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Don't Get Pushed Around: An Introvert's Guide to Getting What You Need at Work

Lesson 24 of 26

Boast-free Self Promotion


Don't Get Pushed Around: An Introvert's Guide to Getting What You Need at Work

Lesson 24 of 26

Boast-free Self Promotion


Lesson Info

Boast-free Self Promotion

Now we're gonna talk about both free self-promotion for introverts. So, this is internal self-promotion. This is for people who are working in-house, and who need to still be promoting themselves to other people, both inside and outside the company, because, again, you never know where your career is going, and it's important that people know what you are accomplishing. So, your challenges, though, are, your mother taught you not to brag, raise your hand if your mother taught you not to brag. Okay, maybe, maybe not, arlight. Uh, you don't like talking about yourself, as if self-promotion is talking about yourself, which it's not. And, you don't want to be the center of attention, as if talking about yourself means suddenly everyone is gonna be totally focused on you, which really does not happen. So, what exactly is self-promotion? As I said, it's not bragging, it's not saying, I'm the best this, or I'm the best that, or I'm great at anything. It's really telling those who are in a pos...

ition to help you, what you have done. What you are capable of. And, it really is your responsibility to yourself, if you want to grow, and if you want your career to progress. You must promote yourself, and find your own way of doing it. So, promotion is also, basically, describing your role in a process, that involves other people, that involves a team. So, it's not like you're talking credit for everything, but you're talking about what you did and how you did it, as part of a process. And, to do that, you're going to use facts and verbs, as opposed to adjectives. Because, the facts are more factual, and the verbs are very action-oriented, and the adjectives, is where I think people get tripped up, because that's what great is, and that's what wonderful is, and that has no place in it. Let other people use the adjectives, alright? So, place yourself, also, in the context of your team, so that the spotlight is not on you, it's on the effect of your work, as part of the team, doing what you did. So you're talking about what we did, as opposed to what I did. And, about your role in it. And so, then figure out who needs to know? Because, we're not talking about telling everyone on Earth, or shouting it from the mountaintop, right? Inside the business, it could be your bosses and your superiors, it should certainly, so, your boss's boss, maybe. Uh, outside, it could be your mentors or colleagues, or people in similar roles at different companies, or people in your network, that you know through LinkedIn, there's nice things to be able to talk about and write about, on LinkedIn, because, people there, that is your network. And then, how should you let them know? So, going back to the idea of telling stories, and showing your process. They could be short stories, they could be long stories, depending on the context. And, using this case study format, with problem, solution, results, Alright? It could be as simple as that. Here's what we did, here's what the problem was, here's how we approached it, and here's what happened. It could be as simple as that. Very matter-of-fact.

Class Description

When it comes to getting ahead in the world of work, it seems that those who are bold, confident and willing to speak their minds are the ones who get the choicest projects and the loftiest promotions.

But what if you’re an introvert? What if you hate being the center of attention, get nervous before presentations, and avoid contact with your colleagues and superiors? Are you destined to remain on the lowest rungs of the corporate ladder?

According to Ilise Benun, an author and teacher known as the Marketing Mentor, the answer is an emphatic “No!” Ilise has created a treasure trove of tools and techniques to help the shyest and quietest among us succeed in the workplace. She’ll show you how to embrace your introversion while also learning the skills you need to advance your career and become a leader at work.

In this class, you’ll learn how to:

  • Conquer your shyness and present yourself confidently.
  • Assert yourself when you need to, speak up at meetings and get recognized.
  • Take the credit you deserve for your accomplishments.
  • Communicate your strengths and what you’re capable of to the right people.
  • Identify when you’re feeling shy or fearful and how to handle it.
  • Observe other personality types and adjust your behavior accordingly.
  • Develop your confidence with concrete exercises.
  • Find your personal networking style so you can get what you want.
  • Improve your communication, presentation and meeting skills.



It was interesting to learn from your program what experiences other people have in certain situations and how similar or different they are to mine. And that’s it’s ok to “own” your inner introvert, and to work with it instead of against it. The good thing is, the more self-aware we become, the more aware and sensitive we can be towards others, thanks to shared knowledge and programs like yours. So thank you Ilise, for an enlightening program. I look forward to going back over it sometime.

Laurie Hagedorn

Ilise Benun is so easy to listen to! The information and messages she shares with us are valuable, up to date, and easily understood! I can't wait to hear more from her and will refer her to others who will benefit from her lessons!

Tiffany Butler

Perspective is everything. I left feeling more comfortable with the idea that life, as Ilise puts it, "is an experiment," and I don't have to know everything in order to be good at what I do. I can learn, adapt and modify as I go. The fear of being "found out" is what keeps plenty of us needlessly hiding behind the mask of introversion. Another big takeaway—don't assume you know what others are thinking/doing. I break this rule routinely and assume the worst, which is almost never the reality of the situation. I made it my NY resolution to stop doing that! Thanks, Ilise.