The Vision: Dreamstorming


Money Management for Couples


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The Vision: Dreamstorming

So here's a question why is having vision target vision goals but even think about vision what that means to you why is having vision important to you and I want you to take out your manual this on page one await and I want to right now to write it down why is having a vision important to you? You just told me that it's important to have a target I didn't tell you you just told me that there's all sorts of things going on in life that prevents you or is distracting you from hitting the target I don't tell you that some one o eight why is having a vision important arena having a vision is what use you that image of the the end result the moment when you know that you've achieved that goal that vision is like is that is that imaginary imaginable representation of of a ci of achievement like that on day okay for me it's like my vision of like a specific day, right when I'm in a in an audience of millions of people like online and also an actual live audience wow, you know, thanking people...

for for supporting me and what it is that I've created to give to them awesome and let me ask you this you've had the vision before, right? Oh yeah how often do you focus on that every day, every day great well, she be closer to reaching that if she focuses it focuses on it every day. Yes, great great example anyone else want? Sure why is having a vision important to you, erica? Similarly, it makes the target in the gold rial and it makes it's easier for me to bring positive emotions like excitement to getting that done great. Awesome. So I'm sure you can relate at home, definitely chat and let us know how you're feeling, what you took away from this and why having a vision is important to you there that the manual that robin is referring tio for the past two days and also for today is the mouthwatering money manual. You can print it out on waterproof paper if you want, but this is actually where you can write your vision and you can follow along with the exercise. This is one of the bonuses that comes with upgrade to any time access so just wanna let you know what manual that is? Thank you. Remember helen keller what was what was helen keller's deal she's blind and she was deaf who is blind and she was deaf helen keller she was blind and she was deaf and she said the on ly thing worse then being blind is having site but no vision say that again the on ly thing worse than being blind is having site but no vision hmm something I think about so I'll tell you a little story about my vision about five or so years ago I created a vision board. It was oh yeah two thousand eight so almost six, six years ago, I guess it was I did the math, I did the math six years, so six years ago to create this vision borden I used to think vision boards were totally hokey, like I just I wasn't really into it. I don't know, I just never really did it. I thought about my goals and that sometimes write them down, but I didn't really do a vision board, and this time I was I was doing some personal growth that was like, really expanding my views and opening my mind. And so I did a hokey this more and on that vision board it was, you know, big board. This was just a little little piece that's why blurry is a little little piece on that board, but I had a section of like all the things I wanted around my relationship and if you remember from all my stories I had been single for ten years, so in two thousand eight I still had not met my husband, so in the side, this vision board there's a picture, this is what I put up there I could have chosen anything. I had the world wide web at my fingertips to choose any picture, and this is what I chose, I think about it much sunday don't have family someday guess what I got what I had on the board, what I kept focusing on what I looked at every single day, whether consciously or partly unconsciously, just walking by seeing it right was this and I got this. How cool is that? Is not interesting now, I didn't even realize this until years later. I mean, this is after we got married, and I mean, I think a year, two and by, and trevor just remembered, he remembered because I still had it up when we started dating, I still had it up we we met in two thousand nine, I believe, yeah, we went met in two thousand nine I still have up ahead of it for the year, right? And he was like, I remember that picture, no wonder you got a daughter with the package and for those of you just turning in, that is my stepdaughter, who I've known since she was two that's our wedding shoes for their now she's seven and I got what I wanted I didn't even know it, so be careful what you wish for and dare to dream time, dream so we're going to do it this is what we're going to do today you're going to get to do because I don't want you just to talk about it and you're probably thinking, well, I've done this before I've done goal setting, but I want you to dream store now you've heard brainstorm right? Well, I mean this dream storm because it's dare to dream time I'd like to get your feedback let's just do it now whatever comes to you, I'm going to show you how to use this it's on page one o nine and this, by the way, is what I do with my private clients. This is what? Remember I told you one of my clients flew me out toe florida and we we it took three days do all this stuff the first day like half of the day is spent just on goals figuring out what do you want? Because you're doing all these things every day taking