Students Share Their Place on the Wheel
Tiffany, I can't even tell you, the comments that are coming through, how much this is resonating with people, whether their watching from their office cubicles (laughs), (audience laughing) or at home, but so many people are saying, I feel like she is talking about me, reading my thoughts and fears.
So, this wheel's incredible, the Wheel of Misfortune. You've talked about, that we don't have to be overwhelmed. A lot of people are still overwhelmed. We would love to, just kind of start the conversation briefly, about how you identify what that number one is. What are sort of the ways to see, no it's that one, it's not that one, and hear from people, therefore, what theirs is; what their number one block on the Wheel of Misfortune is, and we're gonna pass the mic.
Anybody want to--
Yes, right here in the front. Yeah, go for it.
I'm tightfisted. (audience laughs) Yeah.
Speaking my language.
I realized it from a thing yesterday, that happened yesterday, and so I con...
nected it, and I was like, oh my God, I have to go back and look at my account.
Yeah, isn't that amazing?
Yeah, it's scary.
Yeah, but see you get this awareness of seeing what's happening, and then now, you can go out and try and open yourself up to making more money, and not so focused on. I feel ya, I feel ya.
I would love to know how to narrow it down, 'cause I think I have a couple that resonate with me a lot, and almost equally, but I like your idea of picking one, 'cause obviously it's easier to focus on one (laughs).
So a lot of these, as you heard me talk, talk ultimately about the feeling. Is it, you're trying to avoid a feeling? Are you trying to get a feeling? Are you trying to push down a feeling? Because at the end of the day, we're all doing this, cutting off of this 90 second cycle. So we have to look at what is it that I really am avoiding, right, the first slice, because if we can go back to that first one, what's the real thing that you don't want to look at? And, maybe when you go out from this class, you start looking, okay, right now, I'm over giving, and what I'm hoping, is that their gonna see me as a really good friend, which is gonna make me feel important, and once you can identify the feeling, or I'm spending, I'm shopping online again, I mean, I shop online, and I'm tightfisted, I'm not saying that you can't do that, but you know what I mean, you're covering a feeling because it suddenly just happened, if you can get to what it is about the feeling that you're trying to avoid, which is we I started with avoidance, then I think you'll find the crux of the problem, and if it's not a feeling, than it's probably something in guilt and shame, because guilt and shame is that really big barrier, where it's carrying a lot of weight, and because that's such a big one, I do have a class on my site that's upcoming about money guilt, because I feel like this whole spiritual guilt and demystifying that, or maybe giving some other, alternative interpretations, and also along with the bad programming, is going to free a lot of people, because it's like this ceiling that we like keep bumping up against. So between guilt and shame and the feeling, the rest of those pretty much cover that.
I know I'm talking next, but I just like to say that avoidance for me, was, I mean I felt every color of that wheel except for green. I still don't know what green is. (audience laughing) I don't get it. I love how tightfisted she is. She talks about shopping online. She'll research something for three days to get a better deal, but the thing is, in three days, I could have made more money than that.
Yes. (audience laughing) So true, and I also will put it in my shopping cart, and I will wait like so long to buy it, just to make sure that--
And we've also identified--
... I'm not wasting my time. It's terrible.
... there are overarching energies. Guilt and shame is every color. Avoidance is in every color, and resentment is in every color. So, we looked at that many times, over and over again, but we keep coming back to it, being an entire slice of the pie. Avoidance for me was simply, I was avoiding managing my money, and when I did acknowledge the management of my money, when I actually turned all of my attention towards it, I was guilty, not receiving, over giving, I had no boundaries, and I was overspending, and then, I was resentful to every person who I was giving to, because they should have been giving back to me, but to me, the avoidance was the first thing, to turn all of my attention towards it. I mean, I am gonna tell you how I did it with the help of Tiff and Matt, but the truth is, is as I started to see it, the others dropped away. Also, for me, then what happened, was over giving popped up as my biggest one, and so, I had no boundaries, and I'm over giving, so I sit very perfectly in the pink purple. Yes, I have guilt and shame, and I was overspending, and I was resentful, sure, but the second I acknowledged the pink and the purple, the others just drifted back, and then those two came to hit me, and then Tiffany gave me actions to actually stop over giving, and put boundaries around myself. Now, remember, I was overspending, over consuming, over giving, and no boundaries, in all areas of my life, my body, my food, my energy, my time, it wasn't just about my money, I was literally, it was infused into my life, and so this is what has been so profoundly changing for me, is that when I started to change the money, other areas started to change as well.