an even exchange. Giving and receiving is even. One's not better, one's not worse.