action you are taking action but it's not necessarily appropriate action and why is it not necessarily appropriate action will maybe because you're not aware or maybe because you don't know what you want. So the first one of the first things I do with my clients I gets get clear about what you want so here's how I do it it's on page one o nine looks like this and you just ask yourself the question, if there were no limitations, I'll ask you if there were no limitations, what would you like? We'll start with this chunk from in the next one to five years. So what I like to do so I like to put name let's just say joe and let's say, joe is forty one now, so we're gonna do a little math forty one to forty six and his wife is jane and she is I don't know forty to forty five doesn't matter why do I put those ages there? Why would I do that? Doesn't seem very important move on, right? But it is important why anyone? Because that's that five year period that's a five year period but it's hard to imagine what life is in five years, but when you think ok, now I'm forty five you know, when you think of your age for some reason or you think of your daughter's age so I think five years, another way to do it I'm like, hey, my daughter she's gonna be twelve do that right? Right. So sometimes I look at my daughter will be twelve, so she'll be in junior high, right, okay, so it just helps to get you in the mind set, so for you guys pretend you're it doesn't matter who I'm just showing you how to do it what you want to do first one partner does their own the other partner does his or her own ok do your own first and then you come together and we're going to show you how to do that but first I want you to dare to dream without any limitations without any possible influence of the other person I remember someone said online yesterday well it depends what my what my money type is depending on whether or not I'm with my spouse or like how my shopping pattern is different depending on whether or not I'm with my partner right? So right now I don't want anything to influence you I want you to think about what you want so what comes to mind michelle what do you want in the next one to five years if there were no limitations just give me one thing what would you like in one to five years? I want to making three hundred thousand dollars a year and I want to triple it every other year. Okay, but in what year so one to five years three hundred that what's that's fine let's just do that through three hundred thousand a year and within the five years you want triple it I want e wanted triple it every other year every other year okay triple times three every other year great that's all we do we're just brains so I mean not brain sorry this is not brain star dream stormy doesn't sound cool ok reena thank you. Well, I was just looking at, you know, under the buy a house thing I was thinking about buying a house but more of a, uh like a retreat center by a retreat center. Great. Okay, and think that it won't I would want five years what's that in the next one to five years. Yeah, and start a family start way what that's? Why I'm laughing is are there ok? So I've years okay, hold on, hold on. So some people listening home have no idea why we're laughing or anything. So let me clue you in here if you haven't been around or you don't remember arena said that basically hell on earth for her like the worst thing that made her cry should go back and see this it's good tears, good tears hurt really cry streaming down her face was the idea of being a stay at home mom with four children am I right? But she wants a kid started family. I'm assuming that means we'll have a kid right like having a kid before I'm forty because by the time in five years from now I will be forty ok, so so start a family I'm just I think that's interesting just because it seems very conflicting and it doesn't maybe just some idea four kids was crazy and one kid isn't so I don't know your rules one kids ok so it's cool so it's really, really good to recognize because like how on earth for you was four children so one is cool all right started family great erica spend at least three months abroad each year okay, great three months abroad each year okay, let me ask you this because people at home are thinking this and they're like I'd get it I've done this before have you done this before? Something like this awesome. Have you yes have you know have you now ok, cool some some of you have done this before something like this and some of you have not should you go get on your phone and get on your ipad and and go do something else no, stay with me here. Okay? There's good stuff I want to stay with me all right? A few more things that we're just we're just dreams storming anything you want arvid I have business I'm tory start up and running you want it up and running okay is up and running okay? Anything else just china's thing just a couple more things so we can just add add to the list but you get it right you're gonna add to this because you're not going to all here but I want you to capture something so give me a few more right down a few more right now all of you and throw shout things out so we'll have some material for a minute tesla go good house with the yard in a garden in the city you've got my head's violet partisan mark heads buyout marm of heads by my by my company mark sorry business via okay, so sell your business you mean cool keep gone travel around the world with my television show travel around world tv great. What else? One more cookbook, right? One or use one way using a cookbook in the next five years please. Okay, write a cookbook. That means right. Okay, great. Okay, so don't worry if you can't read this, these are not your goals. These are just examples. Write down what you want and the next one to five years can you see how this whole process could take hours? They could take an hour to pull all of it out of you. What you really, really want? Now you do this on your own. You can do it with your partner at the same time like you both sit there and write down, but you want to kind of keep it just just so you're really clear about what you want first there'll be plenty of time to get a line with your partner that's later today it's going to be seductive it's called the seductive art of aligning with your partner that's why it's going to be seductive and because I'm a nut case okay great it's so we're going to do then so you do the one to five years and then we want to do the six to ten years and you do your age again so joe was forty six now he's forty seven tio um how old it is started forty one right fifty once you get the picture right down the ages so you can think about your life at forty five or fifty one or sixty two this is what I want to be doing it just helps. Okay, now I want to give you some fun fax to demonstrate how quickly time passes isn't it true that it feels like time goes by like that so ten years from now imagine ten years from now but for a second I just want to think about this ten years ago a company called the facebook was registered on february fourth, two thousand four they used to be called the facebook myspace was only one year old and I watch friends it's a love friends I swear it was yesterday that I was watching new episodes it's been ten years, ten years since a new episode aired bridget jones you ever seen this? The bridget jones diary hasn't been one there hasn't been one in ten years that give you some perspective something to think about ok, so what do you want? What do you want in the next six to ten years if there were no limitations, what would you like in six to ten years? Shouted out to healthy kit joe to healthy kids. Great, I like to say helping to michelle I have a cookie show cooking show you guys can go in business together here you have a show you make the cookbook like we're finding synergy okay cooking show chatted out master's degree master's great rina move my show from traveling so much into my retreat center we were showing to the retreat center and three of you who said even air case have you done this and you said you've never done this never done this type of goal setting you know, I actually I actually have been goal setting like this but never like written down like on a vision board I've done it ok cool but not like writing it down is in, you know cool, so you're going to see how powerful it could be so you could do both by the way great to have vision I mean, it worked for me on and read the words I will have a stepdaughter and two years but I did ok cool so this is what you do and now I want you to do this at home right now write things down and remember on the money mastery math general it says revisit revised recommit write that down revisit, revise re commit today I'm going to go over what you do daily to remind you what you do weekly what you do monthly what you do corley what you do yearly and some of these things you're going to need to revisit, revise and recommit especially quarterly and yearly because things change you change and even if you've done this before I would guess that maybe you didn't look at it every day didn't always see the target maybe got further away maybe you were spinning around eleven to twenty years give you some facts ex forrest gump came out twenty years ago you got old lion king came out twenty years ago I was like are you serious? My husband gave me the stick kurt cobain committed suicide remember that? Well computer game companies who released games like donkey kong they used to release b h s trailers they send these vhs tapes trailers to try to promote the new games twenty years ago has a lot changed in the last twenty years in nineteen ninety four listen to this. Listen to this in nineteen ninety four there were sixty seven mobile phones for every thousand people sixty seven cell phones per one thousand today it's probably more than one no one a lot of people have two cell phones and if you add the ipad and this and that there are more cell phones than people on this earth just last it's only been twenty years right in nineteen ninety four michael jackson married lisa marie presley michael jordan one to play basketball and here's a fun one for are you all you young ends at home justin bieber was born okay that's fun stuff so right down if there were no limitations, what would you like an eleven, twenty years write it down captured get shot him out here eleven to twenty retired was abundant bank account no financial stress retire state again abundant have been in a bank account and no financial stress, abundant bank accounts, no financial stress great what else now those of you again listening at home it's kind of nice to hear some people shall things out because maybe it's like, oh yeah, that reminds me like I want something like that, but you don't need it right? I'm just giving examples. So you know how the process works? Because I don't want you to just sit here and then just like, go do it on your own and then you're like, how do I do that again like it seems really simple it is really simple but you just need to like take the time sit down write it down I'm going to show you how to bring out together with your partner okay what else? Eleven to twenty years let's imagine we have grandchildren although I don't have children of my own grandchildren magically hey work for may not that I have a grandchild but I have a daughter but I didn't okay you got it so what else? A couple more really hard time who interesting so what's coming up for you this is great so tell me what's coming up for you I'm not even aware of what's coming up for me and usually I'm pretty good about tapping in to like being aware of what blocks they might have or what it is um but I don't have a very good answer is tok let's do this let's do this because you might get stuck those you home you might get stuck and so that's okay and it's okay if you don't do perfectly you revisit your advisory committee but let's just see if I can get something out and this is what I'm going to do so one to five give me two things that you said so um one new thing is I'd like to buy a house for my parents that's in one to five well, I guess that maybe more that's what I think it's a tent that's so spend at least three months abroad three month run okay, what else he said kid right well one kid one kid ok anything else we got there? Um a house of the yard in a garden all right house with garden guarded now check this out okay if this were to happen and assuming it does happen does you know nlp doing that on purpose assuming that this does happen and here you are now one year to five years from now here you are traveling abroad three months out of the year you have a child. How old is that child let's just given by the end of the five years to two you have a two year old you live in a house with a yard and garden now that you have this what would you like in six to ten years? Okay, I would like to buy my parents a house. Yeah, what else? Too healthy kids and so you got one let's just due to that till the end of just to make it easy. So two so two years old I said at the end of five years right? So five more years seven so one of them seven and the other kid is five five so actually that means okay well, you had it right at the end that's well ok, it doesn't matter I'm just trying to get youto vision so you bought a house for your parents you have two healthy kids one seven one five anything well, what I'd like to do is put like a business goal in but because sort of like I'm just in the very infancy of all men I think that's where I'm having a really hard time because it's easier for me to do some of these okay let me ask you a different question here's another way that we look at it if you could wave a magic wand in the next one to five years what would you like with your business? I'd like to have a wait list of clients great wait list of clients great in six to ten years if you can wave a magic wand assuming that you have a wait list of clients what would you like in your business? Um like a on online program but actually I feel like I could do that and one to five ok, what else and then this is so you have a wait list of clients of an online program six to ten years you have a better online program, right? Ok like that yeah, what else? What about like let's say you have an online program? Are you making passive income from it? Yeah. How much income? Six, ten years how much extra income from your online program are you making a million dollars million dollars suite so a second ago you didn't know how to answer that and now you d'oh eleven to twenty plus assuming you have a wait list of clients in online program you now have a better online program and you've had it for a while and it's growing and you're making a million a year passively from your online program what's happening in eleven to twenty years with your business this is where like my limiting beliefs come in on him and I just I resist I buried out there because the a legal million a year at that sort of takes me to my comfort like taking me to the edge of my comfort zone and then like to go beyond that I feel I'm aware that I have some like resisting in some inner critic that sounds like well that would never happen that's ok yeah that's ok you can and I by the way I've experienced the exact same thing so my husband I'm going to use this example later but it'll come up again so my husband he's he things really really big and we're sitting down we've done this several several times with this all the time and he and he had said he wants to make an extra million dollars in our businesses like together you know so we were kind of joining this and like if it freaked me out like I was just like a million dollars a year like I cannot even fathom that and he was talking in the one to five year period and for me, like I see like, how I already on the how how is that gonna happen? And he doesn't think about the how he's just in dreams storm he's just dreaming and I'm thinking about how that's going to happen that I don't think it's realistic and there's a fear I don't even know what it is but there's a fear inside me that doesn't want to put it down on paper and I'll tell you actually do know what it is, what is that fear? See if you know what one of this is that the fear of it actually happening, okay, so one on one option is it the earth it's your fear of success and then there's failure and then the other is failure most likely it's actually failure, but it could be either I'm afraid of both I'm totally afraid of both I'm afraid that if I say listen, I mean we're talking money my mean money, it doesn't I mean anything, it means everything and nothing right we've already discovered that money values what's important about money to you, it's never about money, but this is the money course when you're talking about but it's never about money even a million a year why we want to make over a million millions per year because we know that when we were making millions for year we're helping more people we can contribute more, we can give back more the only way we're going to make millions per year is if we're helping more people really I have people paying us for our value so that's really just a byproduct of us helping more people but what I realized well if if I write down let's say million's per year I write that down and then I don't get it in the one to five years I feel like a failure I wrote it down there's proof and I'm like it feels bad to me my husband he doesn't care he would sit down doesn't matter if he makes it or not he gets closer to the target so now he's closer and it's easier to hit it so he gets closer and easier to hit it and it's easier to hit because they keep getting closer you make your milestone to make progress and progress equals remember that way you got it you got six critical successes I'm also afraid of success but here's the thing like what happens if people are counting on me relying on me? All of you at home are relying on me to help you change your life that's not pressure but here's the point, I'm bringing this up because it's, so intertwined with everything we've talked about your belief systems and that's going to come up, and so you're going to be writing, and you're going to want to stop, and they're like, this isn't comfortable and most people when they're not comfortable, like if you're sitting in the sea, if you have ever meditated, and you're not allowed to move it in a ten day retreat on the meditate for for ten hours a day for ten days, you are uncomfortable, you're like, I just want to move my foot, but if you don't move, if you just sit in it, eventually that pain goes away and sometimes it doesn't sometimes feeling will go away, so not feeling well, go and your leg, okay, so all this stuff is coming up, but what I want to bring you back to is right now, you're just dream storming. So even if it's uncomfortable, because even though sitting there is uncomfortable, it helps me grow. I want you to be uncomfortable because everything you want, you've seen this before. This's your comfort zone, everything that you want that you do not have. Where is it, outside your comfort zone e one thing you have eventually got some of our chatters sharing a they're getting into that vision space. I don't know if it's comfortable or not, but in face says that they're eleven to twenty year plan is to travel the world. Five years would be teo, be in a new home back east six to ten years is to open the business and then travel the world. So moving back east, opening the business, traveling the world and then making that the long term plan is, is that in the right direction? Robyn perfect, yeah, it's in the right direction if you feel like it's what you want and if you if you like, you feel uncomfortable, but you still kind of wanted just write it down even if you're scared, you're not going to get there. So in the next eleven to twenty years, what would you like? He could wave a magic wand. I created an online program for family nutrition online family nutrition program, by the way, it doesn't have to have anything to do with money. If you help enough people that money will come sometimes you want to focus on that money because money that might be like one of those goals is a number it's it's, a it's, a measurable target, but this doesn't have to have anything to do with money. The most likely everything you're gonna want is going to either cost you money, time or energy, ok, anything else you can think of? Does it feel easier now that you have a couple things to ask yourself, um, and then I guess, like there, as I'm struggling through this, I'd like to have two kids who have positive goal and, like, money, beliefs. Ok, let me ask you a great question. Positive goals. Money believes this is great that's, so great now, what's. The easiest way to give your children positive goals and my example, example, that's money parenting. By the way you do it, then they're going to do it. It's not guarantee, but it's very, very likely.

Class Description

Strong financial management skills are a must-have for a thriving, healthy relationship — but conversations about money can trigger feelings of guilt and anxiety. Simple financial discussions don't have to turn into emotional minefields. Join Robyn Crane and CreativeLive to learn the skills you need to manage your money as a couple, without letting your finances get in the way of your relationship.

This course will teach you everything you and your partner need to know to manage your finances effectively – without stress, guilt, or conflict. You’ll learn concrete tools for communicating about finances openly and honestly. You’ll also build strategies for recognizing and correcting flawed beliefs about financial management. You’ll explore why money issues are among the most common reasons for break-ups and divorce, and learn how to safeguard your relationship against the friction financial disagreements can cause. You’ll also create a concrete, easy-to-implement system that allows you to achieve financial health by playing to your and your partner’s strengths.

You’ll leave this course with strong personal finance skills and an understanding of how to collaborate with your partner to work toward a thriving financial future.